What would you think of this message?

[GirlOnIt]

No messages because A has my phone. You should be ok to message at the weekend. Don't reply to this.

I'm not terrified, I know I can do it alone if I have to. I'm just seeing first if I have to.

He'd have to see the baby here anyway and that actually really confused our Ds when we did it before. His dad would put him to bed and he'd wake up asking for him and he wouldn't be here.
I'd only do it this way if we get on and can be friends, so my children won't see either of us deprived of affection or anything like that. We do get on and really well, so long as we can just put the other stuff to one side, which I can do. It depends on him really.

He also wants to have as much time as possible with our Dc. He's very hands in, he's up through the night even though I'm breastfeeding and he's working full time. He has breakfast with Ds before he leaves in the morning. So I'm hoping him wanting you continue that, means he behaves himself with the other stuff.

Being a good dad doesn't make someone a good partner sadly.

Anyway your mind is made up. Hope it's not too horrible for you and the children as he continues his life choices.

I think as long as you are happy , and have accepted that your husband is a liar , and will very likely be messaging other women whenever he feels like it, (as he knows there will be no comeback ) then it’s all good . I would hate it , but we all deal with different things in different ways . I wish you luck

I know it seems a bit weird but it isn’t about him or years better for him. He’s been here this weekend and it’s meant I’ve managed 5 hours sleep in a block each night as he’s settled the baby, rather than the 2/3 I’d have had if not. He got up both mornings so I got a lie in and could shower and get ready in peace. I went out to meet friends for brunch yesterday and I went shopping this morning, all easy because I just left him home with the Dc. He’s even got some cleaning and ironing done while I was out and when I got back he went to do the food shop.
And ok, he’d have contact if he moved out. But he wouldn’t be here through the night, he wouldn’t be getting them up, so I’d have less sleep, no time to get myself ready and then what a few hours off while he took them out. I’d end up showering, sleeping or catching up with housework and not actually having a life.

I’m hoping being a good dad, means he’s willing to make this work for now @MyOtherProfile. We aren’t together as a couple so he can do what he wants as can I. He’s the one who’s asked that neither of us start dating so we can see if we want to try again.

We’re not married @Dontletitbeyou. He can message who he wants though, he just got to be ok with me doing the same. Right now he’s the one not wanting that.

If it doesn’t feel like it’s making things easier on me him being here, then he’ll be gone.