Fallen in love with a married man

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It was meant to be just sex but after 10 months i love him

Im curious as to why you choose to build a relationship with a married man? Why would you believe that "just sex" works?

I'm sorry you have fulling in love, I doubt very much he'll want a relationship. Why would you want one?
Please, just leave and get yourself out of the situation because I would believe your heart will be broken- is he worth it?

Perhaps she knows he's cheating and doesn't want to catch his STIs?

Please try to get yourself out of this situation although I’m sure that’s easier said than done. You deserve a lot better and it never ends well.

Not something to be proud of . Although you are single , you may feel no loyalty to anyone else and justify your behaviour.

Even if he did leave his wife , you will always be in your eyes the ow.

Mistress becomes wife . Will this be your truth when he starts getting his thrills elsewhere ?

At least you will know the signs of his infidelity I suppose .

Sorry no shits given about you. But I do feel for his wife and any children if they have them.

Should I tell him or just block him

Ffs. Block him. Everywhere. Delete his number, delete social media. No body is that great that you can’t stay away.

Easy way to cut contact is to tell him you are madly in love and need him to leave his wife, right now, as you want to have his babies
He will run a mile

This isn't really the best site for the support you want so I am questioning your motives a little

*Sexless is her choice.
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Is that the bullshit he's feeding you? Are you that gullible that you actually believe that? Block him and go and find someone who is free and available. Stop helping someone hurt their wife and kids.

I think you should tell her

"Help" to stay married could involve couples counselling, lifestyle changes, etc. It never, ever involves an affair, unless both parties are fully aware and in agreement.

He is a liar, and will be lying to you. As I asked before, what do you love about him? What is special about him? How does he enhance your life?

How can you love someone you know considers you second best to his wife, a dirty little secret? How is that an attractive trait? How could you be happy in a proper relationship with him knowing that there will be a vacancy for a new mistress? If he can do it to his wife he can do it to his girlfriend!

Why should I tell her it would hurt her

Should I tell him or just block him

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His wife not knowing is what helps him stay married, aka having his cake and eating it.

Tell HER, don’t tell him you’ve done so. Then block him, woman up and don’t have further contact: really not that hard.

Why should I tell her it would hurt her

But you've already had an in-depth conversation with her where she said she was happy in a sexless marriage and it was by her own choice.

Don't believe this is real, sorry.

He has already hurt her badly, whether or not she finds out.

With the information she will be in a much better position to take decisions about her and her DCs’ (if they have any) lives.

You’ve made some bad choices up til now but you can stop. Cut contact, block him and work on yourself. You say you are single? Why don’t you think you deserve a man who wants just you? He’s a bad man, but you don’t have to be a bad person too. You can stop, walk away and not do this any more. Good luck. His poor wife, just keep thinking about her.

How would you feel if it was your partner was cheating? Wouldn't you want to know so you could make an informed decision, however painful that might be? She has wasted however long they have been married in a relationship with a nasty cheat. She deserves to know so she doesn't have to waste any more of her life. I can't believe that you would prefer not to know in her position?

I suppose at the start I did not want a relationship just sex

Tell him it’s over and then block. Then write a list of why you’re worth a real relationship, commitment and love.

You must have been either incredibly lonely with no self worth or incredibly naive to have ended up in this position. But you deserve a damn sight better than this, and he doesn’t deserve either you or his wife.

How would you feel if it was your partner was cheating?

She wouldn't care as she thinks cheating is acceptable.

Bollocks

What if u are shagging my husband. Just thought it could be easily mine