[quote sugarlost]@jamaisjedors I cant believe how powerful a simple text can be and the person we are waiting on probably has no idea about the power they hold over us....Sending positive vibes your way.
You may want more than sex...I think it depends on how much you like the person and what stage you’re in life if that makes sense.
@CleverCatty I hope your Date on Friday goes well. I get excited when it’s a Friday or Saturday date ;). 10 years younger and keen too...sounds good!
Chatting too long hasn’t ended well for me..also I get bored and want to just meet. If you leave it too long you don’t know if you may get disappointed when you meet if there’s no spark but saying that it can work for some. I guess you may not want to feel like you’ve wasted time chatting instead of meeting sooner.
I think it’s funny when men say ‘what are you looking for on here’ as I’ve worked out that means are you looking for sex?
Also I hate when they ask for more pics...if they’re looking for a model...that’s not me! I’ve already put the decent pictures online and that was hard work as I’m not photogenic!
Has anyone tried Eharmony? Would be great to get that fairytale ending if it still exists.....[/quote]
sugarlost - well my date got cancelled yesterday as he apparently has a fever.
and then the man I was chatting to and thinking things were going well, he messaged me about 11pm saying he'd been out and had had a few pints but was going to reply to my message and then nothing!
I really don't get men's message strategy at all.
I sometimes ask them if they haven't asked me first 'what they're looking for?' and I don't mean I'm looking for sex - just in the past if they're looking for sex and I'm not then I don't want to waste my time chatting to them!
Endless selfies drives me mad too I'll do one or two but some men seem to think you've got time to send loads and I really haven't got the time to do that.
EHarmony - I signed up but found it very long winded (too many questions) so ended up getting bored - a friend did sign up and said it was good but unsure if she met anyone through it she is now back with someone she met when out years ago.
I think through speaking to a few women friends about this - sites are a much of a muchness. Sometimes Match works, sometimes POF works - I personally don't think if you pay or even complete a lengthy profile that men read half the stuff or even mean what they say, my ex for one. I met him on OKC and he'd answered over 200 questions about himself - and then the 'crucial' ones - like he said generally his relationships lasted '6 months' I didn't get round to asking him these as 2 close friends of mine said I shouldn't ask them and should just have fun, now I know I should've asked him!
The thing which makes me laugh about the ex - he was 7 years younger, outgoing and liked to take control in bed and definitely didn't like me doing it - which I do like doing too - one night he actually told me when we'd got back to his and I'd flirted with him and come onto him in the pub he said he preferred it if he did that. I was really annoyed with him over that and we carried on seeing each other, maybe shouldn't have done! He also had various tales - like one ex had wanted him to move up north where they could buy a big house for £500K whereas he was adamant he was never moving north but still wanted the big house. It was funny actually because he saw my small cottage (2 bedrooms) and said it was 'cute' and when he met my parents in their house not far from mine he said their house was 'huge for London' - but it's just standard 4 bedroom house (huge attic though) to me!
Jamais - if Mr Hanglider and you have agreed on a 'sex' basis then I think a later dinner and sex meeting is fine for that especially if you both do classes/sport.