Would you date someone earning less than you?

[DreamChaser23]

but they were a good person and paid their way?

What is the least you could consider?

What a strange question. Of course I would. I used to earn more than DH. I don’t even think that both parties in a couple need to have the same outlook on earning as long as neither are lazy.

I know 2 househusbands who have wives that work. They all contribute to their respective households - what’s the issue? I also know one who is a lazy sponging shit, that’s a separate issue!

Very unlikely on my pathetic salary (wrong career path for a decent income but i do help society!). Exh and dp are both higher income earners though I did early on support exh when he was a student

Ambition takes many forms, travel, family, health and lifestyle, to name a few.
It doesn't solely mean that a man has a good job earning (or with the potential to earn) loads of cash

Some of the posters saying they want an 'ambitious' man are just trying to be coy and hide what they really mean, I assume not to look hypocritical

@Cheeseandwin5 Yes, this!

My DP works his socks off but will never be a high earner and I am okay with that. He's not lazy and he's very driven in life - always puts his family first, always strives to make life better for me (that doesn't need to be financial), puts my happiness above his own, works to live not lives to work and is certainly ambitious - he runs marathons - that's pretty ambitious in my eyes. Why would I dismiss being with that amazing man simply because he earns less than ever?

The issue for me isn't that you earn more, it's how your partner perceives it.

Are they OK that you earn more, own your own house etc etc when they may not. Or are they jealous and resentful?

I've seen mostly the jealous and resentful from potential partners when I was single, early 30s owning my own house, nice car etc. I dated younger men because I could, but nearly all of them couldn't handle it and in the end just got arsey because they had preconceived notions that they had to be the breadwinner.

I finally met the one, who was in exactly the same position as I was, owned house, car and similar job level and we've now been together 7 years

It shouldn't matter, but to some people it does. So just be in the lookout for the snarky comments, jealousy etc because that's where it starts.