Dating Thread 187 - Love in the Time of Corona

[JeSuisPrest]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

I'm having a better day today, I think the "routine" of a week day helps

Nothing at all to do with the fact my iron called me earlier and we had a lovely chat ...

Just need to take it one day at a time and if your Iron is still there at the end then hallelujah! If not, we'll it was never going to work out anyway ...

@Jane1978xx Most of our beer is gone, but I do have a litre of vodka in the freezer. MrNN is only washing what he considers the ‘important bits’ do not approve.

@HairyArsedMan I’m so sorry about your dog.

@Dancerinthemoonlight I’m was aiming to get to 100kg, with equipment I have bought well money wasted I may be able to stay on track, I only have 4kg to go. I have a frame coming tomorrow so I can get the bike out, MrNN may be able to do that as well. He’s been attempting to do the JW workouts in the morning but he just falls over, so doesn’t have the desired effect! If you’re trying to lose body fat don’t forget to take your measurements as well (waist and thigh).

I hope we’ve all had a very exciting Monday, servers for work are down so I couldn’t work today, what a shame...

I am so sorry about my gag @SimonJT. It wasn't as good as homo-alono that's for sure

I chose to go to an M&S Simply Food on Saturday (as I log on for work at 8.45 and off at 5 so can't go during a week day). I went at 9 am and they were doing one in and one out, so not many in there. There were a couple discussing which loaf to buy for five minutes, standing in front of the bread, which caused a another mini queue in the store - they were oblivious 😕

I signed up for an online Pilates thing quite a while ago which has come into its own now! 'Proper' Pilates like my (very expensive) classes used to be. So I do that, plus weights and then a few dance-y cardio things for fun. I walk a lot for work and need to be fit enough to do that when we (eventually) go back!

Missing Mr BC ....

A few things to note:

1. asymptomatic people may be carriers, but are much less infectious than those with symptoms.

2. the 7/14 day quarantine rules make sense. If you have no symptoms and meet someone without symptoms, and subsequently self-isolate for 7 days on your own, you are extremely unlikely to infect anyone after that.

3. From a purely risk-related perspective, Y would be doing the better thing living by himself than with his vulnerable mother. Since I am not vulnerable and not living with vulnerable people, he would also be doing the better thing meeting me (with 7 day isolation intervals) than staying with his mother.

In practice, btw, he continued (and would continue) to care for his mother by shopping for her, remote contact, speaking through her window etc even during periods of self-isolation, so he is not exactly abandoning her.

Rules work best when they applied with common sense.

@TIF2 If you haven't already, why don't you put your post on the dedicated CV board as well, just to get a really well balanced opinion if you don't like what the majority of us are saying 🤷🏻‍♀️

The rules are very clear. DO NOT MIX HOUSEHOLDS even if you are desperate for shag

I am now exercising 2 hours a day and have lost 6lb in a week

Am also having filthy online sex with strangers from POF - don't judge me!

I miss Mr Beard so much it is breaking my heart so this is all displacement activity

Also does anyone else have an issue with the clock on their phone being wrong?

@SimonJT thank you for the tip about measurement aswell. I had aimed to be 65kg by 2nd may but not going to reach it now as have been yo-yoing. I'm currently 78.2kg so if I lose 1kg per week then I will be 74.4kg by then. Then I will just keep going until I reach my goal. I did get down to 70kg last year but that was the heartbreak diet and I put on weight when I started eating properly.

Heard from Mr Army twice already today. Not even 2 word texts either so I'm very happy about that. Did send an apology last night if I seemed needy over the weekend and said that I appreciated his messages. He didn't acknowledge it but there has been a positive shift in contact so it's all looking good.

I've been doing the JW workouts too, they're helping to give me a bit of routine and I wouldn't mind toning up a bit. It's difficult not seeing irons/partners but it really is for the best just now. I've tried to justify it to myself as I'm desperate to see MrC properly, we're having a bit of a rocky patch, but it simply can't be done without unnecessary risk. We'll either make it or we won't. I like to daydream about what we'll do when the lock down lifts, it helps me to think of future rather than day to day, and I genuinely hope we make it. Happy anniversary bats

I am now exercising 2 hours a day and have lost 6lb in a week. Am also having filthy online sex with strangers from POF - don't judge me!

No judgments here, that made me laugh.

Well done on the exercise and weight loss. That is a great result. I weighed myself this morning and am 70kg, up from comfort eating the last few weeks.

I've decided to eat healthier and wont be getting in any junk food during lockdown as I will continue to eat out of boredom. My goal is 66kg. I'm not really one for exercise, although I generally walk a lot , but going to try and find some low impact cardio classes online.

@JeSuisPrest: There is no rule that says 'Do not mix households'. There is a rule that says 'Do not go back and forth between different households', which makes perfect sense and I fully support. If the 'household' contains one (isolated) person only and is 'mixing' with only one other household, is it obviously the same as living with that other household.

