Failed sex this morning - who was right

[madderose]

Name changed for this cos embarrassing. We are staying at our in laws. Our DC aged 7 and 10 were staying in a room across the landing, and pil's room is over landing too. Stairs are right next to our room. Large Victorian farmhouse with very thick walls so not much chance of being overheard. Dc usually get up v early as in 6am and entertain themselves until we come down and sort breakfast.

Dh initiated sex at about 7am. I was happy to have sex but I feel like we have an unspoken understanding that in circumstances like these it is a quicky, for obvious reasons. But this morning for some reason dh seemed to be taking him time. I was Conscious that dcs could be close to wanting breakfast, and we really needed to get Up and just wanted him to finish so we could get on with the day. He picked up on the fact that I am frustrated with him and it ends unsatisfactorily for both of us. This NEVER usually happens.

WIBU? Surely the only acceptable sex to have in the morning when you are staying in someone else's house is a really quick quicky? That's what we usually do. I've no idea why he was taking so long, but he says it was Off putting that I was clearly impatient.

What's the problem with having sex in someone else's house? As long as it's not on the living room floor when the rest of the residents are trying to watch Strictly, I don't see the issue.

I can see both of your points of view. I would just move on tbh

What's the problem with having sex in someone else's house? As long as it's not on the living room floor when the rest of the residents are trying to watch Strictly, I don't see the issue.

I think it may be linked to a concern about the sheets. But presumably they'd be going in the washing machine anyway so I say, fill your boots.

Seriously you should not have sex if it it is not a Saturday niyin your own bed and it’s the 2nd weekend...for those people who have issues with bedsheets you have issues! I bundle them up an And stick in Machine.if I did notice anything I’d wouldn’t care or say anything ... it’s life. That said on another person’s house, not sure my Headspace would be ok so it’s fine to enjoy the moment as you will.. I’d say the speed w as implied... cant hang around if kids are calling!

I hope you used a condom.
Either wise it’s grim to make someone else wash your sex sheets.

Another one who wouldn't have sex in someone else's house when people are awake and there's a chance of being interupted.

Probably wouldn't have sex in someone else's bed fullstop - why not just wait?

Probably wouldn't have sex in someone else's bed fullstop - why not just wait?

Why should you wait? And what if you're staying for 2 weeks?

Sex when staying in someone elses house - quickie or not - is just No!

Understandable in the circumstances. I wouldn't have thought it was anything to be concerned about.

I wouldnt give it further thought. You werent unreasonable for feeling uncomfortable and he wasnt unreasonable for being put off by your clear discomfort. These things happen, just laugh it off and have more fun next time x

I absolutely hate this. One of my sil and her dh always have sex when they stay here. They think they're quiet but they aren't, one morning I actually had to load the dishwasher loudly to sound out their grunts!! She actually commented on how noisy our house was in the mornings. I hate washing other people's sheets that have sexual bodily fluids on.

@Skyliner001

🤢TMI

Are you 11?

Honestly, why click on a thread with a clear title if you can't cope with hearing some very ordinary comments about sex. It's hardly OTT graphic FGS.

Why are so many people against having sex in someone else's house? We stayed at my parents' multiple times and had sex in their house. So long as you are discreet and obviously don't make mess (use a condom for example) it's fine really.

@ThePlantsitter

'it was off-putting and I was clearly impatient'.

You didn't want his penis inside you any more. If he realised this, instead of whining about being frustrated and you not meeting his needs, he should have stopped! I'm not naive - of course plenty of generosity like this happens in marriages when one person's attention wavers or whatever - but really he should be apologising for continuing even though by his own admission he knew you weren't into it any more!!

Wtf? Are you implying that because OP got impatient about orgasming and getting breakfast that her husband raped her? Because that's how this bullshit reads.

Eh, why didn't you communicate about this? Talking is a thing you know.

For example DP initiated this morning and I had a call in about an hour's time. I asked for a quickie (in a much sexier way lol), reminded him of my call, and we'll prob go for longer tonight.

Just talk. No one is right or wrong.

Nah wouldn’t have sex in someone else’s bed

We have been together for 20 years, married for 13 and have always had sex when staying here. It's a v large 6 bedroom Victorian farmhouse with walls 2 feet thick. I will strip all beds including those used by dcs and stick them in washer before we
Leave.

You should have used some sure fire moves/whispers/words/etc to hurry him up rather than looking at your watch (jk).

I hope you used a condom.
Either wise it’s grim to make someone else wash your sex sheets.

Seriously? Would that no eliminate having sex in hotels, motels, B&Bs... or do 'those' people who clean up after you not count?

FFS.

As long as you're quiet and not dumping your kids on others to look after, people have sex in beds. Stripping the bed at the end of your stay isn't hard.

What’s the problem with sex in other people’s bedrooms? They are doing PIV. It’s not like her husband is spunking up the curtains.

@strawberrymilkshakemonkey

i think it seems like a miscommunication op. i wouldn't worry too much about it - being in someone else's house in an unusaual surrundings/bed can make you feel on edge, or not as relaxed.

i dont understnad all the posters saying you shoudn't have sex at someone else's house? that is literally what beds are for? why wouldn't you?

Because it's disgusting and disrespectful?

What’s the problem with sex in other people’s bedrooms? They are doing PIV. It’s not like her husband is spunking up the curtains

Or her uni assignments.

Aaaah, memories...

Yes. We often go on holiday with extended family in a self Catering house. Would people not have sex in that situation??!!

Because it's disgusting and disrespectful?

HOW???