Is this just too distasteful?

[4tplussome]

Before I'm jumped on I'm thinking yes it is

I'm late 40s . I don't look my age by any stretch but I am late forties none the less.

I'm single, and on some kind line dating sites .

Had a few dates - nothing special. I'm happy alone tbh .

On one site a very young man has been messaging me. Now I'm not stupid at all - I know he's probably on some top trumps competition for a cougar or something.....but he is very persistent and I actually feel a bit of a connection. I've had loads of young men message and I've dismissed them all . Except this one . He is younger than my kids and I'm thinking just no.....
Yet he seems very clear about what he wants and is quite refreshing. I've been chatting. I should block shouldn't I? I feel like I should be in some register somewhere just for talking to him....

I know I'm being stupid but he seems really nice. As in nice . Not after some weird fantasy older woman thing. He says he was on the OLD as a joke, doesn't make a
Habit of talking to older women but just thinks I'm gorgeous (yeah yeah ok I get it don't start !). Says he is glad he downloaded the app. Yadda yeah I know all text book cringe.

Gilbert

I'm single . No husband to sneak around .

So he's Found me in a different platform

He's persistent little for, isn't he. Just think, if that persistence crosses over to other activities .

Move along folks, nothing to do here anymore. OPs going ahead with it, no point in trying to engage anymore.

Mr 22 Year Old is just about to Graduate!

I'm single . No husband to sneak around.

I know, I was quoting the other poster who made up the rather funny porn hub video title ... They added the hubby part presumably because that's the sort of scenario they think "sells" on there, Im pretty sure that poster realises you're single too.

Doh! Sorry . Maybe I need to get better acquainted with porn hub ....

Avalanche.

No . That's not it at all. I would feel very weirded out. He is too young .

I know I'm being stupid but he seems really nice. As in nice . Not after some weird fantasy older woman thing. He says he was on the OLD as a joke, doesn't make a
Habit of talking to older women but just thinks I'm gorgeous (yeah yeah ok I get it don't start !). Says he is glad he downloaded the app.

Of course there are exceptions to the rule, but I'd just be very cautious and cynical. There was another poster on here who had a younger man court her, was very "nice", after a few sexual encounters (when he had implied he wanted more than that) he withdrew, she called him out on it, and his response was "don't shag men young enough to be your son then!".

Lots of people can seem lovely til they get what they want.

It's an unusual 31 yr old guy who courts a nearly fifty yr old women for a lasting, normal relationship.

(Not saying you find look great and young for age).

Maybe I need to get better acquainted with porn hub ....

What has been seen cannot be unseen.

Suffice to say milf porn is big.

*21!

He says he was on the OLD as a joke

Bullshit.

That suggests he's disengenuous actually.

Who tf signs up to and messages on online dating sites as a joke? How is it ,"funny", what's the punchline of the joke.

That would irritate me actually.

I am cautious and cynical.! Thanks x

Sorry not sorry but shagging him would be totally disgusting. And yes, I'd say that if the sexes were reversed. Just gross. He's too young.

I know I'm being stupid but he seems really nice. As in nice . Not after some weird fantasy older woman thing. He says he was on the OLD as a joke, doesn't make a
Habit of talking to older women but just thinks I'm gorgeous (yeah yeah ok I get it don't start !). Says he is glad he downloaded the app.

I don't get it? So you think he seems nice, but at the same time you thinks he's disingenuous? Is that what you mean by don't start? Because he can't be both, surely?

Go for it! Worst you'll get is a good sh*g!

As long as you both know it's a one night thing and no strings attached! Have fun!

Where have I said that?

I think another poster said that . Not me.

Look - he is a persistent little sod clearly but I'm not "shagging" anyone - ok?

I've had sex with 2 men in 48 years so I'm hardly likely to turn into some raging hormonal super slut now .

Anyway I'd be too worried about the cellulite and varicose veins to actually "shag" anyone no matter how old .

He is safe . I promise.

Well what did you mean by "ok I get it, don't start"?

That the cynics would be out with flaming torche and pitch forks .

Worst you'll get is a good shg!*.

Strictly speaking the worst op could get is a crap shag - youth dies not guarantee sexual enjoyment.

But then you've said it's all textbook cringe? So do you think he's genuine or reading from a cringy textbook?

Anyway I'd be too worried about the cellulite and varicose veins to actually "shag" anyone no matter how old.

If women let those stop them from being sexually active, there wouldnt be much sex being had in the world. Same for men and tummies and receding hairlines. All sex past 25 would have to stop (and under it in some cases).

@4tplussome fucking HELL.

You came to the wrong place for some female support on this one. Quite shocked at the level of abuse aimed at you here!

For what it is worth, who the fuck cares ??

Bloody hell. You're single and if you want some fun, have it.

I hugely, hugely doubt this is some kind of dare as some have cynically suggested. He probably just fancies you. Jesus christ, you're not 75.

Enjoy him if you want, expect nothing. You're breaking no laws, you're not a pervert, people need to relax.

@mamato3lads

Here here!

Well the OP says she’s made her decision, but my tuppence worth is that a mental role reversal often puts things in perspective in situations like this. If I had a late-twenties son and caught myself eyeing a 21-year-old I’d be asking myself how I’d have felt about a woman of my age fucking my son the guts of ten years ago. There’s your answer.

I’m 35 and wouldn’t go with a 22 year old.