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I’d rather be dead.

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despairingandunhappy · 09/08/2020 13:50

I hate DP.
I have never known a man so financially abusive in my life. He blames me for us having no money yet leaves me with £11 a month to live off after bills are paid. We’re 4 days before payday there is no food in my house and 10p in my bank. And all I have is him moaning about it, “he’d be better off in prison”
I’ve got fuck all. I’m glad we’re on lockdown cos it gives me an excuse to not go out. I don’t want my friends sending me pics of clothes they’re buying or holidays so I’ve come off social media. I need this off my chest because I’m about to explode.

I’d rather be fucking dead.

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OnceUponAMidnightBeery · 13/08/2020 00:54

@Vodkacranberryplease

He starts work? That could be good timing for you - not getting a space today could mean you get time to gather the documents together and take them with you.

And cut the sleeve off every one of his nice shirts. And take his watches etc to sell. Trust me he can't get any more angry or nasty.

Unfortunately he can get more angry and nasty, and OP would bear the consequences.

@despairingandunhappy above all please be careful.

despairingandunhappy · 13/08/2020 00:58

There’s no way I’m risking cutting his stuff up he’d end up killing me, although it would feel so nice Grin

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Itsjustabitofbanter · 13/08/2020 11:06

How you getting on today op?

ladamanera · 13/08/2020 13:17

Despairing, once you are safely out and have a new address, if you want some help and practical/legal advice PM me.

PopcornAndWine · 13/08/2020 14:03

This thread is horrendous, I don't have anything to add that hasn't already been said but I just wanted to wish you all the luck in the world in getting away from this piece of shit OP x

Whiskyinajar · 13/08/2020 14:14

I am glad you’ve made a report to the police...
Even anonymously it helps.

If you feel brave enough then call them and ask to speak with someone from the DV and Hate Crimes unit. They will listen to you and they will help.

I really hope you hear something positive today about a place in a Refuge,

toothfairy73 · 13/08/2020 14:59

Hope you are ok today OP

HolyForkinShirt · 13/08/2020 16:36

How are you today OP

despairingandunhappy · 13/08/2020 23:18

Today he punched me so hard in my eyebrow that it bled for two hours.

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FrenchBoule · 13/08/2020 23:19

Call the police

despairingandunhappy · 13/08/2020 23:23

I’ve dropped my phone which has given me a dodgy keypad so didn’t get to finish my post! I am now in a temporary hostel

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Youngatheart00 · 13/08/2020 23:25

Horrendous. So pleased you’ve escaped. Do the police know about the assault? Be sure to photograph your injuries.

You can sleep safe tonight. ❤️

despairingandunhappy · 13/08/2020 23:33

Nope, as he’s said he knows where my mum lives if I ring the police he’ll get my eyes gauged out. His words not mine. His auntie sent him a text knowing what he’d done asking if he wants to go for a drink tomorrow. I’m really angry.

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despairingandunhappy · 13/08/2020 23:34

I was looking forward to my sleep, however DS has other ideas and has picked today for a sleep regression so we’re watching in the night garden on the tablet, hopefully he’ll let me have a lie in tomorrow but I doubt it lol

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wildcherries · 13/08/2020 23:34

I'm so glad you and your baby away from him, OP. Just so glad. Especially reading that he punched you and threw food at you. He's a disgusting excuse for a human.

despairingandunhappy · 13/08/2020 23:35

He is. I hate him. I hope he dies

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wildcherries · 13/08/2020 23:36

I think that's understandable and don't blame you one bit. I hope you get some sleep and rest.

Comtesse · 13/08/2020 23:38

Thank god you’re out of there. He’s a scumbag. Well done x

despairingandunhappy · 13/08/2020 23:39

Thank you. I feel okay. Just sad this is what it’s come to

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Vodkacranberryplease · 13/08/2020 23:44

You are out. Thank god, he's a truly dangerous man. You'll get more help and get through this.

Icanflyhigh · 14/08/2020 01:51

Oh sweetheart. He is a nasty piece of work. Please tell the police what he has done to you. They can keep you and your mum safe x

cordeliavorkosigan · 14/08/2020 03:07

I have been thinking about you, and am so so glad that you’re getting out. I know you need to do what’s best for you and your lovely baby. but I hope this arse goes to prison for a long long time and never has access to your baby.
Mainly I think we are all just so behind you, and with you all the way.

despairingandunhappy · 14/08/2020 06:49

DS didn’t give me my lie in, typical! I don’t understand his auntie, I really don’t. Why sit there and start offering to take him for a drink and “love you with all my heart” she’s a two faced cunt anyway but I’ve never known that.

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SuckingDownDarjeeling · 14/08/2020 06:49

I really hope you're getting some sleep, your thoughts must be going a million miles per hour. I wish I knew some giant people I could call in favours with, and I've never wished that before in my life. You need a support network, and I'm glad at the very very least you can talk to people here and some people have some brilliant advice for you. Hopefully between here and the support you have there, you're on your way to being a new confident woman, and above all you're free now xx

SuckingDownDarjeeling · 14/08/2020 06:51

X post! I'm sorry you didn't get to sleep. It's people like that what give him the strength to be such a piece of shit. They make him feel he can do no wrong.

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