Can I leave 'D'H to go to my parents?

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Hi all,

I need to leave my abusive husband and go to my parents with our DD?

He's more mentally abusive and emotional than physical - although he was last year. He's a very heavy drinker and he is insanely jealous and controlling.

It's a very long story to tell all on here but I need to go.

Can I go to my parents - would that be allowed considering Covid etc?!

Yes leave. Don’t stay in the home where you’re being abused.

Yes. It was explicitly stated that you if you need leave an abusive relationship then, you can.

Its classed as essential and allowed.

Sorry pressed post too soon.

Leave, it's ok. You can do it. And take care for yourself x

Thank you. I read that they will
Let you go to a refuge but surely my parents will be better?

I also think Women's Aid are offering extra support at this time to help so would be worth contacting them if you need to. Free train travel was the one thing I've definitely seen.

Yes!! Go go.
Maybe call 111 to notify and have a police marker on your parents property just in case once you arrive.
Dont wait or tell him, pack total basics and get away.

Go just go. Good luck.

I've packed stuff and got important documents etc. I've told my sister my plan so she can be on hand tomorrow if need be. DD is in bed and I know if I tried to go now it would escalate as he's been drinking since 2, thrown up and started drinking again,

Thanks .

Please leave

Yes definitely go

Go. Good luck OP

I'd wait him out. Sounds like he'll pass out at some point? And be ready to go when he does...

Good luck, OP.

You definitely can and should

Yes you can leave. If you can stay safe overnight and it's safer to leave tomorrow, then do that.

If things escalate please do call the police.

Yep. Go

Absolutely yes, I wish you well.

Wait until he passes out tonight and lift your DD and go tonight.
You have a valid reason for travelling.

How old is DD? Can she sneak out/be snuck out? How will you get to your DPs'? If it's local and she can be quiet you could go while he's asleep.

Wait until he falls asleep, because he was probably be completely unconscious with the drink soon. It doesn’t matter if it’s 2am, just get out. Are your parents in the vulnerable group and have any of you been going out regularly? You might want to think of separating yourself from your parents, within the house, if you can for the recommended time. Good luck OP. You’re making the right decision.

You're allowed to go to your parents.

Just consider how risky (re Covid) that is for your parents

Stay safe 🌷you're doing the right thing!!

And please don't stop to try and explain to him what you're doing. Just walk out with your bag and your daughter without warning when he's in the shower or something.

If you are in any danger then go

Willing you to get out safely tonight. Do let us know when you’re at your parents.

Agree, go tonight - then you won't have to explain anything or have him try to stop you tomorrow. Good luck

Please go. If your parents are in the shielding group could you go elsewhere (sister)? Or self isolate as much as poss in their house to start with. But go. You can do this. It will be hard and you may miss him at first despite being abusive because he is what you are used too. Don’t go back, don’t accept the apologies. Do the freedom programme (you can do it online), phone women’s aid and read Lundy Bancroft why does he do that (Google it). Rooting for you.