What would you think of this message?

[GirlOnIt]

No messages because A has my phone. You should be ok to message at the weekend. Don't reply to this.

He’s been messaging someone he shouldn’t...

Not good. Are you “A”?

Are you "A" and did you have his/her phone?

Sorry, posted before I'd finished. I'm A but I didn't have his phone.

I’d confront him and find out

Who was it sent to? An unknown number? Someone you've not heard of?

Sounds very dodgy indeed I’m afraid

There's no getting back from that, is there?

Why do you think he said you had his phone?

Its probably the local pub landlord and A stands for Alcoholics Anonymous. Hopefully.

It doesn't look good does it? Did you take down the number?

Why are you even asking? What possible innocent explanation can you come up?

How are things generally, as far as you are concerned? Sounds like he’s having an affair I’m afraid.

Id need to know the context here.. Was it to a friend, an unknown number an ex? Are ye having problems in the realsionship currently. If its to another woman does he have form for cheating previously. I mean if it is to another woman it doesn't sound good but you will need to confront him and ask.

This is word for word how my ex communicated to his affair OW. Except he usually deleted the messages. Then he downloaded kik.

You don't need our confirmation though OP. I'm so sorry.

First thoughts are it's not good!

You need to get the number, save it in your phone and try the following...

Go on whatsapp, change your picture to a picture of your partner then whatsapp and say you've got a second 'old phone' working. Then see what the replies are

It’s to a woman. I’ve asked him and all he’s said is “it’s not what you think”.

They always say that. It usually is exactly what you think.

But it is what you think.....

Because what other possible explanation is there??

So if its supposedly not what you think what exactly was his explanation?

And you've left it at that and returned to post here?

Tell him you want to know exactly what it is, as he's leaving you no choice but to assume the worst, therefore your relationship is over.

What was his explanation to
it not what you think?

This happened to me and my ex told me he was planning a surprise for me... weird that cos I never got my surprise

It's not what you think...so what is it then? There is no other explanation than he was telling someone when you would be out of ear shot.

Be prepared for him to now be furiously coming up with excuses such as she is helping me plan/buy a surprise for you...she is there for me to talk about my dead relative...I wanted to keep it from you until I have the test results back from the doctor but I may have cancer.

I have seen all of these over the years.

Don't be a "chump lady" for long.

He's not here, I asked him earlier about it. But all I got was the "it's not what you think" but he's not given any explanation as to what it is. He must just need time because, well it takes time to make shit up!

How did you see it?

It's 100% dodgy. Because even if there was a decent reason, e.g. a surprise for you, he'd tell you to put your mind at rest and not risk his relationship.

As it is, his main concern is himself.