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Virtual Porn

117 replies

Ilovemybabym · 29/04/2020 15:39

So today I wanted to start my Spanish lessons that my friend put on a USB stick for me. I put the stick in my laptop to find that all my lessons had been deleted and had been replaced by my partners virtual porn session! This video shows him sleeping with another woman! When I confronted him about it his excuse was "it doesn't mean anything I was bored" wft bored! So I'm my head this is him being tempted to cheat or even worst it is cheating! Now I'm in two minds in what to do.... We have a 20 month old son & I've always said I don't want to bring him up from a split family but I also do not think it's acceptable to put up with this behaviour!

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WeddingNameChange · 29/04/2020 19:49

I'm usually quite relaxed about porn but that is grim. I never even knew that was a thing. Envy

edwinbear · 29/04/2020 19:51

I would think significantly less of him if I walked in on him furiously wanking with his VR headset and headphones on

^^ Same

famousforwrongreason · 29/04/2020 19:55

Grim. Poor op. That would not be for me. I find it very creepy. I admit I don't really understand how it actually looks like he's having sex with a real woman in the video.
How is his body seen in the video if he's the one wearing the vr glasses? it reminds me of people who have sex with adult sized dolls and I'd be gutted if I found a partner using Web cam girls.
Sadly I've experienced a lot of sexual deceit from partners and my opinion of men is quite low at the moment.

ReturnofSaturn · 29/04/2020 19:55

Sorry, this made me laugh at first read OP Grin.
I don't know much about this virtual porn, surely you can tell if it's real or not though.

edwinbear · 29/04/2020 20:14

www.thesun.co.uk/living/2727098/wife-catches-her-husband-watching-virtual-reality-porn-and-shes-not-happy/amp/

There is a video clip here of the bloke I posted a pic of earlier - he’s actually hitting his own arm to simulate slapping an imaginary woman’s imaginary arse. Complete with hip thrusts. I suspect VR sex is the only sex he’s going to be getting for a very long time......!

TigerKingQueen · 29/04/2020 20:18

Surely that sun video is faked, he’s fully clothed! 😂

edwinbear · 29/04/2020 20:21

Maybe he was just getting going......🤣 can you imagine what his boss/colleagues said on Monday morning?!

TigerKingQueen · 29/04/2020 20:24

Oh maybe 😂
I want to say he will never live it down but knowing some blokes these days he probably got a pat on the back! ‘Lad’ 🙈

TomPinch · 29/04/2020 20:25

Was he going

"¡Ay! ¡Ay! ¡Ay! ¡Ay!" ?

Fedupandpoor · 29/04/2020 20:30

I wonder if they have a version for women? You look up and see Jason Momoa writhing around on top of you.

yma123 · 29/04/2020 20:32

For anyone that's still confused with the concept, basically it's just like any normal porn with two porn stars having sex, apart from the angle was filmed from the males POV and not from a camera elsewhere in the room!

These videos are then uploaded onto porn sites and there would be a category on there for 'virtual porn' or 'POV porn' whatever it would be called, and people can view them on their phone just like any other videos or can link up to a headset like in the picture posted above, so to the user it is more immersive.

No cam girls involved, no real time content or prefillmed content for just one specific person to watch, it's just uploaded to porn sites for anyone to view just like any other porn, no direct contact between the viewer and the people featured in the actual video at all. I assume the OP saying her partner is "in" the video is just confusion on her behalf Smile

edwinbear · 29/04/2020 20:34

I’d take Channing Tatum in his Magic Mike get up personally. With Hugh Jackman on the side Grin

Baconisgoodformeee · 29/04/2020 20:39

But why would he save it onto the memory stick when he could just stream it?

Fedupandpoor · 29/04/2020 20:43

@edwinbear I think porn makers have missed a trick there. They should get together with those deep fake guys and create a series of male celebrity porn.

(only joking, that would be horrendous)

quietheart · 29/04/2020 20:43

What @Hyggemama said, even though it’s an unpopular view on an Internet forum predominantly dominated by women 🤷🏻‍♀️

yma123 · 29/04/2020 20:45

@fedupandpoor that has been done! I know Selena Gomez had a problem with deep fake porn being made of her, without her consent!

yma123 · 29/04/2020 20:46

@fedupandpoor but with females predominantly, not males like you suggested

tabulahrasa · 29/04/2020 20:48

I’d he’s in it... how the hell is it virtual porn?

Fedupandpoor · 29/04/2020 20:52

Oh God that's awful! Imagine watching yourself in a porno that you hadn't actually been in. Like that episode on friends with Phoebe and Ursula.

Norwolf · 29/04/2020 20:55

The way I see it its really simpler than some are making it out to be.

Its literally almost like switching 2D movies to 3D movies, making it ‘realer’ in a way but not really. He will get off what he sees, only in ‘3D’ ...its all fantasy, same as closing his eyes and wanking off while watching porn.

Or if u prefer, it’s like watching porn and going crazy at ur dildo. Its technically the same thing. And NOT real time.

Unless you have a problem with porn altogether then yeah you have a valid point based on your perspective. Otherwise just drop it Smile

Ps: they do actually have female versions too of whatever you want if thats your thing. Its just an advanced level of porn.

lmnoh · 29/04/2020 20:55

@edwinbear I interrupted my listening of the archers for that little video .... hilarious 😂

Opentooffers · 29/04/2020 21:04

I'm betting there is nothing virtual about this. If he's in it, and it looks real, it will be real.

BeetrootRocks · 29/04/2020 21:37

Well yes if op can see him in it then he's real.

It's also not virtual 'porn' it's virtual paying for sex, because it's not just watching it's supposed to feel as if involved.

The way that new tech seems invariably used to please the penis is so sad... And often pretty disturbing...animated sex dolls with a setting for not into it, child sex dolls, vr used to fuck a woman whose circs you know nothing of and etc etc

MashedSpud · 29/04/2020 22:58

Op can you clarify if you saw him in the video or if it was POV porn.

SquirtleSquad · 29/04/2020 23:22

Christ I've heard it all now