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Virtual Porn

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Ilovemybabym · 29/04/2020 15:39

So today I wanted to start my Spanish lessons that my friend put on a USB stick for me. I put the stick in my laptop to find that all my lessons had been deleted and had been replaced by my partners virtual porn session! This video shows him sleeping with another woman! When I confronted him about it his excuse was "it doesn't mean anything I was bored" wft bored! So I'm my head this is him being tempted to cheat or even worst it is cheating! Now I'm in two minds in what to do.... We have a 20 month old son & I've always said I don't want to bring him up from a split family but I also do not think it's acceptable to put up with this behaviour!

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PalePinkCarnation · 29/04/2020 17:13

Gross...

edwinbear · 29/04/2020 17:13

Ahhh I see, thanks Chiyo I had no idea this was a ‘thing’. The mind boggles.....I’d still be livid OP.

PalePinkCarnation · 29/04/2020 17:13

And did ditch him, mine very might do the same, but if I found out, I’d ditch too

Chiyo666 · 29/04/2020 17:16

Yeah, it depends how you feel about porn. Lots of porn is POV these days, this one just requires a headset. Wouldn’t bother me personally, but I’m not bothered by porn in general.

maa1992 · 29/04/2020 17:18

The porn part doesn't bother me, the fact he deleted all your Spanish lessons would bother me

edwinbear · 29/04/2020 17:20

I’m now thinking how utterly ridiculous men, (presumably the vast majority are men), must look, stood up with their trousers round their ankles, VR headset on, furiously masturbating in front of their PC’s. It’s quite pathetic when you think about it Grin

inapickle1989 · 29/04/2020 17:23

Swear to god I
Might have to come off mums net for a while it's making me go off men for life ! He would be out that door quicker than he put that headset on 🤢

pocketem · 29/04/2020 17:30

It's just porn lol
All men watch it

Greenkit · 29/04/2020 17:34

It's not "just porn" he is simulating sex with someone else, not just watching. A step too far, like video cams.

Just yuk

AnyFucker · 29/04/2020 17:34

And they say romance is dead

Chiyo666 · 29/04/2020 17:35

How is it any different to a woman watching porn and using a dildo? Sex is still being simulated in one or way or another. No actual other party is involved.

Norwolf · 29/04/2020 17:46

I second @Chiyo666. Its porn yes but he is masturbating despite looking like a complete clown....

Sorry but its actually hilarious Grin....

Would not be happy about the spanish lessons though...

edwinbear · 29/04/2020 17:54

masturbating despite looking like a complete clown

This is what I keep coming back to. I’m laid back about porn generally, but the thought of walking in on a grown man in that scenario, is hilarious. A 14 year old boy, maybe, but an adult?

Is there much take up for virtual porn for women out of interest? It seems a lot of faffing about when you can just go on porn hub.

myrtletheturtle45 · 29/04/2020 17:59

I would probably find it funny to be honest! It's definitely not cheating is it, more of an aid in masturbation.

I mean it's tragic don't get me wrong but leaving over this? Really?

RogueV · 29/04/2020 17:59

I’m now thinking how utterly ridiculous men, (presumably the vast majority are men), must look, stood up with their trousers round their ankles, VR headset on, furiously masturbating in front of their PC’s. It’s quite pathetic when you think about it

GrinGrinGrin

OntheWaves40 · 29/04/2020 18:00

What on earth, who knew

Opentooffers · 29/04/2020 18:03

So, you would likely not see any of the man involved in POV porn if you had a video of it, even if the headset was able to record the POV of the man at best you'd get is a shot with his hand on his plonker having a wank, or am I missing something ?

mugoverandover · 29/04/2020 18:05

I would leave him and I would not feel good in this situation I'm sos party for you 💐

However I just can't stop picturing a man wearing a VR headset in a room on his own stood up flinging his Rodger around like he's having real sex,

I wish you'd of walked in on him doing it and recorded it so he could see how pathetic it is 🙈🙈🙈

mugoverandover · 29/04/2020 18:10

*So sorry not sos party 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

edwinbear · 29/04/2020 18:11

However I just can't stop picturing a man wearing a VR headset in a room on his own stood up flinging his Rodger around like he's having real sex

😂😂😂 oh OP, I’m so sorry we’re having a giggle about this as it’s obviously not at all funny for you. But hopefully you can at least see how utterly ridiculous he must look indulging in this.

GilbertMarkham · 29/04/2020 18:15

If she's real then it's like cam porn/sex and I'd be out I think.

Even if it was pre recorded.

(In not sure if it's prerecorded or realtime/live - specifically for him. The second is worse bit both would be s problem for me).

So just to confirm he's not in it at all?

DianaT1969 · 29/04/2020 18:16

Can I use it to eat a lot of virtual cream cake when I'm on a diet? And it will feel like I ate it?

GilbertMarkham · 29/04/2020 18:16

I'm just imaging this taken further with sex robots in the future and you having to decide if it's cheating or not because they're not real.

Great.

GilbertMarkham · 29/04/2020 18:18

Not sure why everyone's joking around - I'd be seriously unhappy of I found out my partner was doing something like this - it's not far off cam girls - esp if it's real time.

In fact it's the sane as cam girls if it's realtime.

And my marriage would be over if cam girls were used.

Timeslikethese2020 · 29/04/2020 18:19

I don’t find it funny at all.

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