[quote Dyrne]@MitziK you’re clearly projecting your wildly different situation onto this thread. This is completely different - this is a man who just wants a moan but makes zero effort to try medication or see a medical professional; and whose symptoms magically disappear when they want to do something fun (note - not that they’re pushing through symptoms in order to try and lead a normal life)[/quote]
What's different about it?
I had headaches, neck pain, dizziness, foot pain, knee pain, stomach issues, back pain...any particular issue could happen randomly at any time, but there was always at least one thing hurting or 'wrong', every single day. My then partner said it was made up for attention. I was also in my mid-twenties. I didn't/wouldn't take psychoactive medication (because I wasn't depressed and I'd already had horrendous side effects from a short course of the bastard things prescribed previously) and red wine with somebody who wasn't informing me just how pathetic and whining I was would provide a happy escape from the pain and constant disbelief/contempt, so I'd drag myself out - after work or after making sure the housework was done, so I didn't get more abuse for 'gallivanting about'. I'd also go out with him at the weekend, as the change of scenery and supportive car seat was something that actually made me feel happier, especially as it reduced the amount of walking, standing or carrying I'd have to do otherwise. So yeah, I could still manage to do anything fun as long as it wasn't particularly physical.
The only real difference is that it was fifteen years ago and since then, I've received an accurate diagnosis and appropriate treatment, whereas the OP's partner is probably still at the point of 'nobody's going to believe me if I go to the doctor and say I don't feel right and I hurt almost all the time - after all, not even the missus believes me'.