People who are having an affair? How are you managing during lockdown

[Sosweetmylovelygirl]

Just that really ! Are you missing your lover? How are you managing not seeing them during lockdown? I’m curious.

I have so been wondering this! Someone on my team at work is having an affair, but it's not the kind of thing you can ask about on the team Zoom call!

Lol too funny.

Which newspaper do you work for? Also just curious.

I would like to know how people who are leading double lives are managing.

You know the ones.... the people (usually men) who live with a partner in one city during the week and then disappear to live with another partner and their kids at the weekend and neither family knows about the other.

Admittedly they're quite rare I would have thought but they are out there.

@Perch no paper lol just a normal wife/mother that’s works in insurance. I was just curious.

Wonder if the affairs are still happening during exercise for Example and there meeting you therefore not sticking to the no contact rules.

Well, I presume these people are just not meeting. A secret affair relies on having a legitimate excuse to be away from home. If you are in lockdown you don't have that excuse.

In my opinion ppl having affairs don’t have much of a conscience so why would they stay away from their lovers?! No regard for society ‘rules’ anyway.

There was a thread on here a few days ago by a wife who had just discovered her husband had been having an affair from messages on his mobile. I think she confronted him but is now stuck with him through lockdown.

There was a news article. Lots of phone sex and the odd few are having quick meets if they have a shag pad close to work.

It must be difficult because the Travelodges & Premier Inns are closed, so where do you go for a clandestine shag if you’re both married?

Wonder if the affairs are still happening during exercise
Like in Last of the Summer Wine when Howard and Mirina went off for outing hobbies long cycles and canoodling in bushes.

Hmmm

Agree with poster upthread... You're not telling me people having affairs give a shit about following the rules of this confinement?! They'll be having clandestine meets during their daily "exercise". Pathetic, tragic and selfish.

I agree that they will still be meeting up. The thrill and the excitement means more than safety.

If they’re working from home or furloughed they might even have more time or flexibility.

Farmer friend of mine disturbed a couple in her fields so I assume some are managing it. Just the selfish cherry on the cake.

No one is going to come on here and say they're having an affair for the abuse they'll get.

But I'll bite and answer the OP. We are phone and text only (not breaking lockdown rules to the snarky posters) and no, not coping well at all. Still human, still have mental health that is impacted, still get lonely.

We are phone and text only (not breaking lockdown rules to the snarky posters) and no, not coping well at all. Still human, still have mental health that is impacted, still get lonely.

You poor thing

@roff

aww, bless

See, exactly why people don't bother.

Yes the risk is part of the thrill.

Roff well done for answering

Car parks are quieter , it's actualkyessief for many, doesn't always mean sex by the way

Actually easier

See, exactly why people don't bother.

It’s hardly something to be proud of is it?