A little suspicious - any knowledgeable WhatsApp users around?

[Butteredtoastandcoffee]

Changed username for this.

I think DH might be blocking and unblocking me on WhatsApp.

He works away midweek. I noticed randomly a while ago that his profile pic on WhatsApp had changed to nothing. Before it had been a pic of us all.

Then noticed on sons phone a while later (he was showing me messages) it was a pic of the kids.

I didn't think much of it. Then I was whatsapping someone and his pic was of the kids on mine too. Basically thought I must have been mistaken and promptly forgot all about it. We very rarely WhatsApp each other, we mainly use iMessage but he uses WhatsApp with the kids and other family/friends. I use it for the kids and workmates mainly.

Fast forward to last night. Was on WhatsApp and saw the picture of the kids. He is quite high up on my chats list.

For some reason I screenshot it. Then this morning, went to WhatsApp my sister and the pic is back to nothing again. It's of the kids on my sons!

I WhatsApped a message and it's just got one tick and has for ages. But on a group kids chat we are on it went to two straight away for him when I messaged this morning.

This is just weird!

It can't be that he wants to hide his last online as he has that set so nobody sees that anyway. He wouldn't need to block me for that.

Any ideas as to why?

I know the right thing to do is ask. I don't really want to do that right now.

I wouldn’t confront him at all until you have solid proof 🤔 he will minimize and act like your crazy he will act stunned , flabbergasted almost . He’s already gaslighting you so I think there’s more to this and he’s been subtly (without you realizing) emotionally fucking with your head . Don’t underestimate how manipulative these people can be and the lengths they go to to get what they want.He is absolutely up to something whether she is real or virtual same thing . He’s a liar . Get your house in order look over financial accounts etc get all that done and be on a strong foot when you confront as he will mess with your head when he realizes the games up . Protect yourself and the kids first trust me I’ve been there it’s very hard to be rational especially when you still love him , you already know your gut is screaming at u . I’m so sorry he’s been so stupid you sound like such a stable trusting person and he’s abused that 😡 let karma look after him you mind you and the kids no man is worth that pain

I’m not through the whole thread yet, but if you can get to his phone the open WhatsApp > settings > WhatsApp web/desktop, you can scan the QR code on your phone and you can see his whatsapp in real time and won’t know you’ve done it either.

The trouble is with this, is the icon for being on Whatsapp Web shows up on the person's phone, logged into Whatsapp Web. I use Whatsapp Web for work sometimes and the icon shows up on my phone when I'm using it. So it is quite obvious and not undetectable at all.

Yes ! To the above message ! Perfect way to get proof 😉 I’m not on whats app so wouldn’t have a clue but get cold hard facts first just bite really hard on your tongue for now

Good luck today op. I hope you've managed to get through the week Without too much headache & haven't given him a chance to suspect you suspect. 💐

*heartache (sorry!)

Wishing you all the best this weekend. Hopefully you can grab the phone and see what's going on.

I'm being blocked. I can see that from his phone. Blocked and unblocked as per the pattern I noticed.

No archived messages folder which is strange. No recently deleted photos in folder.

No sign of what activity is going on though during the periods I'm blocked

When I go to calls in WhatsApp there's nothing there for the days I'm blocked either!

OP he could have deleted all recent chats and calls, have you looked at his contacts?

Can you call him 5 mins into being blocked?

I haven't been blocked since Monday. One time I was blocked, he answered when I rang but it was very quickly after being blocked.

I was blocked on Monday night but on my checking phone, he only seemed to stay online for a few mins.

I haven't been blocked since then but when I looked at his version of our chat, it clearly shows he has been blocking and unblocking me!

So strange. I really don’t have a clue why he’s doing that but it doesn’t sound good.

I hope you can get to the bottom of it. Don’t confront him about it yet, keep digging first as he will only deny then change his pattern.

What about the SIM card thing? If he's changing that, wouldn't it be on the other account?

@jellyontoast7

That's what I'm torn about.

If I ask now, there really is no good bloody reason, but it also doesn't show anything

I checked the back of the phone, no other sim.

His isn't one that can take 2 apparently.

I probably need to get to the car

Yes searched his contacts too. Nothing of note.

I think I have to "hope" he does it while at home so I can go and ask for his phone

When he’s away does he stay at the same place? Could it be that he leaves the extra sim there or at his work so you don’t ever find it?

I think he must be up to no good and agree you can't ask him now and as the poor lady in other thread shows atm (Someone knocked on my door accusing DP of cheating on me) cheaters lie very well!

Yes, same place. It's accommodation that comes with his job. He could leave it there. I think he blocked me at home recently but that's because he was here for an extended period so maybe felt he had to stay in touch over that period?

I agree. I don't feel I have enough to confront with yet. I think he will lie and I will be no further forward.

Who’s in his blocked list? Anyone else ?

Wonder if he’s blocking someone else when at home ?

Internet history?
Battery usage? See what apps he’s using the most..

That's a good idea. Perhaps he is making sure the phone doesn't receive a WA call when home in case you answer Mike's call....only it's not Mike?!

Could block you when with someone else and the someone else when at home?

So no parallel app? Nothing suspicious on the Battery list? 🤔

Does he use Google? You could look at his Activity on his account.

Yes could well be hidden under a man's name.

I think you need to spring a long evening phone call on him at the time he would normally block you. Some conversation he can't get out of...