What puts you off an online dating profile

[singlemum81]

Top of the list for me is selfies with tops off or drinking cans of beer

I know this is slightly off topic but this thread reminded me of a horrible online dating episode a few years ago. I was messaged by 'Colin' whose profile showed he was from my town, very sporty, etc. Token pic of him with drugged up tiger... Not my cup of tea so I replied a polite no thanks. He replied telling me to 'keep one eye open' as he was going to 'destroy' me. His main pic was actually of a respectable looking guy in a suit - not someone who would come out with something like that. Obviously I didn't like that as he was from my small town, so I sent a stern message back and blocked.
Over the next week or two, I received eleven messages from men all round the North East with full genuine-appearing profiles, sending me messages that ended 'oh by the way, has Colin found you yet?' 'Have you and Colin met up yet, he can't wait to meet you,' etc. It really, really scared me to be honest and I ended up deleting my profile. I wil never get what was going on either... Was this 'colin' in control of all these profiles? Why?! Anyway... Sorry to throw that in there, just reminded me of it.

@AnduinsGirl - you should have reported that to the police! Crikey!

When I did OLD a man who messaged me posted a photo on his profile of him with a python around his neck, it wasn't his snake. I said although I'm not bothered by snakes a lot of people are and it might put them off contacting him. He thanked me for my feedback.

Baseball hats
Photos of them with fish, motorbikes, or fast cars
Can’t spell, confuse their, there, and they’re and loose and lose
Ideal woman is 20-30 and they’re 55 🙄
Boring taste in music
Making snide remarks about millennials (my kids are millennials and I really dislike how people speak about that age group)

Probably lots more - I almost never saw any likely prospects when I was trying it, they all looked like baseball-hatted, bad spelling, cookie cutter versions of the same man.

Very long profiles

Angry profiles going on about what they don't want

Men who say "don't just message me with hi or hey" and make a big deal about it

Profiles with no photos, only one photo or photos with them with other people so you don't know which one they are

Claims to be a "nice guy"

Pictures of themselves at their own wedding. I saw a few on tinder and it blew my mind every time.
Just, why?

I did online dating briefly a few years ago. I'd never do it again.

Witchofzog yes!

Also, men who have 'sexy' photos of themselves in bed/a bubble bath.

Men whose profiles indicate misogynistic tendencies - covers the vast majority of them.

I used to like a bit of humour and self deprecation but not 'woe is me' blame all women profiles.

I had messages from some real charmers...

All were men I'd been chatting to for about a week or so. One went out and got drunk and sent me some angry messages and then tried apologising profusely the next day; one who told me that it was no wonder I was single because I refused to tell him my weight and measurements; one who ranted at me that I was taking the piss because there was no way a woman who looked like me would be interested in him; another who sent a follow up message because I hadn't replied (because I was asleep) stating that he was blocking me because he wanted a woman who'd make him a priority and there was no good reason for not replying to his midnight message...

There are an awful lot of angry, woman hating men doing online dating!

I'm the same as the op, anyone with a top off is a no no

Mirror Selfies 🤢

All of the above plus men who have photos with some sort of Snapchat filter on, have only memes as profile pics or are doing a duck face.

@NeverCastaClout I know but I didn't think I'd be taken seriously. Some very weird people out there!
Completely agree with the "angry" men, the "nice guys like me always get shit on" men, and anyone with a "psycho ex."

All of the above but to also include bog shots (of them in bathrooms etc - with toilet seats up 😱)
And of course shots of them with no top on (showing off their bodies with their dicks almost on show. I mean, just why? What on Earth are they thinking?

Oh yeh, and men pouting. So revolting.

All of the above.
If they can't be arsed to smile, I'm not interested.
The first picture being chosen to show off activities rather than the person.
Dark glasses. Why?

It has been a while since I’ve done OLD. Fortunately the selfie filters and duck face look weren’t around then.

Agree with what everyone has said above. My particular hates are:
Men who won’t consider dating women any older than them (or even women their age).
Women hating men with a huge chip on their shoulder
Poor spelling and grammar

For me it used to be a really negative bio. There were a few men who listed everything they didn't want in a woman. Or where they would write something like "if you're overweight, drink or smoke no need apply". But then they would also be going on about the beautiful women calling them fake profiles and saying things like "you might look amazing but if you haven't got the brains, no need apply". Just really derogatory stuff and I can't imagine anyone being interested in getting to know them.

To ErrrmWTAF

By "asshole" do you mean arsehole?
Oh the irony!

Photos with their prestige 'look at how much money I earn' cars. This.

My exH bought himself a BMW because he believed he deserved it. And, he said he could afford it. Except he couldn't afford to pay for repairs, or his share of bills but he could still afford it, as long as his dad bailed him out by paying for repairs, and his mum paid his car tax.

I shudder to think I married that massive man child.

Men who say in their profiles ' why do you lot only go on looks' then their first message to me is ' hi gorgeous'
Men who ask me ' how's you'
Men who think it's ok to just say 'mmmmm' as a first message
Men who say ' not bad lady let's have some excitement' as a first message

Plus everything PP's have said so far

Why on earth do people put themselves through it?

I’m kind of realising that old isn’t for me

Lots of pictures, not a single smile
Selfies inside the car/lorry cab - have you not got the gumption to even get out of the vehicle and find a decent background for the photo?
A message demanding more photos - no, you entitled twat

@Jeffersona because once you hit a certain age it can quite difficult to meet someone. You can rarely meet someone in a bar like you would have done years ago, a hobby is a good way of meeting someone but some people's hobbies are more solitary and work is a big no no for many of us. So sadly online dating it is

So many things. Obviously drugged animal photos. Ugh. The ones who clearly aren’t doing well and whose profiles is a list of complaints about women. The ones with pictures of their dicks, particularly next to coke cans/remote controls next to them. Or any topless weightlifting pics or any topless posing really, bathroom selfies (seriously why), spelling mistakes, lists of demands such as built, ethnicity and requires “values”, and the guy whose job stated “barrister” who was wearing a t shirt with a rape joke on it.

Men who post pictures of themselves wearing sunglasses.....