Can I leave 'D'H to go to my parents?

[lovemenomore]

Hi all,

I need to leave my abusive husband and go to my parents with our DD?

He's more mentally abusive and emotional than physical - although he was last year. He's a very heavy drinker and he is insanely jealous and controlling.

It's a very long story to tell all on here but I need to go.

Can I go to my parents - would that be allowed considering Covid etc?!

Anyway, to the poster who asked what have o done today without feeling guilty/scared wouldn't normally do - I went out without having to check if ok and justify and have been on my phone without someone looking over my shoulder....and just felt.......FREE.

that was me asking and I’m so happy you feel free! This is by far the best thing I’ve heard for a while. Have a peaceful night and well done on the massive amount you’ve achieved today.

You know your situation best Nd how your husband reacts best.
Go when it is the most safe time to go. Either someone comes or you go but let people you trust know the things.
Good luck. I wish you all the best and I'm glad you and your child are going to be free.
It's going to be scary but hang in there!!❤

Just send your update.
Hope you are ok

Well done OP

Read the last rule of the CV list op..
You were def in the right to leave..

Well done giving your dad short shrift. Your parents need to realise they have hugely failed you.

Enjoy that sense of freedom. It will give you the strength to stay away. Your whole life can be that free if you take it back.

Well done. Dont engage with exh. It s over. After lockdown you can consider when and how to arrange contact. No rush.

Just wanted to say well done. Can not believe your mother ! But so glad you have a supportive sister

Well done op. Stay strong and give your DD a big cuddle. Big shout out to your DSis. for you both.

W3ll done!!! Normally the police can help you gain save access to your house. Try and ring them to organise.

I'd give very little info to your parents. First, don't give them 'ammo' to try and convince you to go back. Second, chances are anything you tell them will be relayed to the Prick.

You have done the right thing. God bless your sister, she's a star. So are you.

Now, try to organize your thoughts and make arrangements to see a solicitor.

Have your parents called your sister? I hope she's given them an earful

Thinking about you today, lovemenomore.

I really feel for you because you had seemed confident early in the thread that your parents would help you. Have they let you down like this before?

I could understand if they panicked about the ‘lockdown’ circumstances but that doesn’t explain the betrayal of contacting your H.

Is your Dad trying to reach out?

I would send him a calm factual message telling him that you could not keep your Dd in a house with a man who was drunk from lunchtime every day and calling you a slag all day every day while you dared not speak in fear of worse. And whilst you understand any qualms they may have about isolation they have betrayed you and not been in your side as parents in contacting him, and this has added to your distress.

Do contact WA and Shelter. It is brilliant that your DSis has welcomed you in, but with that degree of crowding it won’t be sustainable for too long. Catch your breath and seek advice for a longer term solution so that you never feel pressure to return to Ex.

Wishing you luck and strength!

Unfortunately some people can't bear the thought of their lives being disrupted and it sounds like your DP are like this.

They'd rather you stay with him because it's all a neat little package and you leaving him has upset their little world.

What benefits them by you staying with him?