Is this just too distasteful?

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Before I'm jumped on I'm thinking yes it is

I'm late 40s . I don't look my age by any stretch but I am late forties none the less.

I'm single, and on some kind line dating sites .

Had a few dates - nothing special. I'm happy alone tbh .

On one site a very young man has been messaging me. Now I'm not stupid at all - I know he's probably on some top trumps competition for a cougar or something.....but he is very persistent and I actually feel a bit of a connection. I've had loads of young men message and I've dismissed them all . Except this one . He is younger than my kids and I'm thinking just no.....
Yet he seems very clear about what he wants and is quite refreshing. I've been chatting. I should block shouldn't I? I feel like I should be in some register somewhere just for talking to him....

I'm 39, I wouldn't.

And obviously I'm thinking he wants a hook up with someone who can teach him something

I’m assuming you mean sexually and the fact you’re even thinking like that is really disturbing.

Universe clearly out to
Flatter - 24 year old messaging now

Just quite liked the cheeky little chap of 21 but probably as a son rather than anything else! .

Nice feeling. Flattering. Won't be going there . Thanks all.

Flattering? Really?

Creepy as fuck more like.

You're on his to do list ("middle aged woman older than my mother" would be my guess)

Yes quite flattering. Said I'm not going there .

If a man had posted that a 21 year old was flirting with him and she just wanted him to teach her something, he’d get his arse handed to him.

I have said I am not going there . Please take notice of this ?

Hmm I personally wouldn't go there as I wouldn't trust him. He could be trying it on for a bet or a personal thrill. You don't really know him at all.

It would be different if for example it was a younger guy you'd got to know as a friend through work or a hobby & then a mutual attraction grew, that happens. But even then 21/22 is too young for a woman in her 40s I think.

I'm 43 & I do prefer men my age or younger eg 35-45 age group but not men that look or seem much younger than me.

However myself & a dr at work who is 29 do flirt a bit & I would date him if he asked me.
But we're also friends with stuff in common, he's mature & (a bit too) sensible, & ive known him for a year & trust him, he's not laddish.

This young man you are in contact with does sound like a bit of a lad. Just be careful.
It's just that I was sitting with 2 22 yr olds at work recently & to me they seemed very very young still.

Can you imagine once he gets it on with you and tells how many people. Are you ok with that? Guys share photos.
It's a cougar conquest.

I would tread carefully as he might be difficult To get rid of him out of your life.
Anyone online seems great.
Play it safe the younger generation online are very promiscuous.
I would not be flattered I'd be embarrassed

Maybe these young men are looking for someone for a hook up during lockdown.

To be honest it’s your business what you do.

If you do keep in contact try not to get feelings, chances are he’s looking for an experienced woman to instruct him sexually.

Don’t share any lingerie etc pics.

I used to be on a few dating sites and there are a lot of very young men who target older women. I couldn't ever imagine have anything in common with them - different experiences, generations, same age as my daughter etc. I would have an equally dim view of a man my age sending messages to my 22 year old daughter. So no, I wouldn't.

I've blocked him now thanks all for the advice.

I'd have said to go for it!

There will always be someone judging you for everything you do these days. And getting it on with a young (presumably fit and attractive) man wouldn't be an opportunity I'd pass up because of what anyone else thought about it. Bollocks to the lot of them, do whatever (and whoever) makes you happy.

That sounds like the right decision OP.

Whilst I don't doubt some people do find their soulmate in someone significantly older/younger, they're probably in the minority and I'd be willing to bet that in those situations the younger person isn't younger than the older person's children.

I'm 30 and I wouldn't but that's because my little brother is the same age and he still acts like a child 😂

It depends what your intention is. If you were looking for a one night stand and so is he then I'd say your business - go for it. A relationship would be very strained. You are more than twice his age, I cannot see what you would have in common.

I don’t think that men tend to care about age gaps (either way) as much as women do tbh. So, I’m not particularly surprised that he messaged you if he liked your photo/bio. My friend (44) has had a few dates with guys in their late twenties and they haven’t been jokers. I’m not saying “go for it” necessarily, and you don’t seem keen from your update, but don’t assume that it’s some kind of dare or bet.

He’s looking for a sugar mama.

I have said I am not going there

What would you have done if you had got more "you go for it, girl" replies ? You were looking for approval, admit it.

I've blocked him now thanks all for the advice.

I hope you explained why first and didn't just ghost him.

That would've been nasty.

Af

What the fuck? I have conversed with you under lots if names
Because I've been here a very long time.

You are simply needling me now to try and get a reaction you can be outraged at.

That's not who I am or why I'm here . I've blocked this young man . I'm single. I'm doing nothing wrong if I shag every man I meet . Do get off that high horse. I've had 2 - that's 2 - sexual relationships in 48 years.

I thought the same as plan. He's a professional and you're an innocent. He has earmarked you as sugar mama.

Worra

As before. Talked to you before under different name.

I've told him he is too young and I feel I should be in some register so I'm blocking.

It that ok ?

Yes Worra,
It would only be a matter of time before he needed £200 to buy a wheelchair for his poor mum who fell and broke her hip.