Creepy things that males have said to you in any context.

[NoMoreDickheads]

One I saw a couple of times a while back- he seemed a nice guy so IDK why he came out with this.

Me:- I don't like X (sexual act) it just makes me feel ticklish.

Him:- I'm going to make you laugh and laugh.

!!!
Luckily he didn't go on to try the thing. Brr!

"Bring her to me when she's 16" said My dads mate to my dad when I was 13

At 14 used to get dirty phone calls from a random who was obviously wanking, he'd try and keep me on the phone (parents landline)

When I was 15 I worked after school in a chip shop along with other teenagers (girls)
the male 50ish boss used to buy us ice poles to eat in breaks , in the guise of kindness Cos it was always so hot in there. He'd watch us eat them though in such a creepy way

Aged 20 worked in a bookies. Boss used to make me stand on a chair to put posters up then blatantly look up my skirt and comment on my underwear. He somehow noticed I had a belly button ring and always asked to see it
Also regularly got called a whore / slag / cunt if male customers lost races etc (ended up sacked as flipped once and told one to fuck off)

Whilst working in offices, much older married men constantly perved at me and other young female staff it was constant

Late 90s - 2000s

Oh and aged 23 at Reading festival

I was in the crowd watching a band. It was hot so I was only wearing jeans and a bikini top. and a random guy behind me undid and then tried to pull off my bikini top

Many years on I can still see his face laughing when I turned round furious. but what was almost worse was the fact others - including women - laughing too

My boyfriend at the time said " you should have worn something less revealing"

I've so, so many of these.

I worked in customer service and on each shift had some old bloke passing me his number in a bit of paper. I was 16!

I had one fella say 'if ever you want a sugar dad, I'm here for you'. Again, he was 50, I was 16.

I was not an attractive child thank god but I was an attractive teenager - daily breast comments etc. Got told by some random brochure seller in town that he'd love to fuck me senseless etc etc.

One of my (male) teachers asked how many of the other male teachers I'd slept with?!? I mean WTAF

So many creepy, horrible things. Very recently a man who in general has been trying to impress me told me his Zoom background was a stripper bar. Er? Unimpressed.

When I was younger loads of men calling me “jailbait”, saying “I’d like to touch that”, Etc bloody etc.

For me it's the thought of what the fuck is going through their heads when they say this crap.

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This.

Can you imagine a woman saying ANY of this crap to young lads?!

God yes, teachers! One, when I was waiting for a friend after school said to me “Rita, do you know what the best kind of exercise is?” I was a very innocent 14, “Um, no Mr Smith” “Sex, Rita” looks me & down “sex is the best form of exercise”. Ffs.

Working as a primary teacher with male (senior) colleague.

Me: Have you done the maths planning for next week?
Him: Yes, I have . You can have it when you... (mimics hand job)
Me: laughs nervously as if it's the funniest thing. Because this is the person who would give me a reference for my next job.

For context, this was an international school, this kind of thing is rife and without decent/any employment laws and unions in most countries... it's out up and shut up if you want to keep your job.

Age 16, complete stranger (maybe drunk) followed me into a lovely dress shop and loudly went on about how he wanted have sex with me. I was so humiliated.

I think they watch this stuff and then it kind of overlays real life and some of them are constantly looking as interactions with women as opportunities to try and get laid (not that there weren't always those types around of course.)

^it's about power most of the time, not sex, IMHO

Just after I had my first daughter aged 21 I was walking down the street with her in my pram and I walked past a group of 5 builders.

One shouted 'I wish I was that baby sucking on them tits'

The rest laughed and whistled.

Literally felt disgusting.

A man who I work with once said to me in the canteen ‘Do you want me to come round and sort you out’

I said no thank you.

This was early last year he’s older enough to be my dad and married!

God yes, teachers!

Well, the worst kind is the one who didn't make such crass comments to put off the pretty student and slowly but surely got his way...

Remembered two other things. I was 17 and had been taken into hospital with suspected appendicitis in the middle of the night. My parents didn't come with me (that's a whole different story) and I was admitted to a bed on a ward. It was about 2 or 3am and the ward was dark, other patients asleep. A doctor (in his 30s at least) was sat by the bed asking me about the pain, filling in forms etc. I was sitting up in bed, wearing my snoopy night shirt ( I looked very young.) He felt my stomach where the pain was then wrote something down. He then ran a hand up and down my exposed legs, not in an examining kind of way, but a really creepy caressing way, his hand really lingered.
I felt shocked and repulsed and guilty all at the same time, it was awful. I didn;t say anything. He was a doctor and they have to be respected don't they? He went away without saying anything. I lay there for hours trying to work out why he'd done that. I decided I was being stupid and it must have been a medical examination of some kind. From the distance of 35 years I realised it wasn't.

