Feeling sad

[SissyLongStockings]

Hi all.
Just needed a handhold really. Going through the stages of being heartbroken and on my own.
Always wake up this time of night missing him. Then cant get back to sleep.
I get that horrible wave of sadness and gut churnning knowing I will never see him again.
When will it end?

@newlife197

I deleted my ex off all social media and set whatsapp to not show last active and it helped loads. It's hard to not think about someone if you have a constant reminder and it's hard to not wonder what hes up to when you have stuff like this messing with your head. It's tough to do I know but it's better then how this is making you feel.

@krkw
Definitely agree, I haven’t got mine set to last seen anyway and had archived our chat history. Unfortunately, had a peek last night and wish I hadn’t. Just been deleting some of the messages slowly. Not sure there is much point keeping “I’m totally in love with you and your my missing piece”

I peaked top and re read old messages and we wont be the only to do it but it's not helpful. Please try build the courage to delete them all and it will be freeing... it will sting but it will free you too. I completely redone my house and got rid of every scrap of his things, deleted every picture and message and had a good cry/rant while I did it and it felt amazing! They are hurting you more being there... he isnt the same person now that sent those messages so they might as well be off a distant stranger.

@Newlife197 yes mines whatsapp activity was going on late too, I know he goes to bed quite early so if hes up late, hes talking to a woman. Hope you are all as well as can be today

I was honestly suicidal to the point I had my suicide note written out when he cheated and left and that was a year ago. Just a few days ago he mentioned that he loved me and I felt NOTHING so I promise you will be ok and you will get where you need to be. I remember the pain of what you are going through right now and it's all consuming and I wish I could help more.

@Mermaidwaves and @krkw I think it’s great we can all support each other. Krkw it’s really helpful to know that you have been there and come out the other side. I’m definitely doing better. I can imagine how utterly broken you must have felt and your amazing to have come out the other side.

When my children go to their dad I may drink some gin, play some heartbreak music and delete the lot as your right, the pictures and messages are meaningless as he only meant what he said temporarily and the pics are of a time when I believed in something that no longer exists

OP be brave at work today, hold your head up high

Why is this hard? I am currently nearly six days no contact and i miss him. He ruined my life and I miss him? Why? Why cant i just get angry at the fact hes a liar and selfish. He promised me the world and didnt deliver

It will be hard for weeks, at least. Your body and mind are just processing it. Such an awful think to go through

And I wonder if I ever cross your mind?
For me it happens all the time....

Spending my lunch break crying in the toilet

Hope everyone's day is going better than mine. My mascara has ran

@namechangedforthis123456 oh goodness, that’s awful. What has happened this morning?

Oh no @namechangedforthis123456 me too. I'm crying and crying and crying again I'm so pathetic what's wrong with me? One minute fine next minute sobbing

I just can't get over it because I sit almost opposite him at work. He's so nice and charming to everyone and he's been absolutely horrible to me. I feel pathetic, like all my colleagues think I'm weird. I feel like I should look for something else but thanks to covid there is hardly anything out there

Sorry to hear you're feeling the same Knucklehead.. this is sapping away all our happiness and it's not fair on us.

@namechangedforthis123456 I cant imagine what that must be like , at least mine lives in different t part of the country so I never ever have to see him again. Why have we allowed them to do this to us?

Namechange you okay?

namechange when he looks up at you from the top of his computer give him the middle finger

Knuclehead how you doing today?

Babypiggy six days Good for you. Keep going. Just keep up the no contact.

Absolutely rock bottom today. How can he do this to me? I'm so cross with myself. I love him.

Same boat as you guys, broke up with my other half on sunday. Constantly feel sick and my head feels like it is about to explode. Being told they dont love you anymore - ouch!
It's nice to be able to at least talk to you guys who are going through the same thing

I’m sorry to read these posts , unfortunately there aren’t really any shortcuts to getting over heartbreak. One thing that stuck with me from a thread on here years ago was to remember these are just men, not Gods but men.

I ended up telling one of my colleagues what had happened- it turns out other people in the office had noticed something had been going on. I cried quite a bit, feel silly but a lot better.