People who are having an affair? How are you managing during lockdown

[Sosweetmylovelygirl]

Just that really ! Are you missing your lover? How are you managing not seeing them during lockdown? I’m curious.

MN is the place to tell all, anonymously. Some people don’t have people to talk to especially with sensitive topics like this, so no matter what people say on here just remember we are all entitled to our opinions right or wrong!! @

video sex sessions sounds grim.

I did expect to see more threads from women who discovered affairs during lockdown. I couldn’t respect a man who consistently lied and deceived his wife and spent time with another woman (or man) rather than his children.

@amillionwishes

I don't see how sympathising with these people is helping either. Their actions are likely to blow families apart in an unimaginable way.

no not at all I just felt curious that’s basically it

You just felt curious so you thought you’d start a thread on MN. So why don’t you go to a website for people who have affairs and ask there ? MN seems like an odd place to start your research / feed your curiosity.

There’s a lot of wronged women and victims of affairs on this forum who pop up every time these topics appear.

Many of you look silly and are clearly still hurting.

Yet, it’s the legs wide open for married men brigade that are the ones that are left alone right now..

I’ve never been cheated on but I’ve seen the affects this can have on a family

@Sosweetmylovelygirl
Wow Chill out jeeeeez loads of people discuss all different topics every day on here, it’s obviously made you curious to open up the thread and post [

Like in Last of the Summer Wine when Howard and Mirina went off for outing hobbies cycles and canoodling in bushes. Outing hobbies

This thread was already done a week in to lockdown.

To those who's black and white lives means they're SO perfect... well, people have affairs for all sorts of reasons.

Affairs are black and white. Yes people have resins and excuses but none of them justify an affair. Sorry but they don't. Yet to see a good sap story as to why an affair is justifiable.

And people don't have to be "so perfect" to have a set of decent morals and not be deceitful to others. It's like the one personality trait that I'd steer clear of even as a friend. If they can be lying deceitful assholes to the people they're closest to I hate to imagine what they could do if they decided to someone who's just a friend.....

Awesome to know that you think those who don't have affairs must be perfect though, I'll take it.

Ah come on- this is obviously a wind up thread

@RoxanneMonke

I see these constant attempts to try and make cheaters feel bad about their actions etc. What planet do these posters live on thinking someone who’s willing to fuck someone else’s husband or wife give any consideration to such comments?

These threads would be far more interesting if we just let them unfold on topic so we can learn.
Instead we get hurt women trying to derail any discussion.

*reasons

@NotMyNigel
Wow Chill out jeeeeez loads of people discuss all different topics every day on here, it’s obviously made you curious to open up the thread and post grin[confused

video sex sessions Why does it sound grim? It's just something we do anyway. Now we do it more. A lot of people in relationships do it these days anyway, it's quite normal for many people regardless of married status when they are apart. Maybe try it sometime?

Anybody having an affair is a piece of shit

@Krazynights34 why do you think it’s a wind up. It’s an every day reality for some people.

There are going to be a lot of people needing an urgent trip to the supermarket & the queue was soooooo long, at least long enough for a quick chat & a shag.

@Faye1284

It has nothing to do with compassion, I’m just saying it’s not healthy for these posters to be putting energy into this. It won’t help you heal, you won’t change anything, they won’t listen to you.

Ignore it or learn from the answers, why you were cheated on etc

@Crazychild

I see your point, but (btw I haven't been the victim of an affair - to my knowledge), it's galling to see this gloating, and laissez-faire attitude from people partaking in one of the most deceitful things you can do in a marriage/relationship. Perhaps it's true that's it's water off a duck's back to people with no morals, but it can still be voiced. We are not all "wronged women"

I don't think its a wind up thread, I'm not having an affair but it still piqued my interest to open it up and read the replies so its not totally abnormal to be nosy surely?

If you have an affair and end up leaving your dw or dh I don’t think you could ever trust each other because you cheated to get with each other.

@thebridgelooksbroken

It’s something that is very visceral for you, for whatever reason. You have been wronged in some way.

@HelloTerrance Thankyou