The Happy Singleton- Part Two

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Ta-dah! Welcome to all our happily (sometimes, admittedly, less so!) single peeps! All welcome, whether your recently singled or a long-term singleton.

We've got this solo thing sorted (-ish!)

@misty9 do your thang!

@SirChing agree about FAB though worry wives have no clue. It's all silly chat though and has given me an amusing distraction from real life.

Looks like hols will be cancelled, booooo.

Wowsers, its gone very quiet on here! I hope everyone is ok?

@Eesha is that just ur holiday or is it happening everywhere?

@awakewiththebirds just my hols. I'm not a great flyer but everyone I know has cancelled their various trips so we will too. Was meant to be over easter.

@Eesha I have a family member who’s booked a trip to Barcelona in April. I don’t want them 2 go.

@awakewiththebirds i think whatever decision you make is the right for you. For me, I was ok with it but just wasn't sure if the UK would suddenly stop people coming in and then I wouldn't be able to get home. It's irrational but we were all no longer looking forward to it. In terms of the illness, I have two medic friends who aren't too concerned about it. It's just the uncertainty here which has made me rethink things.

That’s what I’m worried about @Eesha, I don’t want them to be so far away if anything happens. I’m selfishly hoping their flights are cancelled.

@awakewiththebirds I don't think Barcelona is so far but I think might be quieter as we know people nearer there. I'm sure will be ok though. I was going with kids and being an anxious flyer!!!

@Eesha fingers crossed all will be fine!.

I'm still here! @SirChing how are you feeling now? Still so exhausted?

Welcome to the new joiners. I've been quiet probably because I've had a good week on the whole. Got my lovely dc back on weds and am so loving having them at the moment. It's ironic that it took losing them for half the time to make me appreciate being a mum

I have been tempted to someone unsuitable, so I've joined tinder to try and avoid that happening...will see how long until I get bored or fed up! Hilariously, Mr ghost messaged me 'by accident' today, although I'm not sure how you accidentally WhatsApp someone whose number you've blocked... I just thought, twat. So that's good! 😂

We have a holiday to the canaries booked for 3 weeks and I don't really know what to do. Insurance will only pay out if I'm ill, otherwise I'm relying on the tour operator to refund if the country goes into lock down or they cancel the flights etc. Ds has asthma too and I am waiting to see what happens over the next week or so...

I'm crazy busy with work for the next couple of weeks until Easter so not much time to feel sorry for myself

@Misty9 Mr ghost sounds like a twat. I think all flights will be cancelled soon but that’s just my own speculation.

My son has asthma so I am quite worried and I’m due to give birth in May, I’m rly hoping things calm down by then. I know kids don’t get too ill with it but the idea of having a newborn with this going around rly scares me.

@awakewiththebirds welcome! Your ex sounds like a waste of skin on the end of a penis. What a total loser. It pisses me off that men seem to think parenting is this optional thing. If they don't want kids then put a condom on or have a vasectomy or don't have sex!

@Eesha I think you are doing the right thing in cancelling. I am thinking of rearranging my July holiday to next year. I don't want to fly and my family be unwell on a small Island which will be under pressure from its own residents health.

@misty9 hi! Your holiday in three weeks.....I couldn't possibly advise this but a friend of mine really couldn't go away close to the time she was booked to go. She scratched inside her ear a lot. It went red and swelled. A GP said she had an ear infection and therefore couldn't fly. Luckily, the insurance paid out. Not that I am remotely suggesting that you do the same.

Mr Whatsapp sounds like a knob. He didnt accidentally text you FFS. He wanted a reaction. You are on Tinder? Why bother? You can have one of mine if you want? My very sexy neighbour is still on the market. And my nice FWB may well soon be too. As I am meeting my Mr Grey for a coffee next week and seeing how the land lies. He is calling me later. Even his voice drives me insane! I feel positively ashamed of the effect he has on me.

He has reiterated that he is willing to wait for me and then go really slowly. He told me exactly how he got into kinkiness the other night which was rather a revelation. At least he wouldn't be dull in bed! I just feel a bit intimidated and have heard of one of the women he has spent time with and I am not even in her gutter, let alone her league. Part of me thinks he is full of shit. But I have known him years, met up with him etc, so I know that he is who he says he is. I just can't get my head around why he is interested in me. It's mad.

@SirChing I’m lucky that my dad and step dad are such great men, they’ve been great father figures 4 my boy. My ex is just scum, how you could leave your own child is beyond me.

Don’t put yourself down re mr grey!. We don’t see how great we are sometimes but he clearly can.

@SirChing well clearly he likes you because you are an amazing woman who is strong, independent, articulate, and amazing! Make him work for it though

Mr WhatsApp /ghost is a knob and I promptly deleted the convo so I don't have his number again.

Re holiday... I'm guessing insurance companies might be quite wise to that kind of claim by then 😂 their dad is saying to still go. Maybe I'll just sit tight and see what happens over the next week. Don't think I'll be kissing random strangers on dates mind!

