Is this just too distasteful?

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Before I'm jumped on I'm thinking yes it is

I'm late 40s . I don't look my age by any stretch but I am late forties none the less.

I'm single, and on some kind line dating sites .

Had a few dates - nothing special. I'm happy alone tbh .

On one site a very young man has been messaging me. Now I'm not stupid at all - I know he's probably on some top trumps competition for a cougar or something.....but he is very persistent and I actually feel a bit of a connection. I've had loads of young men message and I've dismissed them all . Except this one . He is younger than my kids and I'm thinking just no.....
Yet he seems very clear about what he wants and is quite refreshing. I've been chatting. I should block shouldn't I? I feel like I should be in some register somewhere just for talking to him....

I'd say try it- what've you got to lose? But, go in with your eyes open knowing you could get hurt. Good luck (post lockdown of course!)

And clearly could be no relationship . Age difference too massive and weird . He clearly wants an older woman - why I've no idea.

What do you mean by “ very young “?

I'm 48.

My kids are older which is weirding me out .

Dunno why I'm even entertaining him but he seems - older - chats wise.

It's ridiculous I know .

I wouldn't persue this one. Being a novelty tick in the box would do nothing for my self esteem.

Some men like younger women. Some men like older women. Is that really so "weird" or unbelievable?

Right now, you're not really going to be able to meet him, but when thing are a bit more relaxed, why not just go for a drink and see what sort of vibe you get off him? He might be weird and game-playing, or he might be lovely. You'll never know if you dont go for it.

I really like him. Which makes me feel a bit odd ....

I find it odd at nearly fifty you have something in common with some one this young. I suspect you’re flattered, I’d be concerned he’s taking rh piss or on some form of bet op.im sorry.

You have to do what you need to do, but I can’t see it ending well.

And if you were Male, and this a young woman, I’d be less polite.

Lots of people are happy to date people older than themselves.
Saying that, 22 seems very young, I’m a similar age to you. I’d be flattered but assumed he wanted a purely sexual hook up, up to you if you go for it.

I know . I know

I've a friend my age with a 24 year old who keeps telling me not to dismiss him but I feel 21 is just so young - too young .

And obviously I'm thinking he wants a hook up with someone who can teach him something.....

21?
I would have nothing in common with someone so young.

Sorry OP , and its your life not mine , but I would find it odd to date somebody younger than my own DC

I had somebody interested in me who is the same age as my eldest DC It just grossed me out to be honest.
Just my opinion,

He just makes me laugh ....he's a bit cheeky and seems very confident....I need to give my head a wobble don't I....

He's a bit cheeky and seems very confident

Just like my 20yo son. If you went anywhere near him I would think you were one sad woman. Pitiful.

Not 22. I'd really look down on a 48 year old man dating a 22 year old

Well would you date one of your kids friends?

I don't think this would end well at all.

If I knew my 21yo was trying his luck with a nearly 50yo who was entertaining the notion, I'd be having a few words.

Do u see a long term relationship with him? Can u present him to ur kids?
Arent u worried u may get emotionally involved with him and struggle to back out?

I feel like he's on a bet with friends. The age difference is too much for me, but thats just me

Yeah ....I get that. He has pursued me however.

I doubt very much I would feel comfortable with anything more than chat.

For me ...Just yuk. Really really really yuk.

But I'm not looking to date him. You are. So ....,

I’ve a lovely pair of friends with a 25 year age gap (the female is the older of the two). They have a 21 year old daughter so must have got together sometime in her forties and his twenties. Unusual but they are true soulmates.

My personal opinion: if no strings attached, go for it. The beauty of the universe is that everything is so diverse and different, and so are people and relationships and emotions, and it is up to person to go for it or not.
There are plenty of women liking older men and vice versa. Why would vice versa be bad???
However, if this connection gets ''weird'' - like asking/manipulating for presents/money/overdue rent/etc - drop it. If you feel uncomfortable - drop it.
In the end of the day is how you feel about it - do not look for people's opinion, it is about how you live and experience the life.

Im 31 and wouldn't date a 22 year old.

I would definitely judge.

I don't think I could go there if I'm honest - it's hugely flattering but I can't see anything else coming of it .