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I need help I have kids scared to leave my partner

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lovemychildren27 · 21/06/2020 09:45

Hi everyone just looking for some advice or someone who's been in a similar situation I have kids and have been with my partner for a long time but I'm scared of him I no this isn't right but I don't no what I can do about it please if anyone can help me out thanks

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Witchesandwizards · 12/07/2020 21:55

My brother is also a police Superintendent who cracked the biggest modern day slavery case in the UK last year - there are many similarities in the methods used to control these victims and the victims of DV. A mixture of coercive control and violence. That case hit him emotionally and he was prepared to give whatever it took to get justice. The police are humans and now, very well trained humans.

I honestly think this is your best chance OP, given the logistics of what you need to do to get out.

If anyone is interested.
wondery.com/shows/real-crime-profile/
paladinservice.co.uk/

Witchesandwizards · 12/07/2020 22:11

I would also imagine your partner and his 'network' are involved in other areas of crime (apologies if I am wrong) and his name would therefore immediately raise a red flag in a way it wouldn't with other organisations without access to police intelligence.

lovemychildren27 · 12/07/2020 22:53

If anyone is awake please pm me

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confusednortherner · 12/07/2020 23:03

How are you? I've been lurking but didn't want to read and run. I hope you are safe.

confusednortherner · 12/07/2020 23:12

Sorry I don't know how to pm

HotPenguin · 12/07/2020 23:17

@confusednortherner click on the three little squares in the bottom right hand corner of the OPs post.

I have to go to bed so I can't but thinking of you OP.

lovemychildren27 · 12/07/2020 23:22

Thanks everyone I’m not very good at the moment

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confusednortherner · 12/07/2020 23:23

Thanks @HotPenguin but unfortunately not showing on app....

lovemychildren27 · 12/07/2020 23:24

I think to pm you can’t do it on the app

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lovemychildren27 · 12/07/2020 23:24

Thanks for replying on this tho

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confusednortherner · 12/07/2020 23:25

I'm sorry I'm not much use, are you in danger now? I know you don't want police involved but if you really are worried please contact them.

lovemychildren27 · 12/07/2020 23:26

No not right now I can’t go into details on this thanks for responding it’s keeping me abit calmer

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confusednortherner · 12/07/2020 23:33

Hope someone is up who can pm you, if you were near me I'd happily move you anywhere safe.

lovemychildren27 · 12/07/2020 23:37

Thank you

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gluteustothemaximus · 12/07/2020 23:50

Has anyone PM'd you? Hope you're OK x

Starksforthewin · 12/07/2020 23:55

I’m PMing, guys. OP is safe at the moment. ❣️

gluteustothemaximus · 12/07/2020 23:55

Thank you starks x

lovemychildren27 · 13/07/2020 00:02

Thanks everyone yeah I have been pm there some stuff I can’t put on here witch is why I asked for pm I have had a really bad 2 days and haven’t been able to log on

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confusednortherner · 13/07/2020 06:50

I've been thinking of you Love hope today is better for you. Thank you Starks for pming

Guardsman18 · 13/07/2020 07:52

Thinking of you x

LadyEloise · 13/07/2020 08:55

lovemychildren27
Are you in the UK or Ireland ?

lovemychildren27 · 13/07/2020 09:09

Thanks everyone I’m in the uk managed to get a little bit of sleep have had an awful weekend

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UnimpressiveUsername · 13/07/2020 09:12

I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had a bad few days. Wishing you all the best, lovely. I really hope your opportunity to leave comes soon. I worry about you every day and just wish I could help. You are doing so well. Hugs

dublingirl66 · 13/07/2020 12:20

So sorry

dublingirl66 · 13/07/2020 12:50

P m you from now on
Here to help!!!

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