New relationship - no sex!

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I’ve been seeing someone for 5 weeks. We slept together on the first date, having both been a bit sexually deprived through lockdown! And then I think we had sex another 3 times over the next couple of weeks.

I really like him, a lot. He’s gorgeous, and we get on really well. He seems thoughtful and sensitive.

It’s usually me that goes to see him (he lives just over an hour away) as he’s working really long hours and is always knackered, so it just makes sense that I am the one to do the driving. I’m ok with that.

However, for the last 3 weeks, we’ve seen each other about 10 times, and had sex one of those times. I don’t really know why we’ve gone from having sex every time we see each other to not at all.

I have resisted saying anything as I didn’t want him to feel like he had to do it, I wanted to feel wanted and I don’t. But last night, we went to bed and a couple of minutes later he was snoring away, and I felt really upset, got up drove home (he was asleep no had no idea).

I get he’s tired from work and I don’t expect us to have sex every time we see each other but surely at this point the sex should be great!

I figured either he’s not that into sex, or not that into me :( although we otherwise have a lovely time together and he seems to really look forward to seeing me.

Is this doomed?

Look at it this way, he’s seeing you a lot in a short space of time without having sex... he must really like you! I’d honestly be more worried if every time we met we only had sex as that’s more of a casual thing. I honestly think he’s tired from work and he wants to spend time with you... not just your body x

How are you meeting him in lockdown ?

Oh. I see

if he wasn't into you he wouldn't invite you. don't worry about the sex he's probably exhausted

What the bloody nora is wrong with people on this thread!!

They have been trying to keep themselves and their families safe?
They've been doing their damndest to follow government advice in order to do so?
Haven't seen members of their own family for many months?
I'd say those things might cause them to question why it's been ok for op to carry on as though the rules don't apply to her.

I think it’s perfectly reasonable for people to keep mentioning the fact that OP is breaking lockdown rules. It’s more relevant to us all than the weird relationship dynamic she’s got going.

*What the bloody nora is wrong with people on this thread!!

They have been trying to keep themselves and their families safe?
They've been doing their damndest to follow government advice in order to do so?
Haven't seen members of their own family for many months?
I'd say those things might cause them to question why it's been ok for op to carry on as though the rules don't apply to her.*

All of the above.
I can't believe that someone could be so selfish.

OP you are a bit lot of a dick to be fair.

The rules have not been changed to allow it. You’re wrong. See attached. Having sex with some bloke you’ve found isn’t a reasonable excuse to stay overnight. You’re ridiculous.

You're coming across a bit desperate.

To be fair the poor guy is a widower, he is raising 2 teenagers on his own and breaking his back working, he is probably enjoying the domestic help for now.

Breaking the lockdown is dickish there’s no justification other than not giving a toss about anyone including friends and family.

I don’t have any issue at all with your lockdown breaking OP given your circumstances and the fact that the rule-makers have shown us it’s fine to make up your own interpretation. I feel a bit queasy about the ease with which you have been slotted into his DC’s lives, it sounds like they’re used to a moving population of willing female helpers. It’s the lack of sex that is the issue. He’s not that into you, AND he’s addicted to prescription painkillers. This is bad. I don’t see that there’s enough in it for you, and you should walk away.