Boyfriend said he wished I died

[Mayjames]

Hi, this might be something or nothing but to be honest I’m slightly confused.

We are having issues anyway in our relationship but ok At the moment and in general... so we were play fighting and messing about with each other and then he randomly says he wished I would die... I just don’t get where it came from...

I straight away stepped back and asked what he said Incase I heard it wrong and he repeated it. Since then I haven’t spoke, he asked me smirking if I was going to be upset Because of it, asif it was nothing.

As I said, I’ve said nothing since and neither has he. Am I being over dramatic and what does it mean for someone to say that, especially not in an argument. I just find it weird, really weird and it has upset me, I think it’s a really strong thing to say.

Any help? I don’t know how to approach it or if I’m being too sensitive 🤨

World of no. Not normal, not something you can say ‘by accident’. Leave now.

He does not like you. (Also, he’s a total cunt).

In case you don't know the Hills are THATAWAY! >>>>>>.>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He’s testing the waters to see what you’ll put up with. If you let him get away with this, the verbal abuse will get worse and more frequent.

End it now.

Leave him. There is no coming back from a comment like that. I wouldn’t trust any adult who wished me dead.

I also don’t trust playfighting very much. It can be used as a cover for hurting someone accidentally on purpose

That’s really weird. He would be my ex by now!

Hopefully he will soon be your ex bf... Kick his sorry arse into touch !!!!

Agreed, hope you don’t live together
Dump him, he’s weird

Please end it. Please do it safely.. block him and just say its not right for you right now. Read what other hav said here. It's not ok, he is testing to usndnif yo stay you will end up frightened of him .. or dead.

Get away from him. Dont look back. Find someone who doesn't say it once, let alone twice.

he said he didn’t mean to say it
even worse, he cant control his impulses

He’s acting like I’m overreacting and As though it was nothing... but then apologising
the classic gaslighter MO:(

Fuck me, he'd be out the door so fast, the fucker would get whiplash.

He'll only get worse. This is a test to see what you'll put up with.

End it or you can expect more shittiness.

I think Freud said "There are no jokes, only the truth." He means it. Absolutely. And he wants to see how close he can get to it.
Play fighting?
Fucking warm up more like.
GET RID NOW.
Do not say another word to this fuck head. Open the door. Push I'm through it. Close the door and do not under any circumstances speak or go near this fuck head again.
He is mental

I think what you are looking for is what to actually say to him next. It goes like this "if that is how you feel then you are clearly not the man for me, I don't play or like mind games, bye"

That’s just weird. Life’s too short to stay with people who behave in such an unkind way. Particularly ones with whom you’ve been having other issues!

He didn't mean to say it?

So it is a thought he has and he accidentally said it out loud?

Surely to God you don't want to stay with someone who can think or say such things?

I mean it depends if he was joking and you were both just saying shit. Seems an odd thing to say out of the blue but if jokingly tossing insults at each other I'd just assume he was joking...

Run!

Saying it. Repeating it. Smirking. Gaslighting.

Not a nice man, at the very least. I'd have to leave.

Oh dearie me OP - run for the hills. My ex was a lovely man 'till he said something similar out of the blue, with absolutely no provocation. And from there things just got worse and worse 'till I needed help from the Women's Refuge to leave him. Seven years later I'm still single because I'm terrified of trusting a man again. Run!!

Sometimes people tell the truth without intending to. Please, OP, don't wait to find out if he means it.

He sounds a complete weirdo, totally immature and an absolute knobhead.

You're already having "issues". Just dump him and find a grown up to have a proper relationship with. You can do a lot better than him. You deserve better.

I agree with Happytoday73 - he is testing you - introducing the idea to see how you react. The fact that he is having these thoughts is a massive cause for concern. He has only now begun to express the thought but you don’t know how long he has actually been thinking it, and it is unlikely that he would be honest if you asked him, since what is has expressed is not at all pro social.

Ideation comes first, then behaviour, and you don’t know what this behaviour will be.

Even if you were to give him the benefit of doubt and believe that he ‘didn’t mean it’, this is a very disturbing thought to have in the first place, regardless of whether it slips out or not, and whether or not he let it slip by accident or deliberately to frighten you/ cause you unease. ‘Normal’ people do not have these kind of thoughts and this is an indication that something is not right.

Seemingly one-off incidents can form a very distructive pattern over time. X

well he killed the relationship stone dead didn't he?

At least, I hope he did.

That's a massive crack to try and paint over. I couldn't do it and I really hope you don't. It will only get worse!