Domestic Abuse - Why Do Women Put Up With It?

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I don't usually read the Mirror, this story of a mother of 8, has really made me upset.

www.mirror.co.uk/news/real-life-stories/mum-eight-beaten-death-paving-22504713?utm_source=mirror_newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_content=EM_Mirror_Nletter_DailyNews_News_smallteaser_Image_Story&utm_campaign=daily_newsletter&ccid=397482

The mere act of a man coming onto a thread on domestic violence to say "but woe is me, what about men like me who get badly treated by the courts?" is a pretty good indicator that that man has, shall we say, a certain somewhat aggressive attitude to women's boundaries.

100% this.

@DianasLasso

Oh no, he was actually pointing out that he won custody because she reported him too often. Yet another man up thread was blaming women for not reporting enough.

Mens views on violence against women

Some men have these behaviours; they need to speak to you, they need to text you, they need to meet you, need to use your toilet or anything.

All of this is largely because they can’t stand not make an impression of some kind. If they can’t do that, or upset their ex or the kids by proxy, then they get worse.

This behaviour does vary, but it’s on a scale. It’s however self centred and may actually be harassment. Harassment isn’t necessarily domestic abuse or violence legally. But it can be a crime if you tell someone to leave you alone and they don’t.

They need to cross a boundary you have however small it’s a win for them.

Yes. It’s an easy way to feel as if you matter, you can’t be ignored.

Abusive men are always looking for partners because they need this. If you realise that they need it, you also know why you can never go back without accepting that you are going to be chopped away like this.

On other hand - ignoring someone is very powerful. Women dealing with abusive men should make it their first and last principle.