@cravingthelook This is the way is should be with OLD. Being honest if you're a bit further along the track with one iron and letting a new one down gently. I'd have no issue with chatting to him again. It's the ones that just ghost or breadcrumb to end it that get on my nerves.
Grab a coffee, this is going to be long...
TLDR: I have a boyfriend.
So. I have news. I've been a bit reluctant to post, because it's early days but after ending things with MrC after a year at the end of April, I got back on the horse quite quickly with MrPlumber (the iron who I ditched for MrC last year). We'd always stayed in contact as friends, but with a definite sexual undercurrent. We had a few "liasons" but I was still swiping because whilst he might be an epic shag, he's not for me and I'm not for him. We were both cool with that and it really did help mend my heartache.
Start of May I get chatting to a lovely guy, whilst still making use of the services of MrPlumber, however after a few days we stop chatting over something that wasn't a massive deal (smoking). I said sorry, not for me, he said fine and we ended things. His job is something I need doing in my house so he says, look, when you need that thing doing, let me know, I'll give you a quote, I don't want you getting ripped off by some cowboy. All good, no hard feelings. A month later I message him. He comes round to price up the job. OMG we were both blown away, but nothing gets said. He comes around again to drop off the materials, minor flirting ensues. He starts the job the next week. He tries to be very professional for 3 days. I do not make it easy for him. 🙈 Some quite frankly outrageous flirting on my part, but also lots of lovely long conversations about life in general and getting to know each other - all still strictly above board, but very obvious we fancy each other like mad. He fell off his ladder when I walked into the room one day. He says it was the most mortifying moment if his life, he literally fell for me.
He goes to leave on the last day. I'm stood on my doorstep and he asks if he can kiss me? Of course I say yes, and that was that. I'll call him MrS. We are exclusive (we had the chat immediately). He tells me that he is mad about me and absolutely smitten. I feel exactly the same but I tell him its lust. He says it's more. He doesn't care whether we have sex when we see each other, he just wants to spend time with me whenever we can, even just a quick coffee when we have an hour childfree time, because apparently he thinks I'm the most amazing woman he's ever met (and who am into disagree?).
After my year of trying to get blood out of a stone with MrC who I loved very much, however he "loved me, but wasn't in love with me" 🔪♥️, I'll take that and run with it. For the record he actually smokes about 4 fags a day, and I've never seen him smoke yet 🤷🏻♀️