How does everyone feel about p0rn?

[warmsummersday]

Hi. Im feeling abit insecure at the mo, OH works away in the week and all I can think about for the past couple of weeks is porn and I don't like the idea of him looking at it. I don't know why. Obviuosly I know he looks at it, just like everyother tom dick and harry! I have some but for me to look at it is fine in my head. Can someone reasure me and make me feel better please?

Knee high - that's extremely rude. I made it clear I was actually ASKING A QUESTION seeing as I hadn't met anyone.

Thanks for answering - glad that you think you're mentally healthy

Maybe you've got anger issues though

Elizabetth - "Mind you I've never come across a male porn user who could find it"

Have you watched much porn then?

and yes, I do know that I influence my children. For this reason I will teach my sons to respect women, and to respect that women know their own minds. I will also teach them that is is not dirty or disgusting to enjoy viewing the female form.

I know what the G-spot is kneehighinnappies, it's part of the clitoris. Did you know that?

Why does everybody who has things stuck up their bottoms want everybody else to have it done to them too? Do you not want to be the only ones on the end of this rubbishy treatment or something? I'll pass.

Madamez,

You're right, that's why I asked the question.

I used to be a Relate therapist - hence all I met were people fucked up by porn.

And obviously fucked up by many other things as well................

Actually LFC there's probably the same percentage of fuckups on here as on any other discussion site. There's a whole topic on mental health issues where people discuss various problems they have now or have had in the past. You could, of course, go and start a topic there asking how many people want to blame 'porn' for their difficulties, but you would have to remember that you'd get no guarantee of honesty in any answers given.

laurie...i get completely and totally why you feel the way you do...imo you need to be careful of generalising from that position, but i understand why you would.

i happen to agree with elisabethh that many many (most?) women have an unsatifactory sex life/don't orgasm....i disagree totally with her reasons why, of course patriarchy and subjugation of women have something to do with it, but making sexuality taboo and making women's sexuality somehow 'tamer' than mens' has a lot to do with it.

Prehaps next time you should re-think the way you word your questions before you ask them

Here's a thread for you Elizabetth - see what men really talk about here

ah well, I don't need to worry, I shall take Elizabeths silence as confirmation that I am ok, because I like to show my body to persons of both genders

I wouldn't know if people were being honest. It's very difficult to write on here as text can be soooo misinterpreted without tone of voice.

There is a lot of defensiveness about this issue though.

The discussion is interesting, though a little heated.

It has not been rubbished. It was not relevant to this thread.

Oh yes, Sophable, I don't doubt that many women (and men) are dissatisfied with their sex lives. However Elizabetth seems to be unwilling to accept that maybe people should rethink their ideas of what is or is not morally acceptable. Perhaps if more people were open about sex & porn then there would be many less satisfied people out there.

agreed nutty.

swc you are really really little aren't you?

You made a fair point Laurie - I'm sorry you got attacked for speaking about your experiences.

"Why does everybody who has things stuck up their bottoms want everybody else to have it done to them too?"

I am Not into BUMSEX and have not said that I am, I am however it seems a bit more open minded then you about these things.

And yes that means I did know about the g-spot in my clitoris, smart arse!

no Elizabeth, Laurie was not attacked for speaking of her experiences, but for likening us to prostitutes

I'm sorry if you feel attacked LFC. I really wasn't meaning to attack you. I just feel that we aren't really talking about the effect on children. We're discussing sex and porn for consenting adults.

The clitoris doesn't extend as far as the rectum. Porn doesn't seem to do much for people's understanding of physiology. Men have an anal "g-spot" - the prostate gland. Women don't.

As for this idea that I should be more "open", it's funny how you seem to be suggesting that I should have anal sex as if it's a punishment and not enjoyable at all as is being claimed. It almost seems as if you think that anal sex would put me in my place.

Then again that's kind of my argument too. That women are being used and humiliated by men in anal sex so indeed using it as a punishment or retaliation would follow some kind of hideous logic.

I didn't liken anyone in particular to prostitutes, just made it part of a list - someone earlier (apologies i can't remember who)said they had worked as a prostitute.

I wouldn't attach women who liked porn to prostitution as that wouldn't make sense.

Elizabetth, I'm not suggesting that you should feel degraded. I'm simply suggesting that if you tried it you might like it. Perhaps you already have tried it and didn't like it. If that's the case then so be it, don't do it. I wouldn't tell anyone to do stuff they weren't happy with.

I don't feel attacked but someone said what I was saying was irrelevant.

Here's where it may be relevant(very seperate points and not related to each other):

1. porn on the internet - you don't know how old/drugged the person is so you could be watching a minor/someone coerced

2. with sub/dom stuff - I hear what you're saying that this can be felt as empowering but I don't think people start off with this so in order to get to a more empowering place mentally you have to trawl through some pretty seedy experiences - for example what someone said earlier about a club where yuk stuff happened too as well as 'empowering' stuff - hope that makes sense.