Dating Thread 188 - Living and Loving in the Lockdown

[JeSuisPrest]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

He had a zoom birthday party for his friend last night and was sleeping off a bad head 😂😂. I have no clue what's wrong with me, maybe following my abusive marriage, I need some counselling because I seem to be searching for red flags, or at least expecting them

Hope you are all well. I will read through and catch up.

Just wondered if you had all read about the 10 family and friends suggestion and whether this will make things easier for you. I'm hoping it means MR B and I can see each other properly soon...

@Tafelberg both very early stages and as you can’t see anyone they are both like friends really at this stage.

@cheesecakeaddict did he get in touch ? For some people lunchtime could be quite a wide window. He maybe got into something or took a nap. Mr g was supppsed to call me last night after 9 but he had a few to drink and fell asleep 🤦‍♀️.

@Notcoolmum I saw the 10 people thing yes but I think that could upset some people. If there is a restriction on it only being 2 or 3 homes for example as someone maybe picks friends or relatives over a partner or vice versa. Half our street already have their family and friends round most days anyway 🤦‍♀️.

And it would need to be fixed pools so if I saw my mum and dad and my brother and my bf. My brother couldn’t see his gf then her see her family. Etc if that makes sense

@Myfabby no we’ve not talked about exclusivity. You’re right though, he could well be - as could Mr Socks. Guess I need to stop overthinking this - as @Jane1978xx says it’s really early days for both and none of us really owe the other anything.

Did anyone see the article in The Times today about dating during lockdown? Resonated a lot with me.

@Jane1978xx yes he rang me up when he woke up!

@tafelberg no I didn't what did it say?

@Notcoolmum I have read it, in theory it's good but im not sure how it would work.in principal. I just can't see how they are going to police it that you only see 10 people. It could also lead to friends/family/partner arguments if you have them on your list but you aren't on theirs.
Realistically and unfortunately I can't see the lockdown being eased up on 7th May. I hope it does but I'm trying to be realistic. The numbers on new infections is still high and has not decreased dramatically. Although it's very hard to study it properly because they are testing wildly different numbers of people daily (increasing most days) it would be easier to see the trend if they had consistently been tasting x number of people per day.

@CheesecakeAddict so like me 🤣 I’m like fuming then he’ll ring and have been asleep or just busy decorating or whatever 🤦‍♀️

@Dancerinthemoonlight I agree. The statistics are massively skewed with the death stats not including care homes etc but then also including everyone who had a covid diagnosis regardless of that being their cause of death or not.

The cases stats are now going to be skewed too with previously there being hospital tests only then hospital staff and now all key workers, makes it impossible to follow any trends and see any improvements

My friend works in my local hospital. She says the numbers have fallen dramatically and there is currently plenty of capacity. This is after an horrific few weeks.

Lockdown will have to be eased at some point. It's not feasible for businesses etc to remain closed indefinitely.

From what I gather it's a bubble of around 10 people. So not 10 people each. So effectively it's enabling 2 small households to mix.

I probably won’t do anything different if this 10 people thing comes in but I may consider letting the DC choosing 1 person if that person doesn’t see too many other people

I used to get really annoyed not hearing from a boyfriend for hours on end but I think that was me being a twat about it

Doing something with friends tonight then might catch up with Mr Return on the phone but still friend zoning everyone 😂

@Notcoolmum I know that lockdown has to be eased or ended at some point.bevause the economy is.going to take a massive hit. I absolutely want it to.be eased or ended.
I just don't see the likelihood of the bubble of people you are allowed to see working as it's very difficult to police.
I want to see Mr Army at the earliest possible time but I also know that even when lockdown is eased he will be working and I'm not sure what the army's situation will be (if you are allowed to go out etc as they can lockdown the camps)

@dancemom exactly. Deaths are being putdown to covid-19 if they have tested positive even if they dies of a stroke/heart attack etc not caused through it. I'm trying not to pay too much attention to it now.
I also think that Boris is possibly going to be more tentative about easing lockdown that he would have previously been as he was hospitalised due to it.
I still hope things will be eased on 7th May but trying to be realistic and not get my hopes up.

Of course lockdown was only meant to release pressure on the NHS and to flatten the curve so we will not know or be able to.guess what will happen or what the next stage of lockdown will look like until the government announce it

I also don't think the bubble thing will work, as you say impossible to police so would rely on goodwill. However I think lockdown needs to be eased, the virus isn't going anywhere and we need to learn to build a new life around it.

I think hospital admissions might be the most reliable stat. We do know there were 6k more deaths than last year in March. Expect that to be much higher in April. I'd be happy just to mix households without my BF. Although I know that makes me very selfish. It's really the only thing about lockdown I'm struggling with.

From my view the care homes and caring staff are the ones currently being affected

COVID is also becoming a hospital acquired infection (like MRSA) because the R0 is now under 1 in the community and circulating around hospitals and care homes. Community transmission is working/low.

Mix household WITH my BF!! Doh! 😂🙈

I would just like to be able to sit out in the sunshine with another adult, share a nice bottle of wine and have a proper conversation.
I am so fed up of my own company and not having anyone to talk to.

I spent the whole day basically not really doing anything but it was amazing to turn my brain off for a while

@EchoElephant

Talk to me! Or us!

Thanks Menora I'm ok, just missing having any company.
I'm texting my friends and my 2 irons but it's not the same as seeing someone in person.

I’m same. Was going to hang out with friends online but they are all busy tonight so just me and the dog!

@CheesecakeAddict I’ve screenshot a couple of paragraphs I found interesting

@EchoElephant that’s what I hate I have not seen another adult for 5 weeks apart from Dave the Asda delivery man 🤣. My daughter is 9 she is good company but I can’t obviously show her any upset or worry’s I have.