Ex "needs to talk to me later"

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And I feel so sick. Just after a bit of company.

Have you got dc together?

do you want him back ?

Any idea what it will be about, we are here to listen and help if we can.

What were the circumstances for breaking up?

Just cos he wants to doesnt mean you have to.

The obvious answer here is -'Why? About what?'

If he refuses and says he'll tell you later, you answer:

'No thanks. Not up for silly games. Either tell me what's so important, or I won't be meeting with you.'

No kids. I'm still in love with him. He's got a new girlfriend.

I really don't know what it could be. Unless he wants to totally cut contact.

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Thank you. I've told myself this. I won't be able to sleep if I don't find out what he wants. I probably won't be able to sleep anyway. I've given him a convenient time to call.

How long have you been split? How long has he been with the new GF? How often are you in contact now that you're not together?

Is he just going to call and discuss whatever it is over the phone or are you meeting face to face. If he has a new gf maybe it's something to do with that relationship. Do you think it would be best to cut contact with him anyway if you can, don't hurt yourself over someone who has moved on to a new relationship. Is there any reason you need to stay in touch with him in the future, you don't have dc, do you have property together or anything like that.

Girlfriend pregnant or they're getting married? Not sure why he'd need to talk with you about it though, unless you're still close friends and he's aware you'll be hurt.

I can't see any reason why he would need to speak to you in person if you are split up and he has a new girlfrind.

Why/how/when did the relationship end? And why are you still in contact anyway? Are you normally one for tormenting yourself?

Over the phone. We don't live close to each other. We probably message weekly, we work in related fields so it's largely work stuff that's amused us...

I know I could cut contact but when we I think about it I get a weird level of anxiety. I guess I'll be ready one day.

It will be a real letdown . Loving the drama of it all . Get on enjoying your day x

@user14366425683113 that made me laugh to myself. I know. I can't help it. I don't know how to stop thinking about him. It's agony.

@Starlight456 hope so. Thank you. Going to go and fill the car up for excitement!!

Why are you still in contact with him?

I think he's purposely messing with your head by organising a time to call. He could have just called you and Ted you without all the drama, whatever it is.

Told you not Ted you!

Cut contact until it doesn't hurt. Don't go back because you're lonely. Make new friends. It will get better.

OP he's messing with you leaving you dangling just in case.

My advice would be to hear him out and then tell him you want no further contact. You'll never get to move on with your life while still in contact with him.
If he felt the same about you as you do about him he wouldn't have a new girlfriend

I would text him and say sorry but you are going out later so won't be in for his call and that you'll give him a ring sometime and leave it at that. He is your ex, he has a new gf, try and be strong and let him go.

wow.. clean break OP.. personally I'd have said NO to 'we need to talk later'... he is not the boss of your life... shut this door for your own sanity.. 🌺

Thank you all for being so kind. I'm just having a little cry.

Can I see a counsellor about this sort of thing?

Are you young OP e.g mid 20s? Maybe he won’t be getting married/ engaged. Have you been in contact after the split? On the other hand, if he does want you back, do you really want to take someone back who got someone else so soon?