I know everyone is worried, but please let us not follow rules blindly without using common sense.

Made me laugh everyone thinking Hairy's dog had died 😂

Just dropped son back to my ex again, had a lovely 3 days having him here and somebody to talk to at last. Back to me and the dog again now though 🙄

I'll be back on the rowing machine again tomorrow, it's been gathering dust for almost 3 weeks now, and whilst I didnt eat much while I was ill I've more than made up for it in the last week! And I'm hoping Tesco's don't send the same person for my alcohol food delivery. It's bad enough putting the recycling out 🙈

Oh and just as a tip if anyone else uses Tesco's for home deliveries, keep checking the website if you're struggling to get a slot. There hadn't been any available to me for a few days now, but I checked this morning and there were a handful available for tomorrow so I grabbed one of those.

Haven't been tempted to go back on the apps yet, think this enforced break will probably do me good.

@JeSuisPrest glad the split didn't last long, not that I really thought it would 👍😂 Fingers crossed for you both.

Hey all. Love the online filthy sex idea. We all need a morale boost in these tough times. I too am doing wicks in the morning with ds ... starts the day nicely. Hearing from mr Ducati every day and chatting alot...about what we will do when this is over. Hard to stay focused on the over part though...

Turn the TV on, the adverts clearly say not to visit other households, including friends and family.

This is exactly why we as a country are now having to fine people.

@TIF2 but neither of you are isolated households , he has a mother to go back to and you have a daughter 🤦‍♀️. If everyone thought like you the virus would spread everywhere.

@tif2 you aren't meant to be going backwards and forwards to others houses. I know it's hard to be separated from your iron/boyfriend/partner but if everyone followed the rules the amount of time that they would be in place would be shorter.

I really wish I could share a picture of Mr Army and just how exhausted he looks. That's without the army having fully stepped in yet. They are doing so much prep and coordination behind the scenes at moment. Maybe that would make the people do want to spin the rules to suit them realise just how much of a toll it is taking in the key/front line workers.

@TIF2 You stick it to the man if it makes you feel better ✊ What do those pesky scientists that have been studying this shit for years know anyway, bend those rules so they suit your circumstances. We get it, it's tough - some of us have been seeing people for ages and aren't seeing them now because you know when people harp on about "everyone doing their bit", this is what they mean. The sucking it up and not being happy bit, because you miss your family, friends and lover(s) but you don't see them because that's the best thing for everyone in the long run.

Fuck anyone else, let's hope you, your daughter, your lodger or your man friend don't have any underlying conditions that haven't come to light yet, because CV will most certainly let you know about that heart issue you didn't know you had. Ask the supposedly healthy, young fit people that have died of CV already. Oh no you can't can you? They're dead.

EchoElephant yeah I understand that. So are there many people still online then? How are you getting on? I can’t help how long any chats will continue for, say forever example if this social distancing goes until until day mid-June earliest 🤔 I came off anyway two weeks before the virus stuff kicked off so I think this is just stoping any knee jerk reaction to go back on out of boredom! 🥱🤣 x

My v good friend is a nurse on a cv ward. She’s Living in a hotel and she won’t see her partner, kids or parents for months. Imagine how she feels. Missing out on a shag for a few months Is nothing 🤷🏼‍♀️

Sorry - this is not about motivation, this is about common sense. Everyone feels like they have the moral high ground and in the process we lose our common sense.

If anyone can explain why and how what I proposed in any way endangers anyone's health or life I will happily concede and retreat. The scientific evidence of how this virus spreads simply does not support the literal interpretation of these rules.

And this is why we will be in a longer lockdown.

I work in pharmacy and am shocked when I see so many people and their attitude towards this. There people walking around with symptoms and waiting on tests and totally ignoring the self isolation requirement. I'd love to see my partner for a hug after having what I can only describe as pure hell of days in work . I never been more mentally or physically exhausted. I'd love to visit my mam and dad but I can't. Why not because even though I've no symptoms and am thankfully healthy there's a risk I could have it as I'm dealing with sick people daily. I can't hug my kids as I'm afraid of passing something on. Fair enough I've more risk than someone who's not out mixing but I've no choice but to work. If everyone plays their part it will go away quicker if not the longer this will go on.

@TIF2 looking at your proposed scenario from a different perspective, I think you'd struggle to convince anybody that your suggestion has no more risk attached to it than both of you staying put.

@TIF2 are you a troll really ??? You go and meet this man and go home to your daughter potentially with the virus . Why do that

chocolate I’m so full of admiration for you, working in a pharmacy. And for staff in supermarkets. They all look so tired and terrified yet they carry on. It’s not only frontline staff who are putting themselves out there.

tif, seriously, just keep it in your pants. That’s what all the rest of us are doing, and that’s the point - one set of rules for everyone.