Afternoon everyone!
@nosleepp go for it re stopping contact with the kids. Ultimately then, if he does go to court, it will all be set out legally when he gets to see them, so you won't have lost anything but you will have a court order to back you up. And you wouldn't be stopping contact out of malice, but out of protecting your kids and not wanting them messed about. I doubt he would actually bother to go go court. And if he did it wouldn't be for aaaaaages, which will make him look an even bigger arsehole to the judge.
He is an arsehole for being like that about your DS. Just make damn sure you put in a claim for child maintenance from him. Contact and that are separate and he still has to pay even if he doesn't see them.
My Mum and dad split when I was 10 months. And he arsed my mum around about seeing me. In the end she had to stop it. Thank God she did. Keeping that loser out of my life is a huge favour she did me.
@Misty9 Yep, ex MH nurse. Also professional hypocrite 
It sounds very much like grief that you are describing. And that it's all built up over time and is looking for a way out now. It does get easier re the kids. I now enjoy my time sans DD. I think maybe them not being there highlights feeling mentally alone though. Whereas it's harder to feel mentally alone with kids physically there. You will get through this. Your brain and body needs to feel it's feelings and validate them before it can move on. I know you know this but i also know it's easier to see from the outside in.
I can empathise with the new partner when he was the one who withdrew the intimacy thing. Same here. I suppose I just think "thank fuck he isn't my problem" now. Although I did accidentally friend request his lass on Facebook earlier. I told him abd he pissed himself laughing. I also messaged her to apologise. She sounds like a good egg though so will probably laugh.
Definitely go and see Military Wives. If I was near I would come with you if I also didn't feel like death.
@mildlymiffed oh no, hope the right chest feels better soon. You haven't got a temperature or anything too have you? Please take care of yourself and if it feels worse ring 111. Better to be safe than sorry. It probably is anxiety in which case it will ease soon. Apparently it's impossible for the body to remain in its highest anxiety state for more than 20 mins. There's a bit of crap trivia for you. God knows how they worked that out? Scared the shit out of people and waited to see how long it was before their brain thought "fuck this for a game of soldiers"? Any idea what would be behind the anxiety at the moment? Or is it generalised?
Lots of 
to all my lovelies on here, anxious and otherwise. I wish I had a wand to make everything feel ok. As I don't, you shall have to make do with 
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