Is this just too distasteful?

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Before I'm jumped on I'm thinking yes it is

I'm late 40s . I don't look my age by any stretch but I am late forties none the less.

I'm single, and on some kind line dating sites .

Had a few dates - nothing special. I'm happy alone tbh .

On one site a very young man has been messaging me. Now I'm not stupid at all - I know he's probably on some top trumps competition for a cougar or something.....but he is very persistent and I actually feel a bit of a connection. I've had loads of young men message and I've dismissed them all . Except this one . He is younger than my kids and I'm thinking just no.....
Yet he seems very clear about what he wants and is quite refreshing. I've been chatting. I should block shouldn't I? I feel like I should be in some register somewhere just for talking to him....

Oh right. It's just that you said:

I've blocked him now thanks all for the advice.

I would block him. It’s too much of an age gap and I wouldn’t be able to take him seriously. You will be at totally different life stages.

Don't block!

Op already mentioned that he has cheekbones like Cillian Murphy and obviously that negates all other considerations.

Seriously though, people of all ages & age gaps have had flings; as long as they're both over the age of consent who gaf.

"I have a son that age and blah blah" ... Does your son look a bit like Cillian Murphy - no, then it's probably not him so just fkg stop .... And for the record, even if it wax your son he'd probably be v happy indeed to have an attractive, pleasant older woman to get his milf badge with you couldn't do anything to stop him anyway so ....

So much judgement and nastiness. He's avert willing, active, pursuing in fact participant so leave them to it.

*a very

Op as long as you have it foremost in your mind that this is all for a good time, not a long time ... And don't catch feelings, ab end up blubbering in the shower.

I see this very clearly for
What it is .!

He's not gonna marry me ! But he is beautiful, and has a personality that clicks with me 🤷🏻‍♀️

And yeah those cheek bones ......

He wants to
Spend time with me . 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why did you tell us that you had blocked him, and that he had found you on another SM platform, when that wasn't true?

I'd blocked him on the first platform but when he message me again I kind of softened.... I didn't block.

So he did ignore your decision to block him?

No way, get a grip woman 22 wtf

Another thing
If it was your son and a woman your age ?
I recon you would lose your shit, wtf
Get someone nearer your age, and stop being woed by a young kid, get a grip woman and act your bloody age

Most importantly what are you hoping to gain from this OP?

God you sound deranged. I'm almost embarrassed for you. Your flowery writing is just so cringe to read.
I also think you're making this up as you go along. Just leave this poor boy alone.

@littlebirdieblue I agree with every word you say. Predatory just about sums it up

Not judging.
But if you were my friend, I'd gently steer you elsewhere...

He wants to
Spend time with me

How is that possible now?

And if you are determined to have your head turned by overconfidence, flattery, cheekbones, and the fact that he is pretty much inaccessible...
That's how I remember middle school.
Good luck!

I don't know that many 21 year old girls into obscure music, art, comedy and galleries

He's supposedly at Uni, a lot of the girls at most Unis (decent ones at least) will be into that stuff.

I get a bad vibe about this for you but please keep us updated.

Can you block most of your ex's nasty msgs?

Don't let your self-esteem be based on any man.

I honestly feel we could fill an entire thread with your self indulgence here. Your posts read like shameless self promotion, and unless you've copied word for word what he's said to you, then you're just paraphrasing which is utterly bizarre.

Age gap and man child aside, the way you're speaking about yourself is incredibly bold!

he thinks I'm the best thing he's ever encountered

he likes me , and he really really does

He thinks I'm fairly amazing

He appears to think I'm something else

none of them come close to how I make him feel

The last one is also very intense considering you've never actually met. What an odd thread.

This is truly embarrassing

Is this the start of an erotic chick lit novel? Stunning older woman chased by, and has sex with, equally stunning very young stud type of thing? Will there be haystacks and off-the-shoulder cotton tops involved?

You need to take a good hard look at yourself...if another woman was writing this what would you say??
You are being very silly and have had your head turned by this very young man, you know he is after one thing
I am on OLD and I would be quite rich if someone gave me a fiver everytime someone the same age and younger than your admirer sent me a message. The difference is I know what is age appropriate, understand I would have absolutely zero in common with them and am old enough to be their mother. Infact my 22 year old son is just downstairs making me a cuppa.

I think we're both treating it as a bit of fun .