Being used for sex

[Confused12344]

Hi

I’m new to this but just wanted some advice really even though I already know Deep down I guess.

I met a guy through mutual friends some years ago now.. he seemed really nice wasn’t interested in him at first strictly wanted to be friends as I felt we wouldn’t be on the same page as he’s younger than me and I want something serious but he was very keen said he also wanted something and kept on trying to date me offered to take me on holiday etc..

My friend said how interested he was in me and how he’s a nice guy and I should give him a chance. The more I saw him when we would all go out I started to like him.. and then it all went horribly wrong!

we started dating etc which then lead to sleeping together and I started to develop feelings over months it seemed to be going really well. I then brought up with him some time last year where this was going etc que him then turning into a different person ! he said he didn’t want anything and never had and this just ‘ was what it was ‘ I was very confused and hurt as that isn’t what he had said at the start at all and he had actually pursued me for about a year before I started dating him.

It went horribly wrong in September last year.. and since then I’v let my feelings get the better of me and I carried on sleeping with him but the dates stopped and he now just comes to my house as and when he wants has sex and leaves in the morning. I know I shouldn’t accept this but he knows I have feelings for him and I feel he plays on it. He’s started to become very disrespectful and rude towards me the way he talks to me has changed and he honestly isn’t the guy I first met.

He blocked me a few months ago I don’t know why and I left him to it and didn’t try and contact him. he got in contact during the lock down after nearly two months no contact and had all the excuses under the sun.. I stupidly let him back in. we have now been taking again for just over a month I told him how I felt about our situation and just having sex..the other day he has now blocked me again and said he’s ‘doing me a favour’ but I know he will unblock me again soon

I feel so used and worthless and I don’t know why I am allowing this behaviour as it’s going against everything I believe.

Thanks for listening.

The meaning isn't the same ...

Imagine a woman sitting in a police station talking about how she has been abused .

And the officer turns around and says "how does it feel to be used like toilet paper?"

A bit different to...." How does it feel to be treated as disposable?" or any one of a thousand analogies that could have said the same thing. (Not that would say any of these things as they are not nice things to hear)

Your posts to me are too simplistic , you believe that people should recognise bad behaviour and walk away ... No analyse of the abuser is necessary for recovery .... These are things I disagree with strongly .

When you analyse their behaviour the thing is is you realise something . You come to learn that they were the the way they before you met and they will continue to be that way after you leave . There's nothing to save .

You realise that you didn't cause it and you can't fix it . Which helps you walk away and helps you never to get into that situation again .

Overanalyze is bad and a waste of your precious energy I agree .

Just my opinion.