Creepy things that males have said to you in any context.

[NoMoreDickheads]

One I saw a couple of times a while back- he seemed a nice guy so IDK why he came out with this.

Me:- I don't like X (sexual act) it just makes me feel ticklish.

Him:- I'm going to make you laugh and laugh.

!!!
Luckily he didn't go on to try the thing. Brr!

A teacher once mumbled to me and a mate 'lets all strip down to our knickers' didn't realise at the time how creepy that was

Ew that doctor one really gives me the creeps. Poor you. I was about to say one where a doctor had commented that he "bet I worked out". Which creeped me out no end at just that. More recently was at a work do and chatting to a senior person in my industry. He proceeded to tell my husband he "wanted to chat to me" and then told me all about his fiancé and how he "banged her brains out and she loved it". I like to think I'd say something cutting but I was honestly so shocked. He then told me lascoviousoy he was going to the toilets. I got the distinct impression he thought I'd follow

*lasciviously

When I was 16 I got my first job waitressing events at a hotel. The head chef, who was a man in his 40s asked me to follow him into the back storage area to help him carry some stuff into the kitchen. I followed him and he locked the door behind him and stood in front of it. He said he wouldn't let me out until I agreed to go on a date with him.

My driving instructor, me aged 18, concentrating on, you know, the driving a car thing, complained that I wasn't smiling, and then said, "It's not as though I'm going to take you into a field and rape you." I still went to him for months after that too.

Many others, being groped in bars, men openly commenting about the size of my breasts. Even as an adult, men in professional environments bringing the subject around to sex or asking inappropriate questions. I have been raped and sexually assaulted. Its unsurprising that I have a deep mistrust of men, and do all I can to avoid them now.

I am overweight and really not very attractive....it is entirely about power and control, and a thrill they get out of making a woman feel uncomfortable.

Being flashed at by a random guy who used to wait for the university women's rowing team. I mean, we practised at 630 in the morning in fucking November. That's some dedication.

Being shouted at by a random man when I was my mum to "leave your parents and run away with us".

At uni, in a house share with only one way out of the street and a small, homely pub at the end. Some men doing some work on it for a couple of weeks. Every time I cycled or walked past, every time, they'd be screaming and hooting.

I now work as an academic and the last institution I worked at was a large Russell. During "campus development" there were multiple building sites around. Men shouted at me and mimed sex. To other women lecturers, as well. No one did anything.

I now live in a safe, decent neighbourhood with a neighbourhood pub at the end of the street. When I was pregnant with my twins and going for an evening walk, I got screamed at for being a fat cunt.

Etc, etc, fucking etc.

And that is again apart from the assaults, which include a family dr when I was under 12.

Yes, this is why we need women's spaces and why I don't see male HCP unless there is really no choice, and I don't really give a fuck whose feelings that hurts.

These are just fucking awful to read. I trust 3 men in my life. My dad and my brothers.

johnnymcgrath that’s terrible. I used to work at a university and about 12 years ago a colleague reported some contractors for wolf whistling and cat calling her. The university insisted that the construction company did an investigation and they ended up sacking the contractors concerned. At the time I’m sad to say I was surprised she raised the complaint, so conditioned was I to just accepting that kind of behaviour. I’m so sorry no one did anything in your case. I would encourage others to report if it happens in your place of work as even if the offenders are externals, it should be taken seriously. I appreciate that this isn’t always the case though but just want to give one example in which it did have a good outcome.

I’ve just remembered this after reading a pp’s post.
I went to an all girls school and the alley we walked down from the bus stop usually had some random in a big coat waiting to flash us.
There was also a phone box near school that some saddo used to call as we were walking past to ask us about our underwear.
We had the police in school to discuss how we should deal with it, but the pervs weren’t caught and questioned about their actions!🙄🙄

Sorry to hear your DD is going through this @Whatsthishappyhorseshit. I was just thinking about how my reactions/friends reactions have changed to this scenario as we have moved from early to late 20s.

About 4 years ago in a pub a man about the same age as my dad approached me and my friend and tried to chat us up. My friend was really nice and sweet going alone with it to placate him. I politely asked him to leave us alone. He did at first but then repeatedly returned over and over.

Now 4 years later neither of us take this BS. My friend calls the men out and I am very firm with them. I just had to report a security guard creep in Sainsburys last week who broke social distancing to come on to me. I think you reach a point where you are not taking it anymore. I have been sworn at and threatened for standing up for myself but will continue to do so.

when i was 16 i worked in a greengrocers one day this creep came in and said he wanted two peaches out of the window. i went to the window and he stepped just outside to look through the side window. which two do you want i asked. those two big juicy ones he said pointing at my breasts creep

I have a few:
When I was 12/13 and out walking a car pulled up and the driver said...'Hello little girl' and looked me up and down and licked his lips 😳

I was at uni a man walked right up to me, looked me up and down and said 'bouncy' 😂🙈

I feel asleep at a party and woke up on someones bed 😬 a man standing in the room smiled and said 'I could have had my way with you, but I didn't'

The absolute worst: I was doing my Duke of Edinburgh service in an old people home and the owners husband came to sit down, asked if I had a boyfriend and then said ' if I was your boyfriend I'd have you ten times a night' ..I was barely 14! 😳 The worst thing was when I left he follows me out, gave me a hug then turned my head and shoved his tongue in mouth! I ran home and never went back. A lot changes in 20 years!

