The Happy Singleton- Part Two

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Ta-dah! Welcome to all our happily (sometimes, admittedly, less so!) single peeps! All welcome, whether your recently singled or a long-term singleton.

We've got this solo thing sorted (-ish!)

@misty9 do your thang!

Thanks @SirChing @nosleep and @shitwithsugaron
He was reported then deleted yesterday.

@IndieTara Good! He sounds like a game playing fuckwit. Lucky he showed you who he was early on.

Hello lovelies! Just when I thought spring had sprung it's been raining.

And I'm afraid that I have a confession to make to the sisterhood. And you can all berate new and tell me I'm a knob.

I've been having a real panicky week. I suffer from health anxiety in particular so not my finest time at present. But- oh god- I've been an arse. I texted ex boyf. I wanted to know that he was okay in the currently crazy world. But I've opened a can of worms... and he won't stop messaging me. I tried to back peddle and say- literally, I just wanted to know you were alright- but I don't want to meet, I don't want to chat... but the messages keep coming from him now, the "we were so good together" bollocks.

I've brought it on myself. I'm going to sit in the corner and think about what I've done...

@mildlymiffed I won't berate you. Feeling vulnerable and anxious is enough to send anyone back to a familiar place... What if you just disengage again? It sounds like he'd like to get back together? Sorry, I can't remember the history.

@nosleepp of course we understand. Look after yourself and your lovely kids.

@Upyerbum70 how was the office coffee...?

@shitwithsugaron definitely take it easy and you may well need a phased return to work. Did they not suggest that? Pm me if you want any signposting or pointers about mild traumatic brain injury but headway website is a good place to start.

@Misty9 well he was silently glued to his PC all day but a few of us still went for drinks. He bought me a soft drink and we chatted. mororbikes and cars and work stuff. Nice. Some silly WhatsApp group chat then a bit of messaging between the two of us. Think he’s shy and rusty. His wife passed away a couple of years ago.

Maybe it was the alcohol ... but He did offer to take me for a ride on the back of his motorbike. (Cue helmet joke).

Apologies all. I’ll read the thread properly tomorrow, I promise. Was just laughing about the motorbike thing. Night all

heya ladies, can I please join in?. I’m a single mummy to 3 bambino’s, my eldest is 4 and in her last year of nursery and my others are 3 and 1. Their dad (sperm donor is a better word for him) isn’t in their lives since getting his new gf pregnant. So it’s just me and my 3. I’d really love to talk to some other mummy’s who are single like me as I feel like nobody truly understands the struggle x

@shitwithsugaron Definitely sounds like a phased return would be better. Brain injuries are a Big Deal. You will be absolutely knackered. Lots of rest, healthy food and gentle exercise for you! And plenty of fluids to avoid a dehydrated brain on top of a very tired one!

@mildlymiffed you aren't a knob! You are a caring person. Sadly the ex is a typical "give an inch and he will take a mile" type by the sounds of him. It sounds like he isn't over you by a long way, and that he is rueing losing you. Good! So he should. Sadly for him, he is about to learn that wanting someone means nothing if you are a total dick to your partner. Plonker!

@Misty9 hope you are feeling a bit happier and stronger

@Upyerbum70 Oooh that sounds promising! Helmet jokes a-go go fnar fnar. The only thing is, if something happened with him and it all turned tits up, would it make working together awful? Because it's playing very close to home in that sense. If not, go for it!

@outnumberedmummy welcome! THREE kids I struggle enough with one. Their dad sounds like an absolute charmer! I'd be surprised if the GF isn't scared to death about him abandonning her child too. At least your kids are better off without the wanker, and the four of you will be a lovely little gang who all adore and look out for each other. Of course, when they are teenagers and gang up against you, you may feel like a gibbering wreck, but that's what we - and wine - are for!

@SirChing thank you honey, it can be like a zoo in my house but I wouldn’t change it for anything. From what I know about the gf she thinks she’s won because she ‘got’ my ex. I’ll need lots of wine to get through the teenage years lol, they’re little nightmares now!.

I saw some of you ladies are decorating. I haven’t done alot to my house coz my plan is to move in a few years coz we’re only in a 2 bed. But I’ve tried to make it like home, my fav room is the kids room. All 3 share but I think it’s soo cute.

Aw that is very cute indeed! And at least it's only one room to take the handle off the door when you are feeling outnumbered and want to imprison the mini troops

@SirChing the stair gate does the trick now for the younger 2. I’m dreading them learning how to
Open it

Please can I join too?! Single mum to 3, husband left last August, he wasn’t a very nice man so I know I’m better off, but having a proper blip the last few days, worrying about the future, worrying about special occasions like Easter, Xmas again as a single parent!
Slightly missing him now but I need to slap myself!!
Hope all you lovely ladies are well tonight xxx

heya @Tiredmum8 how old are your little ones?. I feel the same as you it’s so scary to think that I’ll be doing Christmas on my own with 3 bambino’s! X

Hiya, they r 15, 12 and 10
It’s so scary! I did last xmas but tbh think I was still in shock and numb so it kind of just passed by if u know what I mean,
I’m just starting to dread everything! It’s a horrible feeling xx

Hello fearsome few! Welcome to @outnumberedmummy and @Tiredmum8 you are very very welcome here. We are a group of strong women warriors!

Whilst I've fallen off the bandwagon recently in terms of contact with exboyf- I know- really really I know that it's all okay! I think we all have to remember that going back to the knobends wouldn't solve anything! They're exes for a reason. Sometimes when you look back you just remember the positives...but there was all that crap that led to the final day...

@outnumberedmummy that room is so cute!

@Tiredmum8 I get u completely, do u have family to support u? x

@mildlymiffed thank you sweet, I do love their room! x

Morning lovelies! Still not feeling well so won't be posting today. Bloody lurgy. Hugs to all and fist bumps to our newbies

@SirChing I’m sorry you aren’t feeling very well lovely. I hope you feel better soon x

@SirChing xxxx Feel better soon.

@mildlymiffed No No No! Block Block Block! xxxx

@SirChing I hop you feel better soon.

@outnumberedmummy and @Tiredmum8 welcome, I have found this tread to be a God send on many occasions as all the ladies are so supportive.

@shitwithsugaron I hope you are getting on ok with your return to work. The first few days are always the hardest, but you will soon settle into a routine.

I have done it and unfriended my ex on Facebook. I was increasingly getting annoyed with him appearing on my feed as he kept liking everything I posted. I was hoping he will give up by now as its been quiet a few months since we had any contact. It all done now and as they say 'out of sight out of mind'.
I have set up my justgiving site. However, I cannot put the link here as its linked to my Facebook account and shows my real name. @SiChing please can I join your Facebook group so I can give the link there? My initials are HF. Thank you

Hope not hop @Sirching

You can join as can any other single lady that wants to. It's The Happy Singleton. Just request and I shall let you in xx

well done u for unfriending him, it can be so hard. It took me 4eva to unfriend ex and his gf as I wanted to know what was going on and that lil bit of contact makes all the difference but I’m so much happier since unfriending him

Sorry for all the spelling mistakes on my previous posts. I was rushing to pickup my daughter from school. It feels like I’m rushing around everywhere these days. It’s been overwhelming lately to be the sole adult providing for my two children. I’m sorry to be talking poor me again... I’ve been struggling a little these last few days.

@SirChing I’ve requested to join the fb group.

@outnumberedmummy thank you for affirming I did the right thing. I was feeling like I did terrible thing unfriending him. I have a habit of overthinking and guilt tripping myself .