How does everyone feel about p0rn?

[warmsummersday]

Hi. Im feeling abit insecure at the mo, OH works away in the week and all I can think about for the past couple of weeks is porn and I don't like the idea of him looking at it. I don't know why. Obviuosly I know he looks at it, just like everyother tom dick and harry! I have some but for me to look at it is fine in my head. Can someone reasure me and make me feel better please?

Sophable, I am only talking about ME.

I could have been like that - I'm NOT commenting on others with that comment.

I really really could have ended up a prostitute - it nearly happened.

LFC - I had a very happy childhood thanks. Both parents around, no abuse, in fact I couldn't really fault it.

yes actually good question. do you like to masturbate? regularly. what do you use as stimulation? fantasy (erm....i thikn you're getting suspect), erotica (erm....how dare you objectify!) porn....hypocrite.

do you masturbate??????????

Not being funny but I haven't been trained to like anything.
I like it because that is who I am, I was never trained by anyone, if anything I have had to train my past lovers to do what I wanted.

"Err, actually I quite like to wank. I don't need a man around to do so."

I was talking to sophable who seemed to be implying that women need to be exhibitionists. A laughable idea indeed.

"I could easily have become one of the people on here"

yes Laurie, you WERE commenting on us, not you

We've only started talking about women's orgasms properly in about the past 40 years and even now a lot of women don't have them.

Elizabetth, maybe you should try anal sex

LFC you are making the fundamental mistake a lot of counsellors make: becasue all you see is people with problems you assume that everyone has problems. Happy healthy porn lovers (and porn performers) don't consult counsellors. WHy would they need to?

she's right nutty. lots of women don't orgasm.

lots of women don't masturbate. lots of women don't use erotica porn to help them do so.

" wonder how many really mentally healthy, fully actualised, centered, happy people there are on here who have had secure happy childhoods without abuse/absent parents/drug and alcohol dependencies/insecure childhoods."

YEAH ME THANKS FOR ASKING

What exactly are you trying to say with that pile of shite???
that we are all fucked up head cases and not "mentally healthy"

Take a look in the MIRROR LOVE!

Yeah, cos women's clitorises are up their bottoms. :/

Mind you I've never come across a male porn user who could find it.

Hilarious yet sad both at the same time.

Perhaps Elizabetth, if you were more open to sexual experiences you'd have an orgasm

Actually women can get a lot of pleasure from anal sex. I do for one.

talk me through it elisabeth. you masturbate...right???? do you fantasise? do you aid yourself in doing so?

do you NOT masturabate???

very relevant to your stance imo.

Elizabetth can I ask where you are getting yuour information from. 'all women are submissive and being humiliated in porn', all men rag about their cheap wives to their mates', 'most women dont orgasm'...I know im summarising but that seems to be the gist of what you're saying and I'm sorry but its all a load of nonsense!! It sounds like right wing tabloid stereotypes to me.

obviously not met the right men then Elizabeth. Every partner I have had has enjoyed using porn. They have all known where my clitoris is.

You don't know anything about me norma, except that I don't have anal sex and think it's a degrading act and I object to porn because it is woman-hating material.

Where you get the idea that I don't have orgasms is beyond me, but it certainly wasn't from anything I've said.

I think you might be projecting. Worry about the quality of your own sex life. Mine is fine thanks.

I'm not judging what you are doing is somehow wrong or anything. So when I say I could have become 'one of the people on here' it is not meant negatively just DESCRIPTIVELY.

I'm only saying for me that I could have ended up a prostitute if I had continued with the behaviour and attitudes my parents instilled in me.

Just like many porn stars have suffered abuse.

I mean this is a parenting site - we all know that how we bring our children up influences how they turn out. Right?

Ever heard of a G-SPOT Elizabeth?

There is one UP YOUR ARSE!!!!

Why not give it a whirl.

i was addressing the fact that there was a view being espoused on here that degrading was in the eye of the beholder....rather than the empowered senscient adult.

which is rather facistic.

the fact that you've leapt all over it says more about you swc...

Elizabetth: I get the impression your experience of men has been pretty limited and mostly unedifying. Are you a student? Men - and women - vary tremendously in their attitudes towards sex, their sexual tastes and the degree of consideration they show to their sexual partners. Young men, who are still insecure about their own sexual preferences, can sometimes be particularly boorish, but this does not justify your blanket condemnations of all men as being likely to boast about their 'mistreatment' of partners to their friends.

Well you claim that most women don't orgasm. Perhaps you do. If so, why do you state that most women don't? do you have a reference for that statistic?

I am not a prostitute Laurie. so your comment is NOT descriptive of the people on here, it IS negative

" wonder how many really mentally healthy, fully actualised, centered, happy people there are on here "

Now those are your words not ours, so YES you are being PERSONAL!