How does everyone feel about p0rn?

[warmsummersday]

Hi. Im feeling abit insecure at the mo, OH works away in the week and all I can think about for the past couple of weeks is porn and I don't like the idea of him looking at it. I don't know why. Obviuosly I know he looks at it, just like everyother tom dick and harry! I have some but for me to look at it is fine in my head. Can someone reasure me and make me feel better please?

and this is what I'm like without alcohol...just think what i'll be confessing to at the xmas do

Should I tell you that I once had sex with dh so he'd buy me a nppy???

nappy even!

KHIN, I don't know, what does it say about your attitude to women?

There is an argument that women become used to viewing the world through a male "lens" and that influences the way they perceive other women. It's one that makes a lot of sense to me.

smallwhitecat, I'd be with you, if I could get past my purely aesthetic distaste for porn and the people who use it. I mean people should be free to wear shell suits, but I wouldn't want to date a man who did.

A fine reason for it!

Lookin forward to the Xmas do even more now!!!

I wasn't reffering to my dh sneaking around, cause he doesn't and he doesn't need to (it was me trying to making a gerneral point that, that is what is happening to a majority of women who don't know weather thier dh/dp whatever are D.I.Ying while looking at porn)
At the moment I am refusing sex with my so he has to D.I.Y if he wants any, due to his recent snip and my lack of intrest in sex due to too many screaming kids and not enough sleep.
Hell he has even done it in bed next to me.

I don't think that my relationship with my dh is more open and honest than people who don't use porn. It is alot more open and honest that other relationships I have been in, where I was hidding the fact that I look at porn.

I also don't think I view the world through a man's "lens". I'm a woman, I relaly don't care about whether men look at porn or not. I like it, I get off on it. I don't care if I don't fall into the Feminist "we must not exploit women but who gives a shit about the men" group.

FlameSparrow you think this is bad for norma, you haven't heard anything yet!!!

Oh and I'm sorry if that means you don't like me skidoodle...personally I like to find out a bit more about people before writing them off.

Actually I'm not being degraded. What the fuck is degrading about me wanting to be fucked up the arse? I like it...it makes me cum, lots...that's not degrading.

To be honest I find it more degrading when other women refuse to accept I may like rough sex. I find it more degrading that people feel they have to speak up for me and what "women" want. I find it more degrading that people presume that if a man is dominating he is controlling me. I find it degrading that women can't accept that being submissive is not a sign of weakness.

How is it degrading her if she loves it and wants it, do you need to look up what degrading means?????

You're obviously doing it wrong if it's painful and traumatic. Personally I find it rather enjoyable. I doubt you'd criticise a gay man in the same way.

i should think if that were the case, tehn hospitals would be full to bursting with gay men.

Actually more hetro couples par take in anal sex then you'd think, and I think it's quite insulting to say it is degrading.

How can a sexual act between 2 consenting adults who Enjoy it possible be degrading?

Anyway all of yuo women who ban your men from looking at porn I bet that soem of them do it anyway - you just haven't found out yet. That's why on MN there are so many 'My dh/dp has been looking at porn and I'm devastated' threads.

I bet ya.

Do you understand the meaning of the word degrading?

Is double entry degrading? what about blow jobs? What about fisting? Is sex degrading? Is doggy style degrading?

Where exactly do you draw the line? Is that the line everyone uses? Are you taking away my freedom of choice and degrading me in doing so?

If someone wants to be pissed on what's wrong with it?

Just want to thank smallwhitecat, skidoodle and elisabethth for bothering to stand up and argue intelligently about this issue.

'It makes me laugh or yawn' - I quite agree.

I also question this portrayal of men as having some huge sexual drive which must find an outlet, pornographic or otherwise if his partner doesn't deliver. Pretty Victorian isn't it?

I know some people in the industry and it's well known that for users (read pathetic ripped off customers often) it's compulsive and people look for ever weirder fetishes and regular non-porn inspired sex becomes less of a turn on or none at all.

So because it is not sane to you, a person who assumes that she is sane and speaks for "women" that means that it is degrading?
Who are you to say what is degrading, you may find it so, but to other inculding the participants it is prefectly "normal".

"I also question this portrayal of men as having some huge sexual drive which must find an outlet, pornographic or otherwise if his partner doesn't deliver. Pretty Victorian isn't it?"

I don't claim that of men. In fact in my relationship it's me that has the higher sex drive.

As for your ripped off customers...the porn I use is free.