please talk to me ..........[sad]

[fransmom]

i have to tell dp tm==onight that i no longer love him because i am fed up to the back teeth (though it's now ogne beyond that feeling) of his controlling ways. it's not as bad as some men but i still hate the feeling of being controlled. i have asked and asked him int he past not to do it and he does stop - but then it starts again so am not sure he knows he's doing it anymore.
((my last relationship before him was very controlling to the extent that i couldn't take a walk around my then local park without him(x) accusing me me of playing a new mind game and going to be with the drunks.))
i am starting to feel a lot more the same way as i did last time, i have warned him (dp) about how i felt last time and that i wouldn't put up with it for long but have now firmly realised that i can't go through with it anymore and i can't let dd suffer in this atmosphere any longer.
i am trying to tyoe this really quickly because he has just put dd to bed and i don't want him to catch me doing this, i feel as though i have to be furtive about what i say on mn in case he sess it so i really can't be arsed about namechanging,

i have felt like this for quite a while tryiong to sort out how i feel about him. i have told him before that i no longer feel the same way (ihave told him this before and changed my mind) as i should so maybe he thought i mind change my mind again. i have bad pnd episdodes where i can't feel anything emotional beyond making sure i am caring for my daughter, let alone loving her although that feeling has now come back, i know thta the ones for him won't. i don't like the idea of breaking his heart but my heart is being shredded and i won't go through this any longer. i just don't know how to tell him

i'm sorry fpr long post, it would've been lot longer but i can't decide where to start and keep jumping back and forwards.

please help me

i have recently had my first baby (a boy) ten weeks ago, my partner lives with me but only helps me occassionly when i ask hes not changed a single nappy and im clueless on wat to do about weaning and looking after baby may aswell be alonr

casper.. you have a long way to go before you need to think about weaning, recommended age is 26 weeks..! if you need any advice, just start your own thread x

I'm off too - good luck fransmum - be thinking of you. X

bye fransmom xxxxxxx

fransmom - you don't sound sad (about the rl friends) at all! I am a norma-no-mates, and it's not cos i haven't lived here a long time, it's because i say stupid things and sound like a nutter!

thank u i am new to this web site. i weren sure whether to put him on to sma white, hes on sma gold at the mo am i going wrong somewhere? we were told i was having a girl my partner having two boys with previous relationship got his hopes up but now not interested in helping me.

Good Luck FM. Be thinking of you x

am back but so is he. oh god i am so scared. i know iu have to say it and to be happy but jsut don't want hte pain it hurts me physically when people are upset (Should learn to shield myself better as stg would say)

oh gohhhhhhhhhhdddddddddd

((((((((((((((casper))))))))))) hi and welcome sorry you had suchan intro to mn.

i ad the ame wirth him when dd was born. was still on mat leave and needded him to pick me up from town i had dd, her buggy and a new baby chair to carry. he'd rather do the housework . it took my then firedn having a go at him to kick up backside, i feel like i've continually had to remind him to do things with her and tkae her tolay outside while it's still fairly pok out there. please either talk to himm and sit him down saying look here, you're not pulling your weight, or better still go out with sime friends and leave him to look after ds,

((((((((((((((casper))))))))))) hi and welcome sorry you had suchan intro to mn.

i ad the ame wirth him when dd was born. was still on mat leave and needded him to pick me up from town i had dd, her buggy and a new baby chair to carry. he'd rather do the housework . it took my then firedn having a go at him to kick up backside, i feel like i've continually had to remind him to do things with her and tkae her tolay outside while it's still fairly pok out there. please either talk to himm and sit him down saying look here, you're not pulling your weight, or better still go out with sime friends and leave him to look after ds,

oops

LULU!!!!!!!!!!!!!! please can you help this lady?

i'm so sorry you are going through this

it's always going to be hard to end a relationship, i remember how bloody awful it was with my h, but it was the right decision

stay strong and keep reminding yourself why you know it's over, and use mn as a prop

x

I'm still with you fm. Even if just virtually.

tahts' why i still here and he watching telly.[sa]d

is he the sort of person who wont take it seriously, like my exh?

I can't really think of anything helpful to say though! I am rubbish in rl situations with upset people too
I have just written and rewritten this post about 5 times!

i have asked to split before and changed my mind a few times. i think he just battens down the hatches and waits for it to vlow over

gb knowing people are there for me helps a lot, even if they feel they don't knwo what to say x

watling that is how i feel
the pull getting less and less

Oh FM, I'm so sorry you're going through this honey.

I was in a very similar situation myself, and had to make the tough decision to end my marriage.
It was the toughest thing, but I don't regret my decision.

We are all here for you, and you have my mail address, so mail me anytime.x

oh pc thank you sweetheart (((pc)))

yeh my h used to do that too, tho i never changed my mind

i think you just have to bite the bullet and tell him, keep on telling him til he goes

how shitty for you