Is anyone else finding it a bit hard as a singleton with all this coronavirus stuff going on? I've got no one to talk to about how much to prep, whether to go on holiday or not, the general state of the UK response etc... Although the kids are well versed via newsround at school

@Misty9 yep, I’m such a worrier and I don’t know whether what I’m doing is right in regards to my boy

Hey loves! Hiding from the internet more than usual as coronavirus madness is making my anxiety flare :( trying to get on as normal while also being cautious and I'm exhausted already.

I've lost three bookings to coronavirus concerns and am now desperately hoping I'm eligible for the govt grant so I can carry on paying studio rent if business continues to be hit :(

Am frustrated by the advice which seems to ignore many people but especially those who either live alone or are the only adult in their household.

I've not stockpiled because I always keep a ludicrous amount of food in the house, and I am debating moving all my meetings next week to online - because my mum and gran are high risk and I don't want to increase my chances of passing it onto them :(

In other news, I can highly recommend cake for breakfast. And apologise for being something of a moaning minnie today

@Misty9 you have us to talk to! We are probably all experiencing broadly similar issues around it :(

@SirChing you come up with the best insults 😂

@SirChing definitely do not think you're a tart, loving your updates! Absolutely no use on the help front though, I am off men entirely 😂

@awakewiththebirds that's lovely that your kids have such positive role models. It's just terrible when fathers can't actually be that themselves. They are spineless and selfish. So better off out of the children's lives.

And thank you re Mr Grey. He says he will do whatever it takes and will wait, but I just feel he is so out of his league. He says he loves me because I am the only women he has ever felt truly "got" him. And we are two of a kind, that's for sure. I am just so intimidated by the fact that he could do way better and has in the past.

Thank you @Misty9. I shall pay you later for those compliments 😁 I am just normal. A plump.mother from Yorkshire. That's all. But those are lovely things to say.

Good for you for deleting the conversation! He sounds a right twat.

Re the holiday, whatever you decide, don't let the money spent be a factor. A) It's already spent and B) if someone said "would you risk your life for X grand (the cost of the holiday)" the answer would be no. Just.look at it in terms of safety. Would yout insurance cover you getting stuck in a quarantine situation over there? Would you be ok if our government decided to make returnees spend 14 days in quarantine once you got back? Try to ignore the money spent. It's spent whether you go or not. It's whether you throw spending money and health after it. Hope you make the decision that's right for you xx

@undercoveraessedai Good evening! Sorry to hear about the anxiety. Have you tried making a list of everything you are anxious about and deciding whether there is anything proactive you can do about your worries? Then making a list of those and working through it?

Fingers crossed re the grant. Definitely seems a good idea to do online meetings. You won't regret doing it but you could regret not doing if the worst was to happen. And the clients will probably be relieved too.

Cake for breakfast is always good. That's why muffins were born!

And thanks re the insults. They were sadly honed over years of men!

I was totally off men too. Happy with Mr FWB. But Jesus, Mr Grey is so bloody hot. And funny. And intelligent. Its like Cheltenham Races with the fanny gallops in my knickers! But this is me - with the worst c section overhang on the planet, and none so perky tits. And him....who chatted up and snogged a very attractive singing contest judge in the ITV green room! I can't compete with that! I did mention to him jokingly about having a tummy tuck and boob lift. He said the only reason I could have one would be if I felt I had to for my own peace. In which case he would pay for it. But for any other reason nope. And not ever for him. He doesn't care. So I can only conclude he is mad. And his guide dog lies to him about women's looks!

@undercoveraessedai And never apologise for moaning. Its our raison d'etre. Or however it is spelt!

Forgot to say @Misty9 and @awakewiththebirds yes, it's hard to know what to do with the current situation. My ex gives his input but ultimately the responsibility stops with me. But then it did when we were married too which I hated. But it's hard to not have anyone to help make decisions. I tend to bounce ideas off my mum who DD spends quite a bit of time with, but it isn't the same. I think gut instinct and knowing our children better than anyone counts for a lot though, and we should trust ourselves xxx

@undercoveraessedai It’s terrifying isn’t it? And the government just aren’t thinking about everyone!.

@SirChing I know, I just don’t get why they think kids are optional. If I decided I didn’t want DS and just walked out I can bet he wouldn’t pick up the slack like I’ve had 2.

And with Mr Grey, listen to him. If he fancies u then he fancies u. I’ve had bf’s before who weren’t as congenitally attractive as other bf’s I had but I fancied them way more!. And if u fancy him as much much as u do then go for it!.

I’m glad DS isn’t in nursery yet because I’d be shitting it. I have rly bad health anxiety and just leaving the house scares me atm. I wish I had someone to tell me if I was being stupid!.

My heart has been shattered into a million pieces and I no longer know how to put it back together. My sister was severely beaten by a man she thought was her friend at her home. She has mental health issues and is a vulnerable person. I have failed to protect her again as I have many times before since we were children. Our parents abandoned us when we were 12yro and 8yro and I have been trying to keep her safe since then and failed time and again. I feel guilty and hopeless.

I am sorry for downloading here.... I’m not expecting responses. I just had to let it out somewhere as I can’t keep it in any longer

Have not been around for a while, just so busy and a shitty/low week.

@Maturewine78 I'm so sorry to hear about your sister, how dreadful. You are not hopeless or useless, we can't always be there when things happen. Does she live alone? Are you with her now?