please talk to me ..........[sad]

[fransmom]

i have to tell dp tm==onight that i no longer love him because i am fed up to the back teeth (though it's now ogne beyond that feeling) of his controlling ways. it's not as bad as some men but i still hate the feeling of being controlled. i have asked and asked him int he past not to do it and he does stop - but then it starts again so am not sure he knows he's doing it anymore.
((my last relationship before him was very controlling to the extent that i couldn't take a walk around my then local park without him(x) accusing me me of playing a new mind game and going to be with the drunks.))
i am starting to feel a lot more the same way as i did last time, i have warned him (dp) about how i felt last time and that i wouldn't put up with it for long but have now firmly realised that i can't go through with it anymore and i can't let dd suffer in this atmosphere any longer.
i am trying to tyoe this really quickly because he has just put dd to bed and i don't want him to catch me doing this, i feel as though i have to be furtive about what i say on mn in case he sess it so i really can't be arsed about namechanging,

i have felt like this for quite a while tryiong to sort out how i feel about him. i have told him before that i no longer feel the same way (ihave told him this before and changed my mind) as i should so maybe he thought i mind change my mind again. i have bad pnd episdodes where i can't feel anything emotional beyond making sure i am caring for my daughter, let alone loving her although that feeling has now come back, i know thta the ones for him won't. i don't like the idea of breaking his heart but my heart is being shredded and i won't go through this any longer. i just don't know how to tell him

i'm sorry fpr long post, it would've been lot longer but i can't decide where to start and keep jumping back and forwards.

please help me

have jsut seen this onthe gingerbread/one parent families website now i am panicking. i think he might move out but don't want him to see anything of this as he has said in the past about only him paying the rent. why tf did i let him move back in last time?????????

from said website:

If you are not married
If you have a beneficial interest in the property (for example, because you have made financial contributions towards it), you have the right to remain in or return to the home. You can obtain a court order to enforce this right.

If you do not have an interest in the property, there is no automatic right to remain there and your ex-partner can give you reasonable notice to leave (28 days is considered by the courts to be reasonable). You may want to get legal advice to see whether a court order can be made allowing you to remain in the property for the benefit of the children.

and i'm okay just sad AF arrived so another month of ttc baby 2 otherwise all good this end. although DD is teething and being a rite bossy moo although that will not last long

FM, just ask for it to be deleted if you are worried he'll see it.

Chick if he's really getting you down, by having him there as flatmate isn't going to help tell him he has a month to move, will make this easier on you and DD x

not sure i could wait amonthi was thinking of telling him saturday.....

or would it be better if i went to see citixzen's advice bureau first?

liking th enew name bom! sorry bomm

go to CAB, I have found them helpful, have not read all thread so not sure what your prob is. Hope it's okay tho. I have to go to bed before I fall asleep and droll on the keyboard.

LMAO bomm..............snigger

me too. nite ladies. tmm, i will try and email you tomorrow sweetheart.

am sorry about af ((((((((tmm and mr tmm))))))))))) sorry i can't remember his name

FM - Make sure you do email me - tell him on saturday that he has to move out, and give him 14 days or a mth to do so no longer.

and mr TMM is Phil

nite sweetie x

thanks

that sounds reasonable to me. i shall have to phone friend tomorrow and see if she can look after dd if cab open friday - have horrible feeling they won't be unless i cook up some story about work mistreatment and phone from home at dinner tomorrow, he got day off cos dd ill again - she hsa throat infection now well i must be off otherwise will be shattered agian nite tmm and thanks sweetheart xxx

have told him today f'in bar steward jfbsjb87857&&£^£U"I C"IO3ihqjckKJ

am fuming arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh
he was running bath wheni got home and i thought oh, great he running dd a bath he was running it for himself.

will post more later have to be careful

Fm...how are you doing? From the last few posts you did i would imagine you would be entitled to stay in your home because of dd. He has much easier chance of finding accomodation as a single man. Having said that, would it put your mind at ease to find out about benefit entitlement (especially housing benefit) anyway - a back-up plan, so to speak?

FM- whats happening???

How are you FM??

hi all hae to be short and sweet as he is leaving tonight (at bloody ;ast - yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) but he is taking pc with him - fair enough it is his but he couldve left it for one night as he knosw i like mn - thats prob ahwy he;s tkaoong it.

apologies for spellingas well, will trya nd catch up soon with library access xxxx

It will be easier for you when he's gone, FM. It will be hard at first, but it will get easier. Living together when separated is just the hardest thing.
Good luck, I will be thinking of you, and come back as soon as you can, to update & let us know you're ok.
xx

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Fransmom - (((((((hugs)))))))

Hope you get them at some point if you look on here soon!

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