Can I leave 'D'H to go to my parents?

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Hi all,

I need to leave my abusive husband and go to my parents with our DD?

He's more mentally abusive and emotional than physical - although he was last year. He's a very heavy drinker and he is insanely jealous and controlling.

It's a very long story to tell all on here but I need to go.

Can I go to my parents - would that be allowed considering Covid etc?!

I'm so sorry that your mum isn't supportive. Glad you are safe with your sister. Please don't go back

How absolutely appalling that your mum is not supporting you! I’m so sorry for what you’re going through and I’m so glad you left. Stick to your guns- you are right.

Well golden boy can wipe her arse in her dotage op. No way would I ever forgive her.
Glad your dsis has come good for you.

Oh no. I am so sorry your mother didn't support you but very glad your sister did. Stay away.

So sorry to hear about your Mum but glad you are safe at your sisters.

WELL DONE on not being put off by your mum's unhelpful (mildest term) attitude, and persisting on to get help from your sister. I'm so pleased you've got out and feeling safe. Do tell the police what you've done, if you haven't already, so they can be aware in case he does turn up at your sister's.

Tell me what you will do today that you couldn't normally do for fear of your H.

You've done the best thing getting out of there. Your safe now.

You don't need your mum. You've got this girl.

All the absolute very best for you and your LG xx

Glad you are safe OP 💐

Stay safe, stay away from him. When the lockdown etc is over you will have the chance to get yourself sorted. So sorry to hear about your Mums attitude but pleased you have your sister to give you the support you need.

Contact women's aid through the live chat on their website, they will be able to tell you where there is space in refuge. I was able to go into refuge the day I contacted them.

I’m sorry you mum is being like this OP. My mother and sister were exactly the same when I left abusive alcoholic XH. I’m glad to hear your sister has your back.Please stay strong and stay away from him. It might disrupt your DD’s life in the short term, but living with an abusive alcoholic will screw her life up until the day she dies. I have had to do a lot of work with my DS on getting over the damage his father has done to him. It’s been a difficult road at times, and I’ve had to do lots of work on myself as well, but he’s 12, I’m 38, and we’ve finally got him out of our lives for good.

Good luck, and huge well done for getting out of there. Now stay out.

So pleased you’re safe. Actions like your mothers is how some poor women don’t get away and end up dead. Please stay safe at your sisters and do log it with the police.

I'm sorry your mum is a non-supportive bitch. ignore her.

I'm glad your sister is smarter than that. Stay safe.

At least your are safe.

Wow! Your mUm is a right cow! Sorry but your own kids should come first. Make sure you and your sister don’t give her any details to pass into your ex. Good for you for leaving... you have definitely done the right thing. Best decision of your life. Stay strong.

Oh well done, hope you can both settle in well at your sister's.

Well done you and your sister.

Now stop calling your mother, you know she’s not on your side.

Glad you’re safe, disgusting your mother is siding with your scummy DP.

Well done, you need to stay away. Never forget that his thoughts about you bear no resemblance to the truth. Alcoholic thinking is twisted thinking. I speak from experience of a drunken abusive partner. He used to call me the most awful things. They are so hurtful but are a reflection of him and you need to let them bounce off you. Don’t think of him when he’s being nice; unless he stops drinking big time that nice person won’t be back. Don’t feel sorry for him. He is an adult he should be looking after you not doing this. Has your mum changed her tune? I thought you felt they wouldn’t let you go back. At any rate- well done you have done the right thing you for and daughter. Don’t go back

Well done OP. Glad you are safe, but your mum? Wow what a fucking bitch.

So glad you got away, please don't let your mum or H talk you into going back. It takes enormous strength & courage to leave, you are stronger think you know

Wow. If my dd was called a c word and she asked me for help i would be packing her bags for her.

You are awesome. Just remember that. And you daughter will learn how to be treated because her mum showed her.

I'm sorry your mum has turned out to have feet of clay. A lot of that generation are still Preserve The Marriage At All Costs, You Have Made Your Bed Now You Must Lie In It. Well, fuck that. Find your anger, don't go back. I'm so glad your sister is made of better stuff.

Better to be crowded and safe.
Good for your sister
Go no contact with parents (who may never understand) and ex for a while .

And be ready for the crying trying to win you back so sorry you misunderstood mode

Then anger.... if he turns up at your sister call 999

I'm so pleased you got out, completely shocked at your mums reaction though. Dont go back to him, stay strong 💪🏼 x