Dating Thread 187 - Love in the Time of Corona

[JeSuisPrest]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@TigerDater TBH cant imagine why a 37 year old would be vaguely interested in a 42 year old hence I was happily joking around but I'm certainly tempted!

@eesha my previous fb was ten years my junior and kindly explained it “you’re wonderfully dirty, know what you want and won’t be pestering me for a relationship or settling down” - unlike the ladies younger than himself. He only went out with hot women in their 40s.

Eesha a good friend of mine is 42 and is in a relationship with a 37yr old. They met on POF a year ago.
It depends on the person. I've found the younger men to be more interesting, know how to have a conversation and quite often more mature than the late 40s/early 50s group.

Five years is nothing really eesha, I wouldn’t give it a moment’s thought. I’ve only noticed the age difference once, when Mr GN hadn’t heard of one of my favourite childhood shows.

My bf is 4 years younger than me @eesha I see us as the same age.

I have to say, if anyone uses “lol” in messages I am turned off straight away.

Mr Ad is 6 years older than me, which seems to work out well. Mr SAS was 9 years older and that was also fine.
I dated someone 3 years younger and that didn’t work but I think mostly because he didn’t have children, rather then the age thing. He just didn’t ‘get’ what having kids meant and I felt him to be much younger then me than he was in terms of lifestyle differences. Hence why I go for slightly older guys I guess.

@TigerDater @Notcoolmum it's very early in chat but I made it really clear on Fab that I was just there out of curiosity and not interested in meeting people. I just didn't think I'd be vaguely tempted but I'm certainly finding people are more upfront which is refreshing.

That’s great eesha, just have fun. It’s what we all need.

So it was hard seeing my bf. He brought the shopping. We had a socially distant brew in my garden, he left. Wobbly today.

Aww @Notcoolmum you really are doing the right thing keeping both your families safe.

I know a virtual hug is the exact opposite of what you need right now @Notcoolmum, but have one from me anyway 💐

@SimonJT how is the homo-alono gang now it’s allowed out? I hope the cast removal went ok, not a pleasant experience for anyone when the patient is so young.

Thanks Jane and tiger.

Luke this isn't a dating site.

Hey all I hope you are all ok
I am still kind of isolating and recovering sorry not been around much!

Hey everyone.

Hows everyone doing? Stay safe and healthy dating gang

Simon your posts do make me laugh. If I start ironing then I know the world will end!

I seem to have picked up from lovely irons. The front runners are:

Mr Painter who I am speaking to regular on the phone, we are building a nice friendship but there is zero flirting.

Mr Driver who I really like. He is so funny and its all very easy. We are doing a virtual date tonight. Im trying to decide what to wear. it will be after the kids are in bed by which point i am usually in PJs

its been a week since I finally blocked Mr Big. Im doing OK. Sometimes i realise a few hours have passed and I have not even thought about him.

Please dont mix households. It is hard for everyone but its a sacrifice we have to make. My Ex has had a GF for over a year. He has not seen her for 2 weeks so we can continue contact with our children. This is not the time to be seeing irons/ boyfriends/ girlfriends. If its meant to be surely it can be maintained by facetime/ phone. Its testing times peeps but if everyone makes up there own rules this will go on and on and on.

Lastly thank you to all the key workers who are putting themselves at risk and missing their families to keep the country going.

@Menora I hope you're beginning to feel better. @Marlboroandmalbec34 I hope having a few irons is helping.

@Eesha Mr BC is 7 years younger than me - it's not an issue at all!

Morning folks, how are we all getting along? I am finding it so hard to concentrate on anything. Still working but have for wrestle my mind under control some days.

Can't even keep up momentum with my irons, I sort of get to a lull in conversation and think, ah I won't meet you, what's the point? Mr Media, my friendzoned date from Christmas, has been messaging a lot and his dad is critically ill in ICU with Coronavirus. Mr Science is working hard on this as in a related profession and messages sporadically, I try to cheer him up with nonsense... and Mr Beard is still around but the tone of our messaging has changed from filthy to flirty to friends over the last 1.5 weeks. I like him on all 3 levels but it doesn't bode well for continuing and he has a lot of stress atm, am now resigned to losing him and starting again with OLD from scratch if/when this is over and can't say it appeals ... In the meantime facetime with friends, exercise and gin are filling the time in the long evenings. Hope you are all doing ok xxx

Morning everyone
Exercising to distract me from raiding the fridge, waiting to hear if I'll be recalled to work, having lots of baths, watching lots of Netflix .... Groundhog Day ....

I think we all need to distinguish between what is valid keeping in touch and what is a waste of time.
Irons you’ve not heard from for months that are reaching out now = probably bored and/or have no friends.

Don’t let people who don’t matter suck your time and energy.

Fair point @Meeeh but I do have rather more time these days Mr Media is actually quite a good friend now. A lot of old irons are popping up though, you're right. I think we're all a bit bored, even with friends... I have Facetimed different groups of friends every night but it's still only an hour or two...

Hi All
In queue to get into Aldi so finally have time to message! I'm run ragged at the mo. Little one is being awkward and needs constant entertainment/tasks and big one stropping so that's my evenings gone as I'm trying to give her the quality time she can't get when the little one is around... and still they send online lectures and assignments. Which is good as I need to get through this year but...

Re swapping kids over. We are living in two locations, swapping kids/adults around our flats as necessary. None of us are seeing anyone else though so it's fine. ExH lives less than 5 mins walk away. Not sure how that will work once we get symptoms and can't leave the house but will cross that one when we get there. Kids are getting the odd bike ride, I'm getting a run/walk every day.

I've not managed a single phone chat/zoom etc as not had time. I'm missing conversation. ExH and I are getting on really well though I guess as we're the only people either of us are talking to...

Happy anniversary @BatshitCrazyWoman I haven't forgotten you!

@JeSuisPrest glad about you and Mr C. And also glad you come back here to vent...

5 years age gap is not even a thing. Neither is 10 in my book but all my friends are 10 years younger as I had my babies very late. I'm not in the same life situation as many my age.

@SimonJT I'm also envious of your neighbours. We have a few celebs where I am but they're definitely D list and theAtre dahling...

I'm half considering a bit of FAB but then if I haven't got time to FaceTime my friends....

Sounds like everyone is hanging in there. @Dancerinthemoonlight glad you're feeling loved again.

I'm actually ok too. I have an income and I'm coping without the adult company better than expected!

I’m managing ok - work is insane so very distracting 😂

I have planted 4 trays of seeds which would make 140 individual pits. Not sure if they will all germinate but if they do I will have more strawberries and veg than I know what to do with.
I'm just taking it 1 day at a time. Trying to keep to some sort of schedule. I presume Mr Armys work has picked back up so not hearing from him much but I'm okay with that. If it is meant to last then it will last through this. Trying not to worry about things I can't control

Today I’ve made Jelly, lemon drizzle cake and a chilli so they’re gonna have to roll me out of here when lockdown is over.

I am struggling to run due to an injury but trying to at least walk every day to do a little damage limitation...

I got word I'm back at work next week although just 2 days so that's something.
Will be good to see my colleagues ... from a 2m distance! And to have some semblance of routine and normality.
Mr Farmer has been quiet today but I'm very much of the mindset it will be a miracle if any irons last 12 weeks of distancing so what will be will be 🤷🏻‍♀️