The other thing happened when I was 32. I was married and had just had 3rd DC. I was walking home from shopping with her (aged 4 months) in the pram when I realised this bloke was following me. I kept slowing down to let him pass but he slowed down too so he was always behind me. I crossed the road. He crossed the road. I crossed back. So did he. I ran home with the pram, and slammed the door and locked it. I looked out of the window, and he was wandering around in the street outside. (We lived in a cul-de-sac and he clearly didn't know the area.)
I rang then DH and told him and he told me to call the police. I felt I might be being silly and over reacting but I rang anyway. The officer I spoke to assured me I'd done the right thing and they sent a car to drive around the area.
The next day they rang me and told me the bloke had been arrested for exposing himself to school girls.
Just realised, nothing creepy was actually said to me but it sure felt creepy!

Hope I'm not hogging the thread, apologies if I am. I feel so protective of young girls these days. I have two daughters and the youngest is 21. The unwanted attention, remarks and even groping she has received from men old enough to be her father is sickening.
When she and her friends were at school they had to walk past East European men who would deliberately station themselves where they could watch these 13 and 14 year olds walking past and shout things at them. I used to go and meet my daughter and her friends, taking the dog with me and the men were curiously silent on those occasions.
Where do men get the idea that this is acceptable? Is it the prevalence of porn? They watch something and then think all young women are 'up for it' and welcome their sleazy advances?

''I hope you don't mind me saying, but you have a gorgeous body'' said to teenage me on the first day of my new job, by the boss.

Soooo I put everything I could find on the floor and walked out.

My DH family is a boy strange (though I would never say that to him.)
His father calls me his little bunny and I think it's kind of odd.

Thought of another one, around 2000. Aged 19 and at work, one of the men, mid 30s was leering over the work experience girl, 15. Turned to me and said ‘would like a go on that, bet she’s tight as’ To make matters worse, her mum was one of our colleagues. Fortunately she didn’t hear. Wish I’d said something now though although the manager was a complete waste of space and probably wouldn’t have done anything about it. I vaguely remember telling some colleagues and them being shocked but no one doing anything.

Oh another one. No words but actions. On a tour group on holiday aged 19, a friend told me an older man in the group had been taking photographs of me as I bent over on the beach! He was in his 70s, big director in shell and had one of those long SLR lenses for zooming in. Yuck!

Who taught you to pour tea so well?

Said by a dad of a friend. Same man who also was trying to convince his wife to let him have a second wife at the time. He was a 5 foot something, balding, uneducated, dad of my friend while I was a very attractive and high achieving teenager. Either he was so stupid that he didn’t realise how much I looked down on him or he got off on it.

"One hour lesson isn't enough. Sell your body, anything, to get some money"

I was 18, said to me by my driving instructor. Needless to say I didn't have another lesson with that company.

Horrific stories like these are why we continue to fight to retain sex-based facilities and services for women and girls.

If this is what men can do to us in public spaces imagine what they would do to us in a changing room, or a toilet.

@goldie04 Yes, I think just about everything my driving instructor said was inappropriate. In fact, it just seemed to be expected that driving instructors were inappropriate - not sure why we all just accepted that!

I was followed from school to the train station by a boy in my year when I was 14. He told me he had been right behind me the whole way and he could easily have knocked me out and strangled me because I was aware of him. He then added that my parents wouldn’t notice for a week because I was so quiet.
My boss came to the local pub where I played pool with my friends and began to gyrate against the table until he had an erection poking through his clothes and tried “seductively” telling me he had a delicious hard on.

I've just remembered a horrible one.

I was 16 and I went to a local FP clinic to get the pill. Every single time I went (once every 3 months) the doctor told me I had to have a breast examination and internal. It wasn't until I was discussing with my friends how I was starting feel like having the pill wasn't worth the horribleness, that I found out they'd had totally different treatment!

Worst thing was, he used to send the nurse out of the room and conduct these examination is the semi darkness, with just a small anglepoise lamp. When he did the breast examination, his bulging crotch was right by my face and he made awful 'Mmmm, mmm' noises.