What would you think of this message?

[GirlOnIt]

No messages because A has my phone. You should be ok to message at the weekend. Don't reply to this.

So sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately I can't imagine any innocent explanation for this. I really feel for you.

On his iPad @readitandwept. I'm guessing he'd forgotten it was synced to his phone.

Oh dear. Affair

I've sent a message like that, to the guy I was having an affair with...

What happens at the weekend for it to be okay for her to message then?

Yes he is having an affair and is now working on his excuse. Do you know who she is?

Clutching at straws
Do you have a significant birthday or occasion on the horizon?

It’s exactly what you think.

If it genuinely genuinely wasn't (although really, how could it not be) he would have explained immediately the confusion.

Like you say, he needs time to create a story.

I’m sorry Girl. The fact that he just left you dangling and unsettled speaks volumes.

Did you reunite with your Ex or is this someone new?

Are you back together op? It doesn’t look good. Not a guy bending over backwards to save his family after his past behaviour.

It's exactly what you think, and don't let him gaslight you with his bullshit. He must think you're really stupid.

But all I got was the "it's not what you think" but he's not given any explanation as to what it is. He must just need time because, well it takes time to make shit up!

That’s right , you got it in one . If it was innocent he’d have told you straight away what exactly was going on . The ‘ Dont reply to this ‘ shouts out cheating . I’ve never ended a text with that sentence , but then again I don’t cheat
What is it with these people 😡

He’s gone out to see her or discuss this with her over the phone. Getting their stories straight.

Sorry op.

This is almost exactly message I got from guy I was chatting to sexting but he hasn't mentioned being married!

I had a message like that from a guy I knew. There was no affair but boundaries were definitely being crossed from his side.

You know what it is. Don't take any shit.

He must think you are stupid! What an idiot he is. I think sadly it's just exactly what you think it is.

Yes we got back together @timeisnotaline.

I don't understand why he's said I'll have his phone, as I won't/don't and don't understand why he said the weekend was ok, I'm more likely to see something then.

But I know there's no completely innocent explanation. He's obviously messaging something he doesn't want me to see and no, no special birthday or anything coming up and she's not a person he'd be messaging about it if it were.

Oh cmon op, you know exactly what this is.

So you know who it is?

It's not what you think?

He must think you're stupid.

It is exactly what you think.

It'll be interesting to see what ridiculous thing he comes up with to explain it.

I should think the part about you having his phone simply means you can see his messages (i.e. via iPad)

My ex used to do this . It was because he was having an affair in work . If he's said that and you didn't have his phone . It could be he's either scared your going to find out he's messaging her or two he's enjoying having fun but can't be arsed to message her through the week

He probably told the OW you're controlling, therefore you "have his phone".

You been posting on her for quite some time about various problems in this relationship. IIRC, you have split up got back together and you are having to second guess (in your many posts) most aspects of your relationship.

I haven’t really pp to many because I assumed it would all come to a head at some point soon. I think you have or had a baby on the way. That you needed him financially more than anything. That trust was gone.

But the bottom line is that you are trying to make something work that is over and beyond repair. It’s a situation that is fertile grounds for an affair. Most likely he met someone when you split and never ended it because he didn’t think you guys were going to work. Or a version of this. In all honesty I don’t think you have been committed either and have been talking / hinting of ways out.

My advice is to accept this is over whatever the consequences. It has been for some time. Things are just getting worse, causing pain and betrayal.

Affair. Without a shadow of a doubt.