One night stand in foreign country and can't get him off my mind!

[Annabellerina]

I randomly and impulsively went on a date on the last night of my holiday. The date lasted from 8pm to 8am, talking and drinking by the sea, watching the sunrise and then some amazingly hot sex. We both said we felt a strong connection and that it was a shame I was leaving the next day. I had so much fun and felt like I was 20 again! We swapped numbers and have text a couple of times since.

Is this best left as a lovely memory or worth pursuing in any way? Was the connection stronger because we knew it was a one off? I feel like I know that was the reason it was so great but at the same time can't stop daydreaming about him and would love to invite him to come and stay!

Dick chasing can be your new hobby OP . Go for it!

@theclitterati excellent idea! I've been needing a new hobby!

You're romanticising about a random guy who used you for some casual sex. I think you should be more worried about what he could have left you with. Some STDs still spread without a condom and if he's happy to sleep with a random woman he knows he'll almost certainly never see again you're certainly not the first he's doing this with

Wow. Nice dose of both misandry and misogyny wrapped up in bitterness and shaming.

@sammylady37 I know...!

Now we just have to check that she's of age and won't fleece his wallet :)

@Annabellerina

So I responded to his small talk and he immediately asked if I would visit him!

I hope you’re going!

I'm in 2 minds tbh. Now that I'm back in my normal life with kids and work and responsibilities, I'm not sure I have the time or energy to be gallivanting to foreign lands for second dates!!

How's the chatting going? I know you're not into that, have you talked much? At all? Could you compromise and meet somewhere halfway to each of you? It could be an experience for both of you. The night and the conversation sound lovely actually.

Why isn't he flying to you? I wouldn't be the first one to fly over op.

I think you could see him again.

Now that I'm back in my normal life with kids and work and responsibilities, I'm not sure I have the time or energy to be gallivanting to foreign lands for second dates!!

Could you try and get him to be the one that does the travel?

I don't necessarily think it'll become a relationship, as you say there hasn't been much conversation since, but you could enjoy a bit of being locked up by the D for the night.

locked up by the D I'm loving these dick related phrases!

I had a relationship for three years with someone I met in a holiday country. My only piece of advice is let him do the chasing. I chased around too much. But I was super young and didnt see it as a red flag. Okay you visit him once but then it is on him!

I’d say go for it but be cautious. But why is it he’s asking you to visit him? That makes it easy and no bother for him but money and lots of organisation for you!

Go for it! Who cares if he’s suggesting you come to him, one of you will need to be the one to travel so why is it fine for him to do it but not the OP in some posters eyes? Agree he probably doesn’t want to sound rude inviting himself. Have fun OP

Get him to visit you if you really must.
It's up to you and if you do fancy meeting up with him again, why not? But don't romanticize it into being anything more. If you were to get together one of you would have to uproot themselves and would you be prepared to do this? You have children, a home and a job. Alternatively, he could move to be where you are but that means him giving up everything and the pressure is then great.
I know there are several people on here saying they have done it and it's been a success but you have to decide for yourself.

It sounds like I'm thinking too far into the future for something which you might be just seeing as a fling but it is worth thinking about.
I couldn't be bothered with it all to be honest and couldn't be bothered flying somewhere for a repeat shag with someone who might be a deadly bore in the cold light of day.

If you have kids then probably not the best idea to get involved with someone from another country unless you really like a complicated life.

That's how I met my husband

Go for it OP!

14 Years ago I had a Holiday Romance in Bulgeria with a Guy from London, I am in the North West.
We messaged once back home and I never really expected to see him again, However he came to visit and used to come over every other weekend, once or twice I went to him.
I ended things because I wanted more than a fortnightly relationship,Though he did talk of moving to be closer to me in the future.
We are still friends on FB, but are both in relationships.( me Long term with a child)
I say go for it, you never know what the future can hold, and never will if you don't try!

Best left as a pleasant memory, it would be easier to find a more local man.

I think he should come to the UK to visit not the other way around, though i think it should perhaps best left as a pleasant memory.

The early comment about British men seemed spot on (even though I am one!)

I'd go, but expect it to be a two off, rather than a one off!! And I'd not tell my ex husband!

My mum married her "holiday romance", they've been together 20 years. You've got nothing to lose.

You have children. I think it’s incredibly dangerous leaving the country to meet a stranger.

I would research his background as much as possible.

Reverse image search, social media, linkedin etc.

Know who you are dealing with. I have dealt with a fair few romance scams and fraud (through work). You would be amazed at how convincing people can be.

If it all checks out then go for it.

Jump on a plane and then jump on that dick