What puts you off an online dating profile

[singlemum81]

Top of the list for me is selfies with tops off or drinking cans of beer

Yes, I second photos with kids in. Either crop them out if you think you look great in it or choose/take another one. If you want people to know you have kids, just say so in your profile.

Interestingly though, women's profiles can be just as bad...I may have seen my bf's Bumble feed...

(he's not active on it any longer but we both kept our accounts to save our messages to each other)

Wearing a vest
Being topless
Not being able to see eyes, always in sunglasses
No smiling = shitty teeth. If I can't see your teeth... nope!
Jewellery - earrings, big necklaces, chunky bracelets
As I'm well out of the other side of young kids, if they have younger kids in the picture, nope!
Too many tattoos
Neck tattoos
All selfies... probably with someone else.
Photo's with fish or tigers etc...
Pic laying in bed.
Tight swimming trunks!
Profile - 'Just ask'!! Fuckoff you dickhead. If you've nothing even remotely interesting to tell me then.....

I like to see a happy smiley person, who seems to like to have fun and has lots of friends etc....
However, I've not been OLD for about 2 years. I'm too happy with my single life to try to fit a bloke into it!

Oh yeah - pictures in the gym!!! Totally agree with that one.

Bad grammar and spelling

Photos with their arm around a woman who has been cropped out. Clearly a girlfriend/ex, why would you use that picture at all.

Looking serious and pretentious.
New age woo waffle about advanced yoga and finding himself
Bad spelling and grammar
Describes himself as lovely, easy going or “just a fun guy”
Wants to travel the world and do loads of extreme sports with me, despite having young kids. I always think hmm bet your ex loves that.

I’ve never been on a date! Just looked at the profiles. :o

All of the above...plus those awful photos where they have very obviously not bothered to check (or don't care!) what is in the background of the shot...bedrooms with unmade bed, pants on the floor, washing draped over radiators, piles of rubbish everywhere, dirty kitchen, toilet seat up and contents of bowl visible 🤢...just no! Check your background!

Oh and the "looking for a like minded woman". WTF does this actually mean? I want to ask them...but I just can't be arsed 🤷‍♀️

No bio and pictures with the ex. But I've sworn off OLD as it was seriously affecting my mental health and making me so unhappy.

I'm friends with the guy I like on Facebook, he recently posted the aformentioned topless picture of him lying in his bed. On an OLD profile it would have made me cringe but it cheered me up no end seeing it😂

University of Life/School of Hard Knocks is an absolute red flag. Totally. Nothing wrong with not having tertiary education but anyone who tries to turn boneheadedness and cliche into a virtue is to be avoided.

Shirtless selfies. Your beer belly is not a selling point.
Pictures involving beer or fishing kit.
Pictures of blokes in cycling gear.
Self-pitying/defensive rants about how badly they've been hurt by women in the past.
Prescriptive shopping lists of how women should conduct themselves.
Studied wackiness.

Anyone who claims to be easy going. (So they will passively prioritise the wants of their mum/mates.)

There was one profile that stated he didn’t like arguing. No doubt his ex is a “psycho”.

Anyone who stipulates they want someone much younger than them.

@Joans3rddaughter “ By "asshole" do you mean arsehole?
Oh the irony!” The poster who wrote this is probably American or Canadian. Not a misspelling, a different spelling. We pronounce it and spell it differently than in the UK.

All of these sound awful! My friends are regularly telling me to try OLD but I never thought it was my cup of tea. This thread has confirmed it!

When I meet guys in real life a massive turn off is ranting about their "psycho" ex or about women in general.

Lesbian here....things on a profile that put me off:

• Snapchat filters
• No written content
• Poorly written content
• "4:20 friendly"
• "Looking for a third"
• Stupid, stereotypical 'lesbian poses'
• Alcohol in every photo and no other obvious hobbies/interests

I gave up OLD, the pickings where I live are slim.
Sunglasses-everyone looks 20% better in sunglasses.
The weird bed sleepy photo-not sexy
The angry profiles about how they have been mistreated and won’t stand for it anymore
The lists requesting what the don’t want-particularly the fact they hate ‘plastic’ faces.
Declaring themselves honest and genuine accompanied with very old photos-if your saying you are 38, photos that depict your uni leavers ball/blackberry phones/clothes that were fashionable in 2000 stick out!
Actually, any profile saying they are honest, kind, nice etc-if you have to tell people you are, it means your not.
No profile-lazy
References to 420
‘Just ask me’-no thank you
Group photos
Photos with children/ex’s/their grandparents/parents-I don’t want to go out with them!
Putting in their profile that they own their own home/car-I don’t know why this annoys me it just does.
Profiles that say they ‘like going out but also like staying home’ so devoid of personality,
Photos with drugged tigers/up summits/loads of holidays, I have nether the time or the money for these things.
Lack of care in photos, messy bedrooms, unmade beds, uncleared kitchens-if they don’t bother making a good impression first off imagine living with them, yuk
Declaring themselves a ‘fixer upper’-I have seen this and the misplaced confidence that this man considered himself so great that women would be falling over themselves to help him become better, rather than put the work in himself was astounding.

Obsession with women being gold diggers-always live with parents/in a house share-what am I going to dig for-your bed linen. These types are also tight when it comes to dating-unattractive overall.
Men that put ‘it’s time I got a girlfriend and settled down‘ like it’s looking for a job-and any women will do.
Bad clothes/trainers
Fat and old
Long lists of stuff they like-always includes ‘eclectic taste in music’-like everyone else have been listening to the same take that album since they were 12. It always seems that these men rather than developing a personality rely on the things they like to define them.

Reading through these posts, I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks this! Right now, pof is full of these types.

Being in a southern Hampshire city, the one thing that makes my teeth itch is a message that says 'how's you'

Another thing that pisses me off is when they change their profile pic so you click on it to only find it's the bloody person. Sneaky fuckers.

*Same bloody person

This thread is hilarious. What is the 420??? I think it's all been covered. Reading Mumsnet and old don't really go together it's like having a satsuma with a cup of tea.

Just thought of another one that annoys me...

The guys who are clearly bald and try to hide it with sunglasses on forehead, a hat (even worse is a chav type hat) or the pic is cropped from forehead up. Last pic is a blurry full on selfie and as sure as fuck they have a shiny head. Hair is described as 'shaved'.

Jesus, if you're bald you're bald!

420 is a cannabis smoker

Definitely 'if you want to know ask' I'd like a little bit of info before I decide if it's worth striking up a conversation.

Pretty much all of the above!! singlemum81 I call that hatfishing!!

I also can’t stand blokes (or anyone!) who justifies how much they love their kids in their profile “my kids are my world and if you can’t handle that....” kinda crap!

What about the pics of them in a 'nice suit'...except they've taken a selfie in the changing room and the tags are still hanging off

One of the very early on questions from me is how often they see their kids