Husband sexual group chat

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My husband was being a bit funny with his phone, so I asked to see what he was hiding. After a lot of saying I needed to calm down etc he showed me - lads chat is full of pictures of random naked women from the internet and they're all rating them who is hottest, including my husband.

I'm absolutely raging with him and he can't see why. AIBU?

P.s. we are not one of those couples who doesn't allow porn etc. but I feel like this is too far.

As soon as someone makes a point of stating they are women...twice - for some reason I straight away believe they are not actually women.

I haven't seen an awful lot of sex bias on this thread, however as men are overwhelmingly the perpetrators of sexual violence, and this is a thread about a male viewing women as objects and less than human (rating their bodies?! Oh but they are glamour models so it's fine) then I wouldn't be surprised by it.

Before people got the hang of email work policies the bloke who sat opposite me used to forward the stuff circulating amongst the men. They were grim.

Well we were debating whether the Fassbender’s cock was a prosthetic - anyone want to google and comment? In the film ‘Shame”.

For me, it would depend on the content of the chat.

There's a difference between saying 'have you seen this one?'...

And

'Ew, look at her', and openly insulting women.

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You said earlier you have no problem with porn. So if they're just sharing pics they like with each-other, fair enough. But nasty and disparaging comments would be out of order.

My DH and his infantile friends do this too. They have a WhatsApp group and it's full of porn and women and all sorts of shit. They talk about the weirdest stuff and yes, they comment on the women in the videos they send each other. DH is pretty tame with his involvement but his mates are animals.

You seem to be very interested in Michael fassbenders anatomy, ceejay.

It's coming across a bit odd now tbh.

Most of the women on MN are heterosexual parents. Who have seen penises. If I wanted to ogle a man, looking at pics of penises would be the last thing I'd do. Same for most women I'd imagine. Especially as most 'dick pics' that men send are, and I was taken aback to learn this, flaccid. Getting a kick out of looking at flaccid cocks I'm guessing is pretty niche indeed.

Half of humanity certainly are dick obsessed and it's not the half you think it is.

Really could not give a fuck about Michael fassbender's cock, however you really are trying hard to push it into this conversation for some reason

Mamato and bush the things I have seen shared generally involve something 'gross'...

For a lot of men it's about reinforcing some kind of sexual dominance thing, women as lesser, in a pack behaviour type way.

I have never seen imagery of men having stuff done to them etc circulating, in the same way it does with men.

Completely agree @bushhbb. I don’t think there is much wrong in looking at - and judging people’s bodies. We all do it - but offensive, hurtful, degrading is wrong.

If you see it - you’ll be obsessed too!!!!

'. I don’t think there is much wrong in looking at - and judging people’s bodies.'

And men do it to girls from about age 12 or 13 on the street...

The denial of the context and prevalence around this behaviour with men and women is bizarre.

We can't actually help looking at and judging people's bodies. It's not a conscious thing a lot of the time.

Nasty and degrading comments are different though, no need or excuse for that behaviour.

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'If you see it - you’ll be obsessed too!!!!'

No I'm not googling but a dick is a dick is s dick.

I am good at spotting them in other circs as well...

Mamato whenever I've been privy to content shared by men it's pretty much always been nasty and degrading.

Page 3 type stuff doesn't cut it any more.

@BeetrootRocks 10 or 11 if you're unlucky enough to be an early developer... Its disgusting.

And no, ceejay, because I'm not pathetic enough to be 'obsessed with someone's genitals' how bizarre...

Go on...you’ll be AMAZED

Just a quick peek...

Oh MYYY. I’m just speechless.

Sorry that was to Weary’s post - not Fassbender’s cock...

Grim, where are his standards. Something a 15-year old would do, as a PP said he's treating women like pieces of meat. Is this as far as his demeaning behaviour towards women goes? Where are his soft-and-hard limits?

There is such a thing as ‘toxic femininity’ as well - where we assume that we are so gentle, pure and virtuous

Well, yes, as "Female Chauvinist Pigs" by Ariel Levy details in parts, it's an interesting read. This isn't it, imo.

Why are people even talking about the comparison of women doing this?? What has that got to do with ANYTHING. This is a post from a woman who has found out her husband is doing it and she does not like it. I think we can firmly assume she isn't partaking in this behaviour herself so no clue at all why people are bringing women into this.
Whether you're one of the 'cool girls' who probably goes to lapdancing clubs with her blokes or not, the OP finds this offensive.
Also I think the real issue here is that the OP's husband is hiding it. If he's not doing anything wrong, why hide it??

I wouldn't choose to be with someone who classed that as a constructive use of time and energy, simply because I would think they're a bit dim at best.

I like my men wayyy further up the evolutionary chain.

Have you had it out with him OP and is he usually a bit of a chimp or just on this occasion?