Urgh SB. That last one made me nearly vom!

No one tries anything on with me now I'm mid 30s. If they did, I'd call them out. Or probably say something like "why would I want your pencil dick near me?" if I had the courage.

The scariest one was when I was at a male work colleagues house about 2011, I got up to leave and he turned into some kind of psychopath saying, 'you've got to stay, I've locked the doors'.
I was terrified luckily I escaped without harm.
I tried telling a (now ex) friend she didn't believe me 'but he's so nice & quiet'.
That male work colleague has gone on to become a GP.

God... so so many horrible stories. Reminded me of some of my own experiences-

My next door neighbour asking me and my best friend to come and see something... he took us to the bushes and showed us his penis. We were 8, he was 19.

The boy that had sex with unconscious me on a bathroom floor of a party when I was 15. I woke up as it was happening and he pushed my head back onto the floor and told me to "shh! Don't move"

A man putting his hand up my skirt and looping my thong with his fingers as I stood at the bar ordering a drink. I was 18, he was about 35.

A taxi driver asking me to open my legs for him in the mirror after a night out at about 3am. I was about 19, he was easily 50.

A man shouting at me in the street how he'd like to "lick my cunt" I was 25 and holding my toddler daughters hand.

The perverse driving instructor asking if I'd like free lessons in return for "favours"

The man who got into bed with me and started touching me when I was asleep. He'd followed my cousin back from the pub (I was staying with her and had come home early because I was knackered) I woke to him naked and trying to have sex with me. My cousin walked in at me shouting at him and started screaming at me for trying to steal her man!! I was 33.

These are just the ones that spring to mind, I'm positive there have been many many more over the years. It's disgusting and I totally agree with the poster wondering what the fuck goes through their minds to say or do this shit?!

Misogyny runs deep.

My daughter thought I was sexist as I don't allow her as much freedom as her older brother, I told her it's not sexism it's experience. From the age of 13 to about 23 I was ashamed of my body and did my best to hide it and not be too noticeable, which was hard as at 13 I was a 34 DD bra size and growing. I was regularly tooted at and obscenities shouted at me, I was touched up at a swimming pool, on a bus and in my own home. At 16 I was propositioned by management in my first job and bets were made on who would screw me first. At 15 a man asked if he could check my tightness, another man on another occasion told me that he bet they (my breasts) tasted amazing. A friend of my brothers asked me if I touch myself. All of these happened when I was young and scared and tooembarrassed to make a fuss. As I got older and especially after becoming a mum, I stopped taking that shit. I think a lot of these stories involve young girls because these creeps know that they are embarrassed and lack confidence to tell them to do one. Bet they don't do it as much to the gobby confident teens that will shout at them to f off.

Yes, this is getting darker now but it runs the whole scale doesn't it from pervy comments to our assaults and rapes?

We could write a book.

It'd be kind of a horror story but there would still be sick men (and even female 'handmaidens) who would try and normalize and minimize everything we describe.

“My daughter is my partner, my best friend and companion, she fills my life and time, I just need another woman for the sex part”

The guy was always volunteering to help in kids charities, school activities, etc. Someway I am sure he is a closet paedo.

We could write a book.

I actually think that would be a good thing. Publish these tales of abhorrent behaviour and strip the power from men who believe it's their right, as a man, to behave in such a manner.

I actually thing that for nearly all women, their first sexual experiences are abusive. It’s as though you’re being conditioned to accept it. I also think the men who do it are a minority, but they don’t get stopped so it’s rife.

Some many terrible stories here
I remember working in a pub and it was my turn to clean out the ashtrays ( it was a long time ago) and we used to use a bucket and small brush to put all the stuff into. So I went around the tables and filled the bucket up , got a a table where a cocky little sod was sitting with his mates, he said give me a blow job bitch, so I emptied the whole bucket over his head, his mates laughed and my boss said the sod deserved it, and wanted to bar him from the pub.

I also think the men who do it are a minority, but they don’t get stopped so it’s rife

@BelfryBat IDK it's a spectrum isn't it? I think sexual coercion- nagging, or strops when they don't get it, from lovers, partners etc is very common.

'Oh WHEN are we going to have sex'
'I deserve it'
'I can't believe you're not in the mood'

Storming out of the house if an evening isn't as dirty as they want etc, so many different men acting up.

CoolCarrie- glad your boss stuck up for you. I knew someone who got the sack from her bar job because a customer grabbed her and she tipped a pint over his head.

@lostinthoughts
Re Said by an optometrist whilst getting my eyes tested: 'are you lactating?' (Whilst looking at my boobs)
Obviously looking at your boobs is creepy and not ok, but I have been asked by my extremely non creepy optometrist to come back when I’ve finished breastfeeding. They don’t recommend eye scans when pregnant or bf because things change.

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