Think my dp has munchausen can’t take it anymore!

[Ginger89]

At first I thought he was a hyperchondriac but he doesn’t have anxiety or worry over illness he just complains atleast 5 times a day minimum of some ailment. Been together nearly 4 years and it’s got to the point that the thought of spending the rest of my life with him depresses me. I don’t know what to do anymore has anyone ever expierienced this? I know there is worse problems in the world right now but it’s so unbearable sometimes I stay out all day or try and stay over at friends houses because I can’t be arsed coming home to listen to how sick he feels or watch him lie there with a hot water bottle but then if his friends ring him he will spring right up to the pub! Not that bloody sick. It’s not just me either his friends know him to complain constantly of a headache, stomach pains just fucking anything really.

@Alongcameacat

I announce them to my partner and my parents because it makes me feel safe if anything happened to me, like they'd know to tell the health professionals if something bad happened to me if that makes sense

If my sibling tells me all her complaints for the same reason as this ^^ I can categorically say I wouldn’t be able to tell the hosp/ambulance/GP anything because everything she says goes in one ear and straight out the other. I listen to her monologue every time I pick up the phone and it is endless. It all sounds like drivel at this stage. If a doctor asked me, what was wrong with her, I would not be able to answer.

I agree with you, my parents wouldn't be able to pin point what was wrong either. In fact neither would I! It's something to work on but on my worst days it's nice to share how I feel with people I trust and get some reassurance off them if they don't mind, rather than ringing a doctor etc and wasting their time

*charlaz& 'everyone' was just a figure of speech. I apologise. Your partner and your parents.
Also we had no idea you didnt mean every day. Your post was in response to the OP's situation which was every day.

Writing down your aches is actually a great idea. If you look back at the notebook, it will show you a pattern, what turned out to need meds, and could be really reassuring in time.

To be honest rather than unkind, as someone who has listened to other people’s imaginary health issues all my life, don’t want to listen to it, any of it.
That is what doctors are for.

charlaz, you recognize your problem, you know why you do it, its not all day every day, & you are trying to help yourself
This is Not the case for OPs hypochondriac.
Should he had the same problem as you, he should acknowledge, & attempt to resolve the issue

Just one observation OP. You say he had ADHD as a child? You don't grow out of ADHD. I know more than 1 adult with ADHD who is always complaining about feeling ill. It's either physical or debilitating depression that requires a lot of hands on support.

I'm not saying all adults living with ADHD are like this but I've seen it in more than one person and that coupled with it being validated and re-enforced by his mother it's unlikely he'll ever grow out of it.

You have a choice to make really. Either find a way to manage it or leave him.

How has the symptom tracking been going OP?

No advice I am afraid. My husband of 10 years has HA and complains constantly about aches and pains and we go through months and months, years and years of constantly thinking he has something terminal. Its draining 😢

OP,
Focus on yourself and why you have stayed with him.
Mind numbingly dull.
Get out while you can.

How is it going OP? Are you tracking his ailments?