Meeting someone at 48

[Lazingonasunnyafternoon20]

Is it too late?

I don't think so but perhaps others think otherwise?

Am due to start a new job soon with plenty of potential to meet someone - moving to new area.

I still want a nice home and good lifestyle but at this age, broke and starting at the bottom again, today I am starting to wonder if its a dream rather than a realistic goal.

Serenade, send a longer message, acknowledge what they say, add your view as well and always finish with a question so they find it easier to follow the conversation.

I am not a hippy but there may be a few decades since I last did my nails, and hardly wear any make up, it seems that my most successful photo was of me making some pastries (admittedly, I only did them once, that’s why I had the photo of the “once in a life time experience“ but the important thing is to look friendly and approachable (unless you look like a model)... and whatever you do, do not use filters (especially those with animal noses and ears), nobody likes to show up for a date to realise the person look years older than in their photos. 🙂

@TheMotherofAllDilemmas

I kind of did that with one. He asked what I was doing, I told him (painting) and asked what he was doing. Silence.

My picture is just me, nothing fancy and is a good reflection of how I look most days - I figure if they like me at my worst, it can only get better!!!!

Perhaps I haven't given enough to get a conversation going.

Yes, I find the photos are difficult to get right, OP and serenada.
I seem to have stopped being photogenic in my 40s - I used to be. I still get some attention and evn compliments in reality, including younger guys, but it doesn't translate in photos - prob as I can't do selfies and my friend who I ask to take photos is not great at catching the right angle!

On the other hand, you keep hearing from men saying that women look nothing like their phtos - so I'm against editing / filtering! But au naturel, and you just tendto look older.
OP yes to showing some initiative. What kind of site are you using - too many to sift thhrough?

serenada I can only see nice hair! and you look young.

@CatAndHisKit Thank you! You can't see the grey

I remember reading that they use different make up for older skin on telly so that they don't look so washed out - I would say that's the biggest difference as I 've aged - I look so much paler. It's hard to see yourself objectively and not through the critical lense of teenage you.

exactly! having been used to really nice photos of yourself when younger, I don't think any photos of me are any good now! I still can look good in the mirror.
HOw do you manage to get the lighting so even - the colour looks great! I'd recommend blush (definitely) for photos! NOt a strong colour, but it lifts the face and breaks up the paleness. Im pale too but was always pale.

*myself

Cat, I cannot even take a nice selfie these days, either my glasses reflect the camera or I come with almost closed eyes as I can’t see if I remove them... sigh*

HOw do you manage to get the lighting so even - the colour looks great!

Me? I've no idea - fluke (and I work with Photoshop!!!)

I knew I'd get stressed about it if I thought too much about putting them up and what i looked like so just took the pictures as I was and thought 'this is me - it'll have to do'

NOt sure whether that was inner strength speaking or inner resignation

I have gone lighter in hair colour as I have got older - they say that helps.

serenada haha no that just mean you look good enough as you are! AND get very good lighting in your house (or as you say good photoshop skills - but no, it doesn't look edited). I can editi contrast and colour but when it's all light and shade on your face - no idea how do change that!

Mother you have to ask someone - who's good! I can only ask a friend who knows why I need a photo but they aer not good at taking them .

and you def do not look 'older' going by your hair's length and texture - nice and flowy, serenada. Mine needs to be a certain shroter length to look good (ish).

longest it's ever been and I admit I wonder whether it is too girly/unprofessional - it's nearly always up in a bun (usually with a pencil holding it in place as I am so sophisticated!)

But I am enjoying the compliments so will keep it long, I think for now

However, if swishy hair doesn't lure them in - I'll have to dazzle them with my wit and intellect. It makes take some time

may

@serenada did you only give one word answer 'painting'? If so, you need to elaborate.

I think looks is only the initial hook, to put it bluntly, then it's about amusing chit chat and being interested in them and hopefully them being interested in you. If it's hard work, they will move on because that is the kind of world OLD is, unfortunately.

Several months on Match but met my now H on POF and I'm WAY older than you OP. Didn't have any horrible experiences unless you count "really boring " as horrible but did have my share of ghosting etc. As they say it's a numbers game but I got lucky early on .

Hello.. pooping back just to tell my experience. I tried pof but then went on tinder which was great fun for chats. I'd say put on a smiley approachable picture and a really short light hearted bio. Do not mention being broke! It works both ways as my man did the same and it appealed to me. I chatted to loads of men, most pleasant, but met him first and we are still together.

Oh, and put a full length picture too, I'd say.

Oh, and put a full length picture too, I'd say.
@Mascotte I was going to say that.

I don't think all men will bothered about what job you have. I have 2 low paid jobs, I didn't specify on my profile exactly what I do but not many men were out off. I had interest from graduates, men who had worked overseas and I had a 6 month thing with a guy who has a PhD. He didn't look down on what I do for a living.

I am 52 and have been dating a 48 year old for 6 months. We met on Bumble and went on a date within a few hours of me joining.
It was the first date I had where I thought Wow when I saw him.

He has a good heart and is very funny. His profile said 'friendly easy going guy, and that's what he is. He makes me feel how I want a man to make me feel.

@Daftapath

No, I elaborated a bit and then asked him what he was doing.

I don't understand someone liking you, you like them back and say hi and then nothing.

Are we expected to do all the heavy lifting even online???

Oh no - I have got it wrong - have 6 'likes' - only 2 who I would entertain.

@HowCowBrownNow

Sounds good!