Is this just too distasteful?

[4tplussome]

Before I'm jumped on I'm thinking yes it is

I'm late 40s . I don't look my age by any stretch but I am late forties none the less.

I'm single, and on some kind line dating sites .

Had a few dates - nothing special. I'm happy alone tbh .

On one site a very young man has been messaging me. Now I'm not stupid at all - I know he's probably on some top trumps competition for a cougar or something.....but he is very persistent and I actually feel a bit of a connection. I've had loads of young men message and I've dismissed them all . Except this one . He is younger than my kids and I'm thinking just no.....
Yet he seems very clear about what he wants and is quite refreshing. I've been chatting. I should block shouldn't I? I feel like I should be in some register somewhere just for talking to him....

Do I sound infactuated ??

I'm not .! I'm just enjoying our chats .

Mrsmuumy

You obviously do have an issue with age gaps .

Mummy and daddy??? Really!

His mother is over 60. His father older.

Life is too short, if you get on and have chemistry then why not?

Not every relationship has to be serious, or lead to marriage. Have fun. Feel alive

Okaaay

He lives in a shared house

Oh GOD that's even worse

Hi OP...I think you should go for it but prepared for the fall. My best friend is 46 and the exact same thing happened with a young lad of the age of 23. He spent months (4 to be exact) “wooing” her online, phone calls and face time. They eventually had a date, face to face, by which time she was hook, line and sinker. He paid for an expensive meal, drinks and hotel. She had a wonderful night and it ended in sex...it wasn’t great sex either! Passionate but not skilled 🤣 Anyway they had a lovely morning the next day and then went their separate ways. The next day she hadn’t had her morning text/call off him so she decided to give him a text herself...it never got delivered, he’d blocked her 😭 Now I’m not saying this will happen to you but be aware this lad bit so much effort in but just wanted an experienced shag off my friend. She most likely taught him a few tricks as apparently he asked a lot of questions during sex 😂😂

Don't listen to anyone else, you like each other and you're both single so enjoy it x

They eventually had a date, face to face, by which time she was hook, line and sinker. He paid for an expensive meal, drinks and hotel. She had a wonderful night and it ended in sex...it wasn’t great sex either! Passionate but not skilled

My god that sounds terrible. Being bought dinner and drinks, then passionate sex with a 23 year old. I'd definitely hate that.

I think my fella is actually rather skilled! We have discussed our past .

He certainly talks like he knows what he is doing 😊

I've been with my partner for 2 years, we have a similar age gap. I was very sceptical initially, but ive never been so happy ❤️

I thought your chats were not sexual ? You are making this shit up as you go along.

That's nice dear

@AnyFucker; perhaps the conversation has moved on?

Too right

This is actually beginning to sound a bit seedy and creepy

Let’s face it OP you don’t care what we think!

Actually no I dont care anymore what anyone thinks to be fair !

And yes our conversations have moved on.

Im grinning like a Cheshire Cat most of the time , and it's definitely not me being creepy or weird. He has made it very clear he doesn't give a flying fuck, he likes me , and he really really does . 😉.

We're adults. We're single . So fuck it !

I think there are a lot worse threads here from cheating bastards. We're both single. Free to do what we feel. He thinks I'm fairly amazing and the feeling is mutual. We are harming no one . It's between us for now . It's fucking amazing actually. I have butterflies. He is hit as fuck and very much a man. So ....🤷🏻‍♀️

This is all sounding so grim and cringe!

He might be an adult, but 21 is so so young, I have a son his age, and to think he might be chatting and having sexual conversations with someone your age is just too much! Honestly you sound infatuated with him, and it doesn't matter what anyone on here says to you, you're going to do what you want anyway. In my opinion you're acting so predatory it's disgusting.

Does he live near you?

And when I've shown anyone his pic the reaction has been very favourable 😂.

My neighbour is coming over tomorrow. She was like what's butterflies? 😉

He is beautiful. A man. Very much so. And so mature beyond his years. And he loves that we are talking....he is desperate to meet . He's quiet, well educated, beautiful and he thinks I'm the best thing he's ever encountered so why stop? He loves our conversations, (he sent me a message in another language specifically to say that! And how excited he was that we had met !). He's just gorgeous in every sense. And he's actually doing me the power of good!

He actually said to me the other night I was acting like this was all my decision- he pointed out that as an adult he has a say in this too.
That's when I gave in ....and said ok. We'll talk .

I really do t give a flying anymore!

We aren't gonna get married. He's single. I'm single. We have chemistry and it's fun. 🤷🏻‍♀️

He actually said to me the other night I was acting like this was all my decision- he pointed out that as an adult he has a say in this too.
That's when I gave in ....and said ok. We'll talk .

I don't see why you've taken this as a positive. He only gets to choose to talk to you, if you agree. And you told him you didn't wish to pursue it and blocked him. He ignored your decision and found you elsewhere.

I didn't block him. And I'm actually pleased he continued to talk ....

I've been on line dating since Octobersdt year. Loads and loads of messages and about 5 dates .

He is just something else.

This has disaster written all over it.

Please be careful.