Ex "needs to talk to me later"

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And I feel so sick. Just after a bit of company.

I haven't done any of those things though. I think I'm pissed off now because we were on "good terms" and now he thinks I'm trolling him, I didn't want to be the "villain" in this. Gah. Anyway.

I'm going to block him. Thank you.

How long were you together OP? Why did it end?

If you don't mind me asking

@lifegoes I've sent you a dm. Don't want to write my relationship resume on here...

I suspect his new gf has looked at your account too. Do you need an insta account or could you just try and delete it.

I could but it's such a good distraction for me. I'll think about it.

There are alternaive sites. Maybe something you are interested in as a hobby, animals, volunteer sites.

I sound like a sad, washed up Miss Haversham. Fuck me. How did it get to this.

I've applied for school governor vacancies so hopefully that will give me something. I've taken up running again, lost a stone. Trying to stay away from wine because, although it helps me sleep, it's not a positive influence on my life!!

How did I get here. Jesus wept.

Ironically I'm pretty senior at work and keep being asked to give presentations on female
Leadership and the like. What a fucking con.

You're still a human being, OP. Totally different realms.

You don't. Everyone feels like that when they're heartbroken.

Are you sure you've not had one too many and accidentally liked or commented on his or his girlfriends profile? Or shared some quote you see as "inspirational" but they are looking at it differently?

You've got to let him go. And force yourself to leave him alone.

To the pp who said "this is a casual conversation" - yeah, which as it unravels sounds more and more like normal but obsessive behaviour which he shouldn't have to put up with. Complete strangers are calling him a "slime ball", a "knob", saying his life is unravelling

The fact he feels worried about what op may do to him is not right. She shouldn't be encouraged into feeling validated.

OP you say you don't want him, that the relationship wasn't good. But you don't want anyone else to have him it seems. If this was a man posting can you imagine the responses?

I genuinely haven't done any of those things crusty. I've set boundaries for myself and I've stuck to them. I don't know what he's perceived. I don't know why he's worried. I don't know

Sounds like he thinks you have for whatever reason.

Only way to take back control and stop him accusing you is to delete, block him and walk away. Don't allow him to contact you anymore

Op he's fucking with your head and trying to keep you dangling

Don't do that
Do what?
I can't tell you if I did ide have to kill you
What a prick, block the twat treat your self to a cream cake in the week
And wait for the next non existent drama from him
The point is he's pissed your not trolling him, and paranoid good

Perhaps he’s scared you’re going to reveal he’s an arse to his new squeeze.

Something isn't right here. There's no way he'd need to contact you about this unless you'd done something unacceptable. You're clearly not over him and seem a little obsessed with him tbh.

Block., delete, move on with your life and let him move on with his. I appreciate you're heartbroken, but nothing good can become of staying in contact with him.

If you block him on the phone he won't know, it'll just ring out, so there's no reason not to.

I also agree with PP's that it's good to find nice stuff to do etc. I got a couple of new things to do a week, and without them it would've been soo much harder to cut ties with my ex.

I'm doing the Freedom Programme- lovely ladies there, would recommend, and a counselling course evening class. xx

I'd restrict your instagram then he or his gf can't get access
And I'd take back control and block him. He's treated you badly and there's no future that involves him, you're worth more than that.

Why did you split up? He has basically called you to have a go at you. It’s very odd. He must think you will post something about him that his new partner will see and he’s warning you off. Sounds a seriously unpleasant person

Just because the ex is making mysterious comments it doesn't mean the OP has done anything wrong. Maybe the ex and/or the gf has had a follow request from an unknown and he thinks soap might be behind it.

I think a PP had great advice about setting yourself goals of a week at a time not contacting him. Remind yourself it's not that you can't contact him, it's because you are choosing not to contact him. That puts you back in control.

*OP, not soap!

I don't know what he's perceived. I don't know why he's worried. I don't know

He's not any of the above. He's just playing with you for dramatic effect. I said before - just get on with your life and have fun. He'll soon try to reel you back in

If you look at someone’s Insta or LinkedIn (eg his GF?) I think it comes up that you have looked.

Also on FB your name might have come up as “suggested friends” on her page if you have looked.

But I don't. I can't look at his because it's locked and I don't look at hers because I don't want to. I just don't. I'm not lying!

I'm going to do the baby steps as suggested above. Then block him. I'll get there.

I used to get accused of lying when I was a child even though I wasn't. This feels like that.

I'm not on Facebook.

Maybe they are looking at your insta account.

He seems odd to be asking.
So this is my take.
He has been messaging someone, told her it was you, promised to warn you off.
Maybe even showed some of your innocence messages to cover his arse.
Now he needs you not to talk to her incase he gets outed.